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Jay15forever · Aug 13, 2007, 09:25 AM

I think that age is nothing but a number. But I don't get the reason why people think that if your 6 years younger is such a bad thing. If you love that person, is right. What Do you think?:confused:

GlindaofOz · Aug 13, 2007, 09:27 AM

Where do you live?

There are no laws against dating having there are laws against sexual contact between a 14 year old and a 19 year old. Also the mental differences between the two are immense and I cannot imagine a 19 year old has any interest in a 14 year old that is not sexual.

ScottGem · Aug 13, 2007, 09:34 AM

You want to know what I think? Since we already had this discussion very recently I suggest you read that thread.

But what I think is that a 19 year old is at a very different social and maturity level than a 14 year old. I don't think a 19 year old can really be in love with a 14 year old. I defintiely don't think a 14 yr old is mature enough to be truly in love with anyone let alone a 19 year old.

I agree with you that age is just a number and that 6 years shouldn't matter and it doesn't with older people. There is nothing wrong with 26 and 20 or 36 and 30. But a 19 yr old is considered an adult and a 14 yr old is still a child. And there is something very wrong with an adult infatuated with a child. I can't imagine what attraction a 14 yr old would hold for a 19 yor old other than physical. And if there is physical contact, then its illegal.

If there is truly love between these two, then it can wait a few more years. At 16 and 21, the maturity gap is lessed. At 18 and 23, they are both adults and can make their own decisions.

BMI · Aug 13, 2007, 09:34 AM

Originally Posted by Jay15forever

I think that age is nothing but a number. But I dont get the reason why people think that if your 6 years younger is such a bad thing. If you love that person, is right. What Do you think?:confused:

I'm new so my advice may not count as much but... HELL NO! Age isn't so obvious when your 50 and she's 42, but 14 and 19 is not socially acceptable. At 19 your pretty much an adult, at 14 u are just barely a teenager, parents, friends and the like would never condone it. SORRY, I know its not what u may have wanted to hear:(

xxmissconfusedxx · Aug 13, 2007, 09:36 AM

What do your parents say about it

GlindaofOz · Aug 13, 2007, 09:38 AM

Originally Posted by xxmissconfusedxx

I agree with glenda do what your heart feels but don't let him take advantage of you. I personaly do not agree with it but thats you

That is NOT what I was saying. I do not agree with that sort of dating at all. Do not lump me into that sort of thought. I think NO. I think her parents would have that 19 year old thrown into jail.

happylady123 · Aug 13, 2007, 09:39 AM

6 years is nothing if your in your 30's or 40's. But at 14 you have a lot of growing up to do. You may think you are mature and ready to "date" but you are not. You are just starting high school, and a 19 year old is in college. A 19 yr old shouldn't even want to date a 14 yr old. It's not just about a number it's about life experience and a 19yr old has a lot more and will expect more. A 12 yr old and a 6yr old are going to be very different,one is going to play with dolls and want their mommy and the 12 yr old is going to want to talk on the phone and be with their friends not with a 6 yr old, just like a 14 and 19 yr old are not alike and should not want to be with each other.

xxmissconfusedxx · Aug 13, 2007, 09:39 AM

Originally Posted by GlindaofOz

That is NOT what I was saying. I do not agree with that sort of dating at all. Do not lump me into that sort of thought. I think NO. I think her parents would have that 19 year old thrown into jail.

Ohh sorry I didn't mean that I forgot my period

ScottGem · Aug 13, 2007, 09:42 AM

Originally Posted by xxmissconfusedxx

ohh sorry i didn't mean that i forgot my period

That's part of the problem here. When a 19 yr old and a 14 yr old hook up the female often finds herself missing her period. <eg>

xxmissconfusedxx · Aug 13, 2007, 09:44 AM

Yea that is true. If he even thinks about having sex with her or vise versa the 19yr old needs to be put in jail because that is disgusting...

How do y'all feel about a 16yr old girl and a 25yr old man?

GlindaofOz · Aug 13, 2007, 09:46 AM

Originally Posted by xxmissconfusedxx

yea that is true. if he even thinks about having sex with her or vise versa the 19yr old needs to be put in jail because that is discusting.....

how do yall feel about a 16yr old girl and a 25yr old man?

That is even more disgusting. Where would a 25 year old even meet a 16 year old. After the fact that there coupling is potentially illegal as well what would they even have in common. I'm 28 and I think 18 year olds are babies. My cousin is 17 and she is a baby.

J_9 · Aug 13, 2007, 09:47 AM

Originally Posted by ScottGem

That's part of the problem here. When a 19 yr old and a 14 yr old hook up the female often finds herself missing her period. <eg>

And the 19 year old gets titled a sex offender for the rest of his life. Can't go to school functions when he has children and wants to go see a program... Can't go to his children's graduation. The list is too long.

BMI · Aug 13, 2007, 09:47 AM

25 and 16 is no more acceptable than 14-19. ACTUALLY, it may be worse, any 25 year old who thinks it is appropriate to date a 16 year old is obviously sick in the head, its perverse if u ask me.

ScottGem · Aug 13, 2007, 09:50 AM

ANY situation where an adult is attempting a romantic relationship with a minor is a potential powderkeg. The minor may be left with an unwanted pregnancy and/or the adult with a sex offender tag.

I'll reiterate that if the attraction is strong enough, it can stand to put it on hold and wait until both are adults and then revisit it.

xxmissconfusedxx · Aug 13, 2007, 09:54 AM

Yea I see where you all are coming from. But also the way I see it is you can't fight love if it happens go with the flow this 14 yr old may be in love with the 19yr old. Yes it can wait but who wants to wait?

LearningAsIGo · Aug 13, 2007, 09:55 AM

I am 6.5 years younger than my husband. The difference is, 28 and 35 are much closer in maturity than 14 and 19. When we started dating I was 20, he just turned 27 and there was a big difference to over come. Even then, we had differences of opinion, life style, friends, priorities, etc. That's speaking as ADULTS.

14 and 19 are preparing for disaster.

xxmissconfusedxx · Aug 13, 2007, 09:56 AM

The 14 yr old should not be hanging around 19 yr olds. Feelings spark and stuff happens but the 19 yr old should know better not to sleep with the child

J_9 · Aug 13, 2007, 09:56 AM

He would want it to wait if he has any morals. He would want it to wait if it meant not going to jail. He would want it to wait if he doesn't want to knock her up. She would want to wait if she is not ready to be a mother.

Do you need more reasons or is that enough?

xxmissconfusedxx · Aug 13, 2007, 09:59 AM

If you were put in this situation and you had strong feelings for a 19yr old would you wait? And who is saying the 14yr old is a girl. Lets say the child is a guy

GlindaofOz · Aug 13, 2007, 10:07 AM

It wouldn't be up to me at 14 you are a child. If her parents had any kind of brains in their head they would toss that 19 year old far, far away from that 14 year old. Plus there is nothing that 19 year old wants from a 14 year old. What to hear her deep opinions on Hannah Montana or how cute Zac Efron is? Please. I can see where the love connection is.

A 19 year old who would date a 14 year old is a sexual predator plain and simple. If he wants to register as a sex offender for the rest of his life and go to jail then by all means date away.