[paige-reader]

I am a miserable person, I am bitter. Everyone says I have it but I don't see it, what I see is a problem.
My problem is that I am always the ignored person that people say they like hanging out with. Example, I recently asked out a girl and I like her a lot, she has been in my thoughts many times. I introduce her to my best friend [Tyler] and it seems as though that everything we do or talk about revolves around [Tyler]. Whenever me and her hang out, he magicly shows up, and its like I become a third wheel, I get jealous easily. Me and [Tyler] have been best friends forever and ever we have been through so much its hard to count how many times we have gotten in trouble with each other by our sides. This just pisses me off, they mean so much to me, and I just don't want to be an that has a problem with everything. I feel crazy, like no one else notices this. I just got off the phone with her, and Sunday her and I are going to hang out after she is done work, we don't really know what to do, so she says lets hang out with [Tyler]! I feel like I am a doorway.
Help me seek a solution, I hate being a ingbag Its been eating away at me worse than I can say on here. My problem is unhealthy, for me and my friends and family, there is many more cases, give advice on what I should do.

[Clough]

The first thing that I would advise doing is speaking with and communicating your thoughts about the way that you feel to the girl that you asked out. If she really cares about you, then she will listen and act appropriately to continuing a relationship with you.

Another thing that you might try doing, is having something very definite in mind as far as what the two of you can be doing without it involving Tyler. Just "hanging out" does not involve any sort of plan. She might appreciate it if you would take charge and have a plan as to what to do when you get together.

Just my thoughts on the situation right now. Hopefully, other advice will follow.

[lydiagr]

You need to talk to both him and her. You need to just elt her know you were wanting alone time with her and let him know you like her and you kind of feel like he's trying to push you out and you need alone time with her. They will respect you for telling them