[Terri Diegel]

I will try to shorten this as much as I can but will start with saying, I need some advise with inlaws. My mother in law seems to have some mental problems, she has been married 4 times and is now 68 and alone. She has 2 kids, one being my husband and a daughter. She put both her kids on the deed to her home 15yrs ago or so to keep the equity away from husbands during divorces. My husband and I bought property on a land contract from her 5yrs ago and built a home. I walked into my marriage with $150,000 of my own money from a previous home I owned before I met my husband. I gave the mother in law $20,000 out of my money for a down payment and have been paying her $500 a month. She quit claimed the property to us so we could build the house without the bank knowing it was a debt so we could borrow more money for the home. Last year my mother in law told my husband she wanted to make out a will and make things more clear with her assets and wanted him and his sister to remove there names from the deed. My husband agreed without telling me. I just found out a few months ago by calling the courthouse that the mother put the daughter back on the deed and made out a will giving the daughters child a portion of the inheritance. I told my husband and he was furious! Him and his sister do not have the greatest relationship and he can not trust her. With her being on the deed, she can over ride a will and not give him anything if she chooses. The mother and sister have talked about me and put me down over and over again. We decided to stop the land payments to my mother in law until she added my husband back on the deed because we feel things were unfair. Now... my husband and I are fighting because he is giving in to her and wants to pay her now, after she has mistreated and disrespected me as well as him. The other twist is... I have a larger income than my husband and I am refusing to pay her because he put all this on himself from the beginning by doing this behind my back from day one. She recently came to me telling me he said I won't pay her and he has no money... WHAT SHOULD I DO?? WE LIVE RIGHT NEXT TO HER. SHE IS REFUSING TO PUT MY HUSBAND BACK ON THE DEED SO SHOULD WE STILL PAY HER FOR THE PROPERTY WITH THIS Aggression GOING ON
Thank you

[nicespringgirl]

So your inlaw didn't put her son back on the deed when she put her daughter back?
I am sorry about what you are going through.
It appears to me your husband is not very clear, how about going to talk to a financial advisor together with him. He might not listen to you at this moment, but he problly will accpet professional advice.
Good luck.:)