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    Aug 6, 2007, 04:23 PM
    I like her she doesn't know
    OK guys here's the thing, when I was in school a long time ago in elementary their was this girl and she had a crush on me and I thought she was OK but didn't like her so I let her down gently. I moved to a different city not too far away and I found her on myspace and we started talking and she is beautiful andi like her now its weird she's completely different. Different personality, hair, face, etc. and I don't know how to tell her I like her again after all this time please give me advice
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    Aug 6, 2007, 04:25 PM
    Just be straightforward and tell her. Since you two have somewhat of a background I think you can just be open. If you think she might still like you then give it a try. Of course, you can't expect her to have waited around for you... it might have taken her a while to get over you. If she's moved on or isn't willing to get hurt again then she may be nervous, but if you really like her then you have to try Good luck!
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    Aug 6, 2007, 06:22 PM
    Look that is good advice but now one of her friends which is also my friend says give up on her she doesn't like you and its getting on everybodys nerves and she's the only one who's telling me this and she claimed to have like me so I think its jealousy but I'm not sure and I don't know how she knows but umm I don't know like how she could be hurt because it was in 3rd grade when I let her down and now I'm 14 so its been a few years
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    Aug 6, 2007, 06:24 PM
    You might just like her becαuse she's better looking now-- mere infαtuαtion; which won't hold on for long distαnce relαtionships...
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    Aug 6, 2007, 06:29 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Ruin_leader
    look that is good advice but now one of her friends which is also my friend says give up on her she doesn't like you and its getting on everybodys nerves and shes the only one whos telling me this and she claimed to have like me so i think its jealousy but im not sure and idk how she knows but umm idk like how she could be hurt because it was in 3rd grade when i let her down and now im 14 so its been a few years
    Without a doubt this other girl is jealous. Go for it. Tell her that you think of her as more then a friend and see what she says.
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    Aug 6, 2007, 06:48 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by GlindaofOz
    Without a doubt this other girl is jealous. Go for it. Tell her that you think of her as more then a friend and see what she says.
    I know she is and I confronted her and her exact words were (scuse my french) your ugly as why would I be jealous and I said because you told me you loved me and she said barely so yea I should but what if she isn't just jealous and that's what's going on
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    Aug 6, 2007, 06:49 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by saraispiel19
    you might just like her becαuse she's better looking now-- mere infαtuαtion; which won't hold on for long distαnce relαtionships...
    That is what I thought at first so I tried backing off and I would consider it long distance about I'd say 10-15 miles but I thought it was because she looked a lot better but then I started talking to her more and she's changed and I really like her and I know "teen love" won't las but I do like her
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    Aug 6, 2007, 06:51 PM
    You'll find plenty of girls you'll like
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    Aug 6, 2007, 06:58 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by saraispiel19
    you'll find plenty of girls you'll like
    Yea but they won't like me back (im going to be a freshman eghh!) so yea I hope so but I know I like her and I'm about to post something that is like super worse and horrible and I need d more help with
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    Aug 6, 2007, 07:01 PM
    Ooh jeezee-- being α minor niner meαns nothing! Girls αre more vunerαble αnd no offense but go for αnything thαt looks αt them... plus girls like confidence.. not cocky;)
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    Aug 6, 2007, 07:11 PM
    What to do about her!
    https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...tml#post547249
    As you should know that's the link to my other "i need help" BS thing. I am a 14 year old (soon to be) freshman andi know I should be a immature perverted retard but I'm not I need help.

    Me and this girl dated well we did things together and I loved her and everything came crashing down and she dumped me the thing is we weren't even arguing. So I cried which sucks cause I hate crying and try not too. And I wondered why cause she never told me, but one day she called me and of course I answered it because I still had feelings for her. She told me it was because we were going to different schools which I felt was bull but didn't ask.

    As the months dawned we started getting closer and talking and she would tell me she still loved me so I was shocked :eek: and I told her how I felt I loved her. And anyway on the last day of school (which was about a month after we talked and stuff but we still kept talking and saying that stuff) we made out for about 2 hours straight and it was about the best session of that I had ever had and I asked her about her boyfriend and she said she broke up with him. By the way when we were talking and saying we loved each other and stuff she told me she was dating him that's why you asked.

    A few days after that I called her and the last thing she told me is that she loved me. I called her back and she told me she wanted absolutely nothing to do with me. And I didn't cry shockingly :eek: when I went home I found out she was dating a 10th grader and he wanted to kick my for make out with his chick. I told him the story and he forgave me but didn't dump her.

    As the months flew by I was like her and stuff and now I realized letting her go wasn't hard but now I know I still love her so I think what I felt was love and what I feel now is love because after all that I still don't want to let her go and please help if you can I have asked and the last thing I want to hear is let her go because I have heard that and its not going to happen but please help I didn't type all this to hear nothing thanks to all for reading all this bull
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    Aug 6, 2007, 07:14 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by saraispiel19
    ooh jeezee-- being α minor niner meαns nothing!! girls αre more vunerαble αnd no offense but go for αnything thαt looks αt them...plus girls like confidence..not cock;)
    Please put that in like a dudes language cause I don't understand... sorry
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    Aug 6, 2007, 07:20 PM
    Well you say you don't want to hear "let her go" so are you looking for someone to tell you to go get her back? You are young and I'm sure you have heard this, there are many fish in the sea. Most hs relationships don't last long, you are still finding yourself, you need to commit to you and your teen life, so how can you commit to someone else at 14? The whole time I was reading your question I thought to myself he needs to just let it go, and you do, even though it's not what you wanted to hear. You are making it harder on yourself by thinking about her and talking to her. She is pulling you up and down with her feelings and you are letting her do it. I suggest you tell her you can't take her drama (because that's what it is) and move on, find a girlfriend at your school, someone who can treat you nicely.
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    Aug 6, 2007, 07:21 PM
    Lol k sorry:

    There'll be freshmen girls out there too who will feel just αs vunerαble αs you-- I remember! Trust me they'll pαy αttention to αny guy thαt tαlks to them so don't expect something serious out of this-- plus it's the beginning of HIGH SCHOOL! hαve fun mαke friends, get invovled in sports [bαdminton counts too! ], school government, yeαrbook whαtever--- get α pαrt time so you cαn work to get nice stuff for school :) girls like α guy with confidence not cockyness! Be nice not α jerk-- mind your mαnners αnd be α sweet guy!

    Good luck kiddo<3 enjoy high school αs long αs you cαn!
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    Aug 6, 2007, 07:24 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by happylady123
    Well you say you don't want to hear "let her go" so are you looking for someone to tell you to go get her back? You are young and I'm sure you have heard this, there are many fish in the sea. Most hs relationships don't last long, you are still finding yourself, you need to commit to you and your teen life, so how can you commit to someone else at 14? The whole time I was reading your question I thought to myself he needs to just let it go, and you do, even tho it's not what you wanted to hear. You are making it harder on yourself by thinking about her and talking to her. She is pulling you up and down with her feelings and you are letting her do it. I suggest you tell her you can't take her drama (because that's what it is) and move on, find a gf at your school, someone who can treat you nicely.
    I understand completely where you are coming from and the thing is I thought I had her let go I was like her I don't care anymore whatever but somehow she just popped up again and she hasn't said anythign to me I don't know where it came from she just popped up
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    Aug 6, 2007, 09:36 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Ruin_leader
    ok guys heres the thing, when i was in school a long time ago in elementary their was this girl and she had a crush on me and i thought she was ok but didn't like her so i let her down gently. I moved to a different city not too far away and i found her on myspace and we started talking and she is beautiful andi like her now its weird shes completely different. different personality, hair, face, etc. and i dont know how to tell ehr i like her again after all this time please give me advice
    Well honestly it almost sounds as you like her for her looks rather than her personality so maybe you should take a reality check because this girl is still that same elementary student just a more grown version and if you can't see her for her than maybe your kind of self-absorbed don't be mad I don't know I'm 15 just trying to help. <3 love always AandZ4ever
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    Aug 6, 2007, 10:06 PM
    When I'm an old man I suspect I will regret only the things I never did.

    The dumb things I did, that washes away with time. But the things you wish you had done or said... thatll stay with you forever.

    Take a chance. If she tells you to pi$$ off then you know. Its done. Its over. What the hell have you lost? Actually you've gained... you won't spend another second wondering.

    And what if she says yes...

    Buddy, that's a win-win. Take the leap. If you fall you will NEVER spend the rest of your life saying "i wonder"...

    Don't make it complicated. Shut up. Do it. Whatever the result, live happy.
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    Aug 7, 2007, 06:10 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by kp2171
    when im an old man i suspect i will regret only the things i never did.

    the dumb things i did, that washes away with time. but the things you wish you had done or said... thatll stay with you forever.

    take a chance. if she tells you to pi$$ off then you know. its done. its over. what the hell have you lost? actually youve gained... you wont spend another second wondering.

    and what if she says yes...

    buddy, thats a win-win. take the leap. if you fall you will NEVER spend the rest of your life saying "i wonder"....

    dont make it complicated. shut up. do it. whatever the result, live happy.
    U really are cool and understand I guess you must have went through semi the same thing but I don't know really why I like her its her personality has changed too its kind of weird and good at the same time
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    Aug 7, 2007, 06:11 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by AandZ4ever
    well honestly it almost sounds as u like her for her looks rather than her personality so maybe u should take a reality check because this gurl is still that same elementary student just a more grown version and if u can't see her for her than maybe ur kinda self-absorbed dont be mad idk im 15 just trying to help. <3 luv always AandZ4ever
    No she's changed think about what you said she just the same elementary person just older... ok could make since but lets think about me am I the same elementary kid just an older version no I've changed a lot and she has too I used to not like her because everyone else did and I thought she was playing with my head (even though I was just super young but at least thinks for replying to it
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    Aug 8, 2007, 08:56 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by Ruin_leader
    i understand completely where you are coming from and the thing is i thought i had her let go i was like her i don't care anymore whatever but somehow she just popped up again and she hasn't said anythign to me idk where it came from she just popped up

    Don't let her do that, next time she just pops up tell her you don't want her anymore, and it's over. You have to just forget about her and find someone else.

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