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My dad was and still is a drug addict. He was for pretty much my whole life. He's been in and out of contact with me for a while now and chooses drugs over me. When I was little I used to stay home alone for a couple days until my dad got home. Every night I would see him with another girl. He has sold and bought drugs in front of me thinking I didn't know what he was doing.(which I did) he has dropped me off at a friends house and say he was going to be back in an hour and show up a couple days later. I grew up faster than a should have because I had to practically raise myself. I act and look 16 although I am only 12. I was just wondering, should I try to get ahold of him or what? I'm not really sure what to do anymore... :( :( :confused: :confused:

[tawnynkids]

Want to ask you a few questions first OK? Who do you live with now or what is your current living situation? Where is your dad and mom? Do your mom and dad have any kind of court ordered custody of you? Do you have any other good male role models in your life? Sisters/brothers?

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I live with my grandma. My dad? Who knows? My mom- she's been in a hospital sense I was 3 for O.D.ing.. my dad has custody of me.. my sister droped out of collage and ran away. My brother ran away and my younger brother died..

=(

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Hey I know people are looking at this! Please help me I can't sleep or eat!!

Please I'm begging you.. I can't take it! I don't know anymore...

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does anyone care?

=_(

[sGt HarDKorE]

Umm, we care but its kind of hard to respond too. Well try talking to him, that never hurt anyone, just becareful he may be high which equals danger for you. And if you are happy with your grandma, then don't stress yourself about your father. If you need guidance, talk to your grandma or a teacher.

[wizzkid89]

First things first. We care. Moving on from that I'm glad that you live with your Grandma, because if you lived with your dad I would honestly tell you to report to child services. However, I believe you to have a stable home, unless you stated otherwise. The problem lies with your relationship with your dad. I've also had a rocky relationship with my own father, and one day I came to the conclusion that I was going to have to tell him that either he changed his ways and started to compromise to other people's needs or we needed to split ways forever and stay out of each other's lives. Sadly, it is a very hard thing to do and I'm sure it is to hear it as well. However, I think this ultimatum is the only way out for you, and I kind of hope it will snap your dad into some sort of reality. But just remember that you have to be willing to accept both sides of his decision, and that you might not have him in your life and that sadly you might be better off. Either way think about it.

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Thanks guys...

Ps. Its kind of hard living wit my grndma because she haz parkensins or whatever its called, its when you shake a lot... and its not like she takes are of me cause I come and go when I want...

[LearningAsIGo]

I'm really sorry to hear this. I grew up with my Grandma too since my dad was a dealer idiot and my mom favored her boyfriends over us. I can understand not having a childhood... it really sux

Right now, stay away from your dad. I know its hard because you want a relationship with him and you worry about him, but adults in that situation have to want help before they'll accept it. There is nothing you can do for him besides take care of yourself. Stick close with your grandma, friends parents, teachers or other adults who can be there for you. Is there a Big Brother / Big Sister group in your area? (Check with your zip code)Youth organization - Mentoring Programs from Big Brothers Big Sisters I bet you could find a lot of cool friends here that would give you a break from your worries for a while.

Do you have any other relatives you could spend time with? I had older cousins that really helped me out when I needed it. I'll be thinking about you, so please let us know how things are going. {{HUGS}}

[GlindaofOz]

Oh kiddo what an awful situation. I just want to give you a big hug and pull you into my lap... The sins of the parents are often carried on the backs of the children.

Understand that addiction is an awful, terrible thing it changes people. It makes them do thing that they would normally not do. It makes them care about nothing other then their addiction.If you tried to contact your Dad I don't think you would be very happy with the response. Please understand that it wasn't about choosing drugs over you, he is very sick I'm sure if he was well he'd rather have his wonderful child.

Please contact big Brothers/Big Sisters organization or look at Alanon/ Alateen. It's a support group for people whose parents have addictions. It might help to see that other people are in the same situation as you and understand how you feel.

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Thanks wizzkid, glindaofoz, and lerningasigo.. you guys are the oines weho really helped me out A lot...


So did everyone else too but you guys seem to really understand my situation.. UNNO?

[wizzkid89]

thanks wizzkid, glindaofoz, and lerningasigo.. you guys are the oines weho really helped me out ALOT...


so did everyone else too but you guys seem to really understaND MY SITUATION.. UNJNO?

That's what we are here for.:)

[GlindaofOz]

thanks wizzkid, glindaofoz, and lerningasigo.. you guys are the oines weho really helped me out ALOT...


so did everyone else too but you guys seem to really understaND MY SITUATION.. UNJNO?

Anytime Dolly.

[LearningAsIGo]

thanks wizzkid, glindaofoz, and lerningasigo.. you guys are the oines weho really helped me out ALOT...

You're a sweetie. Thanks for making me smile. :)

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YEPPERS! Well guess what I tried talking to my boyfriend like you guys said and I asked him if we are still together and he said I'm a stuck-up, frEAKY, B!TCH... and I told him that he controlling and demanding and so he's like fine I won't care anymore then... so I said I love you and he's like okay. So I hung up on him! What should I do now?

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Didi break up with him did he break up with me?

[O_Troubles]

Doesn't matter keep it that way stay broken up!!

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Okay... read my poem.. its about him..


And the memories I will miss a lot!

:(
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[O_Troubles]

I read it , thing is its hard to know if you love someone if there your first. Plus if you were in love you'd know it like more then you do now you'd hardly ever fight you'd feel happy not worry about the relationship no name calling or back stabbing , just wait when you find your right guy you'll be like wow that other guy was a jerk!

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Yeah I know! Haha..