[Golfin20]

Hey, my girlfriend of 6 months and best friend of over a year broke up with me about a month and half ago. She had a daughter was 1 month old when we started dating and is now 7 months old. I did everything in this world possible I could for her and her daughter. Everything in our relationship was going well but there was one problem that I just couldn't get over... her baby's daddy. Now I know she didn't want him no more but she told me that she promised her daughter on the first day that she was born that she would keep him in her life for her daughters sake. Now here's the thing this girl told me she loved me , she wanted to spend the rest of her life with me etc but never wanted me around when her baby's daddy came over to see his daughter. Now to me that was weird and built up a lot of confusion in my mind how could she sit there tell me she loves me wants to be with me but yet didn't want me and her baby's daddy to run into each other. Over time that confusion led to frustration and we had little arguments here and there about it but I finnaly said hey you know what if that's what you want I love you enough to respect that and I trusted her whole heartdly. So time went on and everything was going well then all of a sudden out of nowhere she tells me she thinks we need a break. 2 days after I bought an engagement ring and had planned to ask this girl to marry she tells me this. I couldn't believe the words came out of her mouth. So here I am the only man in her life that has ever taken care of her put her first over everything including my bills and not only that accepted her daughter as my own and was willing to spend the rest of my life with her she just up and wants to take a break. She claims it was nothing I did it was her , that she had been hurt to many times in the past and its hard for her to be around someone and that she needed time with her daughter that she felt like she wasn't getting. The worse part is we work together I see her everyday and we still talk at work and text each other everyday and she tells me she doesn't want to be with me or anyone so I try the friend route but every time maybe after a day or 2 my emotions get the better of me and I blurt out how much I still love her and her daughter and I would do everything in this world for them. And it just gets harder and harder and harder. I know this girl cares for me but it hurts so bad not being able to be there with her and her daughter which yea I grew very fond of her daughter I can't stop thinking about her , I dream about her , I would take a bullet for this girl but she keeps telling me she needs time alone with her daughter and I just don't see how I would be interfering with her and her daughters time when I'm there loving them and taking care of them and treating them the way they deserve to be treated. Now all I do is go to work go home and look at that engagement ring that I bought, I've lost all my friends , I don't do any of the things I like to do anymore , I cannot get this girl out of my head she is the love of my life and I want her back so bad but I just don't know what to do. If anyone out there has any kind of suggestions that might help me with this I would be very gratefull of you.

[mckenzie134]

You need to relax. Whatever you do try and talk to someone. Just not to her. I know it will be ard but give her the space. She needs this time to MISS you. You sound like a great guy and she is probably not used to having someone all over her being so nice to her. You have to actcool abot this or it won't work out she knows you love her and her daughter but she wants a strong guy not some bloke who will fold and can't live without her...

Show her youralright and you deserve better your not standing up for what ahe has done. Trst me she will be hurting she may not be showing it but she will be.

Wait it out don't harassherwith begging. Try your bestto stay calm and wait till she contacts you..

[jainaproudmore123]

You know, firstly ask yourself, do you love her? Don't simply answer that. I know you will say yes but think twice. Recall the moment of you two together. Things that happen to you two, both happy things and sad things, right from the beginning till the end. Then try think of the reasons of why you love her and why did she love you. Then look at yourself in the mirror, ask yourself, what so interesthing about yourself. Are you handsome, are you intelligence, are you rich, are you romantic? I not saying anything bad here so don't get me wrong. I mean, what is so good about you that makes her love you. Is she started to love you because your good look. Then I can tell you that is not true love. That is what I call desire love. This type of love ussually won't last long. As soon as either one of you lost interest about each other, the love will break. That is why I ask you did you really really love her. Now think of the bad things that you did to her. I know you will say you didn't do anything but think again, sometimes we do things which is wrong but we didn't realize it. If she truly and deeply love you, do you think she will just leave you and let you get over it all by yourself with the ring holding in your hand and think of her everyday night with tears? Am I right? Well, since she have already leave you say she don't love you, why do you still let your heart pull you down? Face it like a man, fear nothing. Fear leads to anger, anger leads to hate, and finally hate leads to suffering. I know how it feels like when someone you love break your heart ran away from you but it just that, is time to let go. Train yourself to let go. Consult with someone near you, your parents perhaps? What do you mean you lost all your friends by the way? Friends are never lost. You just need to find them again while you are still alive. Friends are everywhere. Go don't wait. Its very difficult nowadays to wait for them to come to you. So, please don't suicide, you won't have a chance then if you do so. Give the ring to someone else, everything that have something to do with her just throw it away. Don't be alone. I'm sure you have relatives or maybe neighbors. Talk to them. Cheer up. Of cource you can do it. Have faith. I can do it, so can you as been through the thing as you do. Not completely the same but almost. I can be your friend if you want to. I'm Jaina. Hi hi.

[talaniman]

Sorry guy, but it was too much, to fast, and the telling thing was, if you met after her giving birth, then the other guy was still very much in the picture. To be with some one for life after 6 months, is way to fast to commit to a complete stranger. I can understand though bonding with a little baby, but it helped over rule common sense, especially since she kept you apart from the father. Big red flag, and at some point she was never over him. How could she be? She was in no way ready for what you wanted and in a way niether were you. Don't know what the hurry was but clearly it just didn't work. The only thing to do is move on and find your own happiness and leave her to find her own. Moving so fast and giving everything you have to a stranger is not the way to love. Again sorry.