[puerto]

I've been married for 16 years. You can say that I've coped with a lot throughout my marriage. I have 2 children. I can't really say that my husband is a bad guy or not a good father because he is. My biggest issue with my husband is that he is very temperamental and splurs in front of people. He tends to want to argue at any time not caring who's in the house. I've talked to him about that and he seems not to think he is wrong and starts to blame me for it, like making it my fault all the time. He does it in front of the kids, family, friends, doesn't matter. I've tried to tell him how I feel about this type of behavior and he gets offensive and makes it into an argument, so I just walk away. He then realizes after I'm already frustrated and wants to apologize to me and the kids, but only for the same behavior to continue again and again. I've come to the point after so many years that I've grown further and further apart from him. I still love my husband but I don't have the love I should as a wife. I'm to the point that I see myself depressed and want to separate and live by myself with my children. I'm also to the point that I don't want to be intimate with him because I don't feel any affection towards him. Any advise would be greatly appreciated.

[anb0517]

I have met a few of these "loose cannons" in my lifetime. The best thing to do is exactly that, LEAVE! He isn't going to change unless he seeks professional help. Maybe you should separate for a bit and see how it goes. I understand that you nor your children want to walk on egg shells around him. He needs to go to anger management and learn to cope with his rage or loose his family because of his selfishness.