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    Jul 12, 2007, 02:38 PM
    A Defeated Dad
    I may be a father to a child in Illinois. I live in Indiana. I cannot afford a private attorney, have been told that I cannot have the help of legal services in Illinois because I am not a citizen of Illinois, and Indiana can't help me because they do not have jurisdiction, and paternity has not been established.

    I've spent over a year trying to work with the mother to do this right, but she refuses to work together on any level. I have finally come to the end of my rope, and have decided that whether this beautiful child is mine or not, I no longer have the desire to have anything to do with this whole situation.

    The birth-mother has obliterated my vision of the miracle which is a child. This is a mother who once said she'd mail me an aborted fetus. A mother who made me believe my daughter was dead for two weeks. A mother who has two other daughters under her care right now. She has threatened me with a beating from her family members should I go anywhere near the child.

    So, what I'm asking now, is if there is any way, since the mother will not cooperate, that I can legally be exempt from back-support in years down the road if the mother decides to come after me. I want to be protected from any attempt that she may make to do this. Is there anyway that in the eyes of the Illinois State law that I can be removed from any responsibility whatsoever when I have a completely uncooperative mother, and do not have sufficient funds to fight her in court?

    Thanks,

    XenoSapien


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    Jul 12, 2007, 02:41 PM
    Have you had a proper DNA test done?
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    Jul 12, 2007, 02:45 PM
    No DNA has been done. I am, however, 99% certain that little girl is mine.

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