[tkdgal]

Ever since I've started high school, I've felt so out of place. Every girl seems to have a boyfriend... that they're happy with and seem to think aren't jerks or pervs! I'm sick of being single, though I'm constantly told that sometimes it's better. My best friend feels exactly the same way as I do. We even cry over the issue, and wish the perfect guy would just come already! It's so hard to wait, but I know I must until "the one" arrives. Does anyone have any advice about who "the one" could be? I really don't want to be desperate, but I seriously want a boyfriend! Please help my friend and me!

[Chery]

What in the world made you and your girlfriend act sooo desperate??
You are still in school, right? - Why concentrate on having something that 'everybody else' has. Are you sure that those who have partners already are as happy as they say - and can you (or they for that matter) be sure that those relationships won't go sour within a month or so? Most schools are 'training grounds' for relationships to teach you how to begin, end (yes end), and communicate with each other. So, may I suggest that you and your girlfriend start with communication.. talk to the guys without looking at them as 'candidates' and they might surprise you. Just remember one thing, the guys are just as nervous as you are, so WALK, DON'T RUN to friendships first.

Good luck.

[franklin girl]

All of us wanted to grow up fast when we were in school and now that we are grown we want to go back in some respects. It is amazing how we as women are taught that we can measure our worth based on who were are dating. Think about that for a moment-you are not who you are with because if you are you will lose yourself or maybe never find yourself to begin with. I was both of you in high school so I dated older guys who were "popular" and yes I won't lie it made me feel good at that moment but when I look back I did so much during those years that by the time I was 18 I didn't really have much to try or look forward to. Now there is no way that me saying that will change how you feel because it will sound like your Mom or Dad telling you not to get involved in things that you are not ready for but I will say that when you stop looking the right person will find you. They will see a confidence that you wouldn't be showing now because you feel a need to be on someone's arm instead of walking in a place and feeling great because you are you and don't need someone else to validate that for you!

Hope that makes sense and it is not meant to tell you what to do but to give you another perspective from someone who just grew out of the need for a man to make me a whole person.

[justhaveaquestion]

Put yourself out there talk to some guys hangoiut with someone you'll never know who the "right" one if until you go through some wrong ones

[nicespringgirl]

Your gfs are just part of the population in the world.

If you go out, start a job, meet some adults and when you guys talk about your relationship story, guess what would the mature ones say after they've heard you never had a boyfriend?

Their first reaction is "wow, you must be studying and working a lot, good, keep yourself from the guys!haha!"

That's their reaction, you might not be the one who studys or works a lot. I donno.

I am 23,good looking, driven, guess what? I never had one boyfriend, I might miss some fun compared with my peers. But I graduated with honor and got the best job among any of my gfs who crys, be cheated, get depressed, can't focused on school, need more attention, a pregenant, a mom, suffer from financial difficulties, be controlled by bfs.

You think about it... you make the choice and eventually you will learn from it.

[BeckyLoo]

If you spend all your time looking and feeling depressed you will look depressed and you won't appeal to any guy at all. Forget boys and have fun and just when your not looking or expecting it somebody will come your way!

[Cher13]

I think you should stop thinking about it so much, stop worrying about it so much, cause I find that when your not looking so hard something always finds you. It will happen... try focusing more on yourself, join a class or hang out with friends.

[nkychic]

Ok, first off let me just say "The grass ain't always greener on the other side." You're in high school, so I can almost guarantee that once you find a boyfriend you'll want to be single again in no time, or you'll want that guy in your second period that always smiles at you. Don't worry so much about finding "the one," you have all your life for that. You can't just wait for "the one" to come by and sweep you off your feet. That only happens in the movies, and any more... that's not even the case in the movies. Part of finding that perfect person for you is going through all of the "less than perfect" ones. Don't set your standards so high. I'm not saying go grab the first guy you see off the street, but your search for perfection will only let you down. Besides, perfection is boring, routine... who wants to live that way? Go out with your friends, go to the next high school football game, talk to people, get to know different people. That's what it's all about. Don't put so much emphasis on finding a boyfriend, just enjoy life. It'll come when you least expect it. Good luck girl!

[talaniman]

At your age you should both be having fun and enjoying yourselves. The one will come when he does. Make guy friends and just hang out.

[ConfusedandLost]

Your in High School... make friends, have fun... experience life. Remember this: A potential mate is attracted but a fun person who has it together, someone that has a wide spectrum. So go out have fun with your friends, make more friends... laugh it up together. Don't get all depressed about not having a boyfriend... your not attracting one by doing that. Give it time, that special someone out there will "notice" you... and believe me he will let you know.