[confused n tx]

Wow Today This Is Hard For Me, Im Going To Put My Life On The Computer For Everyone To Know, Well Ive Been With My Husband For 9 Years We've Been Married For Only 3, No Kids, And We Have Been Through Just About Everything That A Marriage Can Go Through In One Lifetime. Just To Start With My Husband Has Had A Baby By Another Women, And I Took The Baby In Like The Baby Was My Very Own Child And Loved The Child, When The Mom Was To Strung Out On Drugs To Know Her Own Name... and He Has Had 2 Relationships That I Know Off Since We Said "i Do" Hes Lied To Me Several Times, Stays Out For Days At A Time, Don't Answar His Phone, To Me Or Anyone For Days At A Time, And I Stay Up All Night, Worried To Death That Something Has Happened To Him, Then When I Used To Call His Mom To Just Inform Her That Hey I Haven't Seen Your Son In X Amount Of Days, She Would Just Blow Me Off And Tell Me Well When You Here From Him, Call Me And If I Hear From Him, Ill Call You, But This Last Time She Said Why Don't You Just File For A Divorce?? This Kind of Caught Me Off Guard... I Mean His Own Mother?? My Mother Or My Family Would Never Treat My Husband Like This If It Was Me Out For Days At A Time?? Well My Questions Is Now That I Have Given A Little Idea Of What Im Going Through Is... how Do Other Women Handle This... im Just So Sure That Its Something That I Do That Makes My Husband Want To Stay Out Rather Than Come Home Where He Helps Pay The Bills??

[J_9]

I am sure it is nothing that you do. This is just him and he is not committed to your relationship.

If I were you I would file for divorce. You are the committed one, he is not. I would be very concerned with him bringing home STDs if I were you.

I know that sounds harsh, and it may be. But it sounds as though you are the only one in this marriage.

[bushg]

I can not believe that you think that this is in any way your fault. Lady I am floored. Your husband is just taking advantage of you. Boy has he done a number on you. Why in the world would you think that anything you do would cause him to be a dishonest unreliable jerk, that is only thinking of his penis. Damn this pi$$es me off. His mom probably accepted this behavior from your husbands father and or other men. Your husband has allowed himself to become a result of what he saw growing up. Why in the world do you accept this type of treatment? Do you not love yourself? Are you happy sitting at home knowing that he is out with other women?

[JoeCanada76]

Time to file for divorce. This is not anyway to treat a partner, a wife. Stop blaming yourself you can not control how other people behave. Quite honestly the first time you found out that he had a relationship with somebody else during the marriage that is when you should have filed for divorce then. He is a deadbeat husband. You need to get out of this relationship because it is full of emotional abuse that you do not deserve.

Time to stand up for yourself and stand on your own two feet and get out of this situation.

Best wishes to you and stay strong.

Joe

[domianna]

Sweetie it is time to open your eyes and face the facts, your husband is a drug addict too:( I can relate because not only am I recovering but going through the whole can't go home again crap with my guy of 8 yrs. I guarantee you mine is out doing no damn good. I decided a while back to take him for who he is and only try to help if he wants it. I can't change him only take care of myself and love him despite the many many faults. I made the choice and now I can't complain. At the risk of sounding crass, or get off the pot honey he's who he is and if that isn't good enough you need to move on. We women spend far too much time trying to change men who won't or can't change. So we need to change what we can and that is either our expectations of them or our single status.