[Karly]

My friend, Brittany has been dating this guy, Brian for almost 8 months. They had been getting along really well. A few weeks ago, Brittany had told me she has been having mixed emotions for Brian. She thought it was a phase, but it had actually been going on for 2 months now. She often feels like she doesn't want to talk to him or be around him in general; she thinks he takes everything too seriously. She hasn't discussed any of these feelings with him though. Her mother had given her the advice to just have more alone time with him; she tried that and she still doesn't know if that's really working for her. I'm beginning to feel like she's only staying in the relationship just to be in one, or she's too scared to upset him. I'm not sure if this was a good idea, but I told her to just take a break from this relationship and see how you do without him for a while because it isn't right to continue to lead someone on like this. If you have any other ideas of how she should solve this problem, please let me know.

[diya]

Exactly... leading someone on may frustrate the other person so much that it puts you on a guilt trip too. Feelings change.. and this happens for most relationships unless there are some serious marital relationship where you have to work for the sake of kids and yourself. Before marriage, it's all hit and trial going on... so there is nothing wrong if feelings have changed but personally the other party has the right to know where he stands right? It may upset him for awhile but he will respect the girl even more.