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BigCityDreams007 · Jun 24, 2007, 08:33 AM

I met my boyfriend a while ago threw friends but he lived in Texas and I lived in Missouri. We talked for a few months before he moved up here and we got serouis. When we started talking he was fresh out of a relationship. But now were in love and I see a long term relationship for us. The only problem we have is when his ex keeps calling. Him and His Ex Share a Cell phone plan. So I understand why she has the number. She keeps calling almost every hour, when were together he doesn't Answer and I get more and more frustrated because when we 1st started dating my ex's would call like crazy so he asked to tell them to not call anymore, I didn't care because I have no feelings for them. So I asked to tell his ex to stop calling. He said no, Because they share a plan and he doesn't want to make her mad so I understood. Then he told me they talked and he isn't paying anymore so if she wants to cancle it then fine. So I said OK well since your getting your own plan then I don't have to worry about it then. Well this has been months and she still calls and he keeps telling me the same thing "She nos i dont like her, She nos im with you, just leave it alone" If she knows all this why is she calling!! I trust him because he hasn't given me a reason not to but I just don't understand why she keeps calling. I don't want to be the crazy psyco girlfriend but this has to stop!! I let him talk to my exs because he asked, why won't he let me?? Any Advice? Thanks Guys!

Fr_Chuck · Jun 24, 2007, 09:05 AM

I am sorry some real bells are going off in my head,

1. so he has a plan, he bites the bullets and gets a new cell phone and he mails that one back to her.

2. he don't answer, he blocks her number on the new phone ( but how does she have a number to the new phone?) He wants her to keep calling or he would have stopped long agao.

3. and so he don't want you to talk to her, do it and tell her off, and see where it goes.

There is a lot more there than you are being old in myopinoin.

shygrneyzs · Jun 24, 2007, 09:15 AM

This guy is not over his ex girlfriend. If he were, the first thing he would have done was to change his cell phone plan. Gotten one that was his and his alone. Why do you continue to trust him? I would not. He either gets a new phone and cuts all ties with his ex or you leave.

Gem07 · Jun 24, 2007, 10:45 AM

You've made your feelings known to your boyfriend and he doesn't care. Time to either accept the situation and stop complaining about it or find another boyfriend who respects your feelings.

I do not believe that you can fundamentally change another human being. You can make your own desires known ("I wish you wouldn't talk to your ex") but it's up to the other person to change.

He's talking to his ex for many reasons. He obviously likes talking to her! In fact, he loves it if they're talking quite frequently and they still share a phone plan. If he was truly over her, she would be a distant memory.

Either accept the situation or move on.

Bubbler · Jun 24, 2007, 12:09 PM

Time for you to stand up and make your feelings very clear and straight with this guy !

There can not be one rule for him and another for you, tell him to change the cell phone number and cut the plan with the ex, put a call block on his ex's number, if he does not want to do this then you need to question why? Is he still holding out for something there.

Do not let yourself be played or used, when something does not feel right in that Gut Feeling then its time to take a good look at everything and work out what you want and were your life is taking you.

talaniman · Jun 24, 2007, 01:46 PM

Be careful, sounds like he has one in Texas, and one in Missouri. Ooops which one are you again??

Shaunta · Jun 24, 2007, 02:06 PM

Well If he doesn't care about her like he says he doesn't then he would let you talk to her... She has no reason to be calling and his cell phone and it shouldn't be in her name anymore.. He needs to get the plan in his name... theres no reason why it should still be in her name... once he does that then you wouldn't have to worry about her calling anymore because she wouldn't have his number... I think you should tell him like he has until a certain time to get the phone out of her name and in his... or just give the phone back to her... OR MAYBE YOU COULD JUST TAKE HIS PHONE AND ANSWER IT... IT Shouldn't BE A BIG DEAL THAT YOU ANSWER IT CUZ THOSE TWO Aren't TOGETHER...

mckenzie134 · Jun 24, 2007, 05:23 PM

This is simple.

You probably don't want to do this cause your scared of getting hurt.

Next time he calls you you tell him listen Ive told you about your ex ringing and I don't want that in our relationship, so while that is continuing we won't be having a relationship I'm just not interested in somebody like that.

Its simple you must take a risk to achieve your goal. Really there is no risk in doing this what you will get is an honest answer of what is really happening in the relationship with you.

Outcome 1. he decides he wants you and gets a new phone.

Outcomne 2. He doesn't get a new phone and you get your answer he still likes her.

Outcome 3. He doesn't get a new phone he keeps speaking to her and you hang around like his little puupy dog after you told him you were leaving.

If you do it right and stay strong to your words he will choose optiion 1 if you allow him he will take option 3..

Be strong take no crap he either has to want you or he doesn't no in between...