[daveyjonesblkprl]

Hello I'm curious, I love sex,whether with a woman or self indulging it is a wonderful experience, except I don't enjoy it with my wife. We've had our moments but I'm not into her as a husband should and she won't and doesn't care. Because to her it could be worst things to happen,well this is what matters to me. For all those women who tread on this territory please understand that I'm not trying to sound like no one else's feelings matter but there are a whole slew of things going on between us that would take too long to mention. Yes, there are others that I find attractive or more interested in but the truth iswe just don't mesh anymore and she doesn't want to break up. Well I'm done, not just her but with marriage altogether. So see, I'm not blaming her , it's me and I can't do it anymore. Someone please HELP. It's turning from no love to absolutely despising all that there is about her because she won't leave. Not at least until she gets her financial and immigration issues together and that's her way of using me.

[nauticalstar420]

If she doesn't want to break up, then she should care. Talk to her about maybe getting some marriage counseling, it may help. A professional may be able to guide you both in the right direction. I hope everything turns out OK. :)

[PixieMama]

I'm sorry to hear that it's come to this. If you no longer love your wife and are sure it's done, and you want out, then if you two still have to live together for financial and immigration reasons, why not one of you move out to the sleeping on the couch or a separate bedroom (if you have a bedroom to spare, that is) and reduce it to "roommate" status and either become legally separated (unless for immigration purposes you can't), and treat it as it's over. From there, why not try to at least be friends. You aren't into her as a "husband should" be and she SHOULD care about that. There are two individuals here (more if you have kids) and you both have needs and feelings. Neither should be neglected. You two should really talk about it. Make her understand that this just isn't working for you and you can't do it anymore. Being honest is the best way to handle this. But by honest I don't mean cold and mean. There's a way to be honest and blunt without saying things that are too hurtful but still get the point across.

I'm sorry that your marriage has come to this point though. It makes me sad that marriages these days just don't seem to mean that much to people and they make and break vows time and again. :(

[Wondergirl]

Sorry, nauticalstar-- In my rep to you, I meant to say "he," not "wife".

[nauticalstar420]

I don't think anyone should give up until they talk to someone. It might just be something simple and fixable.