[22IceT]

Basically, the timing for me and this guy I just met was anything but perfect. There was three weeks left in the semester before summer started and we broke up on mutual terms. We each were busy pursuing our individual activities and interests... etc. (doing our own thing). It may not have been the best thing to declare each other as bf/gf the same week we actually started to hang out. My logic and common sense with this guy was shot and I was doing things that I never do with anybody else. I mean the first mistake already was declaring a relationship when I don't even know him yet. But I was comfortable with him and I wonder if it was because I was lonely and wanted someone to connect with. But during that first week, we spent time together and the next week, I could barely stay on the phone with him for five minutes.
So a few weeks after the split, I called him and he says he was thinking about me a week prior to me calling and was thinking he was making that up. He comes over (no sex, if that 's what you're thinking, hope he wasn't thinking that either) and we talk and play around as if the split never happened. So in a way I am confused. So I just called once a week from then on. Last week I stopped because to me why should I do the calling. I mean I'm not the girlfriend any more and I wonder why I still call. Well an entire week went by without me calling him and he calls me out the blue and told me he was going to class. He woke me up in the middle of a nap and I told him I would call him back. I did. He was with his friends. So I asked him if he wanted to hang out with him, he said yes. Well to my dismay he never called or showed up . It didn't worry me because I had a major test the next day I had to study for.
But I don't know if he was really into me when we were together or if he wanted something else. Should I keep him as a friend and if it is meant to be live my life and see or just forget about him and get over him.
I like him but I wasn't sure he liked me at the time. I asked him and he said he did but my mind at the time was like "this is the end of the school year, let me see what i can get"...
Back again, to my original thought, do I let him go altogether because to me he's an ex or do I keep him as a friend? I really never been in a situation like this before because I try to keep my mind off him but it's like the little things keep bringing him back. My sister knows him and she asks me about him. So I don't know what to make of that. But I don't think he thinks of me as much as I'm thinking about him. Any advice on this subject and possibly him?

[chuff]

From what you write, I don't think of him as an ex, just a friend. The complete opposite of how you seem to view it. Which leads me to believe that he thinks exactly as I do. Could he be more in the future... possibly. But at this point both him, and you seem focused on other things. From his perspective, I don't see why he would make a huge effort to see you if you've already told him that your focused on school. You told him what you wanted, and he listened. If you want something more then your going to have re-approach him and tell him that you'd like to get more serious.