[birdie1003]

I am very attracted to my lover's brother. I am gay and I think he is bisexual curious. He teases me all the time, but never gives me what I want. It is been so long but nothing happens. I know it is all crazy, but I can't help it. I am jealous and I can't stand anymore these feelings. I would like to overcome all this nightmare and lead my life the way I had before. I mean, subside this love.

[Clough]

If you are truly committed to having a relationship with your lover, than that is it. You are committed. Is doesn't mean that you won't ever be attracted to other men physically. You are correct, it is all crazy. But, if you have truly made a commitment, then you should stick with it. If, as you say, your lover's brother teases you all of the time, then I would talk with your lover about it. Maybe then, he could have some words with his brother. True love is one thing, but only a mere crush on someone is another thing entirely.

Who is in control here? The head between your shoulders? Or, the one between your legs?

You really can handle it. IF you THINK about it! And, your heart is into having a committed relationship with someone.

I am hopeful that others will offer their helpful advise in response to your post.