I think what you are seeing may be fairly normal for a 10 week old. Up until dogs mature at about 3 years old, they periodically test their limits and try to move up in pack rank. Dogs see all the people and dogs in the household as a pack with each having their own rank in the pack and a top dog. Life is much easier if the 2 legged pack members outrank the 4 legged ones. You can learn to play the role of top dog by reading some books or going to a good obedience class. A good obedience class or book is about you being top dog, not about rewarding standard commands with a treat. Start at
Raising Your Dog with the Monks of New Skete Some puppies are more quick to do so, and at a younger age. More so if they see a lack of leadership. At any age, either you, or the dog is in charge. Many Labs are very strong willed, and will take over just like yours is. Here are some gentle ways to let a young puppy understand you are top dog:
''Elevation for small puppies: Sit on the floor and gently put your hands around your pup's middle, below his front legs, and lift him up. He is facing you. Hold him for 15 seconds. Repeat until he no longer struggles. If he is past 10-12 weeks, lift his front feet off the ground, but don't pick him up.
Cradling for small puppies: Hold your puppy gently on his back, as you would cradle a small baby. If he struggles, hold him firmly until he quiets for 10-15 seconds. With larger pups, you can do this as your sit on the floor, with your pup between your legs.
Quiet lying down: Place your pup on the floor on his side, with all 4 legs pointing away from you. Use your hands on his neck/shoulder area and middle, to hold him in this position. When he is quiet, praise him. Lengthen the time that you keep him quietly in this position. When he accepts this position well, handle his paws and muzzle, while keeping him quiet.''
The quotes mean this isn't my original work. It is copied from my Puppy Raising Manual. I have long used these or minor variations of them, and they are very effective. You may want to give him a belly rub while he is on his back too. Helps bonding. There is a big difference between him rolling over and demanding a belly rub, and you choosing a time to roll him over and rub his belly. The latter cements your place as pack leader.
Your puppy is much too young to consider spaying or obedience classes. The current trend is toward spaying earlier, but usually not before 4 months. Go with your vet. It is also possible it may still go through a window where it is very vulnerable to parvo and other diseases even with the best shot program. See
Canine Parvovirus, What you should know about
I trust the AVMA site. I can't say the same for the above sites. Google is a very blunt tool for finding reliable information on dogs. There is just too much garbage out there on the web about dogs. I have seen links to sites here that go from useless, to counter productive to actually dangerous. I have Googled topics where I have a good enough background to sort out the good and the bad. Everything on the first page was trash. I took time last week to check a link somebody posted,
https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/dogs/i...light=ivillage Did you come here hoping somebody would do the same Google search you could have, or that somebody with more experience and training than you, would share it? I hate to be so negative, but many of the forums in home and garden have real experts able to provide sound advice.
I have put some of what I know in a sticky starting at
https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/dogs/i...tml#post251802 I have checked out some other web sites and found most of their advice above average including
Establishing and Keeping Alpha Position and
Woodhaven Labradors Articles Skim through the ''My dog won't eat'' section of the sticky and note the link on evaluating your puppies weight. Cute, chubby Lab puppies grow up to have more joint problems.