[sGt HarDKorE]

What is a good way to make friends. I am shy when I first meet people. I am a 15 year old guy. When I do finally talk I act stupid a lot. I do not have any friends really because I use to have to drive a hour to school every day. My mom was always late so I would never get home until 10:00pm every day. So I never really had a social life. Know I have more time but I have no friends so I just sit at home. Any suggestions on how to fix this?

[phillysteakandcheese]

If you want to meet people, go where people like you hang out or where the kind of people you want to meet hang out. Maybe that's an arcade or game place... Maybe it's more of an after-school club or something... If you want to meet people, you have to go where they are.

Being in these places gives cause for you to introduce yourself and immediately have something to talk about... "I love <game>, and I <am a master/suck at it>"... "I joined the chess club to meet hot chess chicks... <like you/like her/where are they?>"... "That's pretty cool, I've always wanted to figure that out... "

Most people will be at least courteous, a few will be mean and a few will be exceedingly friendly.
No matter who you are or what you are like, there's always going to be someone that just doesn't like you. No matter who you are or what you are like, there's always going to be someone that does like you, and will introduce you to their friends.

Yes - It takes some work and little bit of risk, but the payoff can be huge.
:)

[andrea94]

Hey its andrea again,
It could be hrd to make friends but just remember to be yourself and think be for you speak... one think you could try is to laugh everyone likes to laugh or try to talk about something intresting try not to make a fool of yourself...
Good luck

[sGt HarDKorE]

I know I'm kind of reviving an old thread but I have more to say.

At work a kid new joined and no one really talks to him. I feel kind of bad and I wouldn't mind asking him to hang out with me and my friends. But for some reason I am like really afraid. What should I do? I thought of maybe asking him one day if he needs help with something at work, and then bringing up the topic or something.

[phillysteakandcheese]

"Hey, New Kid .... Come hang out with us..."

[happylady123]

I would suggest join a club at school, this way you are with people who have a common interest and you'll get a chance to meet more people.

[nicespringgirl]

Smile. It's contagious!
Address the person you'd like to make friends with by his or her name. This shows that you are interested in getting to know them.
Be genuine. People are naturally attracted to someone who is sincere and genuinely interested in them.
Relax. Be yourself.
Ask questions that will help them start talking. Don't ask questions that are too personal in nature.
Be a good listener. Build on common ground, such as interests or hobbies.
Respect differences of opinion; that's what makes friendship exciting. Be objective and open-minded.
Give compliments when called for. People always appreciate positive feedback.
Keep in touch by inviting them to do something fun together.
Follow up with them after that.
Enjoy your friendship.
Good Luck
:)

[MR ROCKETS]

Just stop with the computer games and go meet people

[sGt HarDKorE]

I don't really play computer games

[Wondergirl]

I've always found your posts here to be interesting or helpful or fun to read. You seem to be the kind of guy I would want my sons to hang out with, or, if I had a daughter, a guy she would be allowed to date.

Talk with the kid at work--about stuff you might both know (movies, songs, rock groups, the place where you work, etc.) I've got my money on you to get him to be less shy!

[nicespringgirl]

SGt, you are truly a cool kid. You are wiser than your peers.:) I am sure you will make great friends that will last life long!

P.S.Who doesn't want to be your friend is problly not as mature as you are.

[gallivant_fellow]

When I started my first year of college, almost all of my friends moved away, so I can relate. You look like a pretty cool, average guy. Try joining one or more of the clubs or sports you have at your school. This will make you known, I guarantee. Also, smile a lot and be extra friendly to people. If you play anything like guitar, like certain activities or music, find someone who has that in common with you. You can't screw up talking about the stuff you like. Also, if someone in one of your classes is confused about the assignment and you know how to do it, help them. They will appreciate it, and after a while, begin to see you as an intelligent person and a friend. Like everything in life, you get what you put in. Lots of times it's a real pain in the rear to put in, but it always pays off ten fold, trust me.

[snotbubble]

What is a good way to make friends. I am shy when i first meet people. I am a 15 year old guy. When i do finally talk i act stupid alot. I do not have any friends really because i use to have to drive a hour to school every day. My mom was always late so i would never get home until 10:00pm every day. So i never really had a social life. Know i have more time but i have no friends so i just sit at home. Any suggestions on how to fix this?

I know exactly how you feel! I'm 20 and still have the same problem! I hade a few friends in high school, but it took years for me to be myself around them because I was sooooooo shy. I've gotten a lot better with talking to people, but it's still very hard.

Over the years, I examined what situations made me feel a certain way. I was nervous around people I was intimidated by- which seemed to be everybody. I pretty much always befriended the kid everyone else picked on. I felt like that person would never judge me and would simply be my friend because nobody else would.

When I do get the nerve to talk to someone new... I ramble... like crazy! Because I'm so nervous, which also makes me feel stupid. I laugh a lot also when I get nervous- which seemed to work out fine. I was the one laughing at everyone's lame jokes... which made them feel better.

Anyway... I'm rambling... I do that a lot. Just pay attention to how you feel and act in certain situations. And ask yourself why that happens. Then you will find what is causing you to feel and act that way, and you can slowly try to over come that "fear" or whatever you want to call it.

[snotbubble]

I know im kind of reviving an old thread but i have more to say.

At work a kid new joined and no one really talks to him. I feel kind of bad and i wouldnt mind asking him to hang out with me and my friends. But for some reason i am like really afraid. What should i do? I thought of maybe asking him one day if he needs help with something at work, and then bringing up the topic or something.

I'm actually going through the same thing. I go to an art school, and am in the process of befriending a girl that works with my boyfriend and is in my art history class. It helps that my boyfriend introduced us. She told him she was shy and was new to town and wanted friends. And knowing that, made me feel more comfortable around her- knowing that she was shy too.The school I go to has a lot of art galleries, exibits, programs, fairs, and fun stuff to do like that. And obviously we both like art, so I ask her to come along.

I'm sure you know about myspace... this has helped me A LOT. If I know the persons name- I look them up on there and then send a message like "hey i know you! i sit next to you in my drawing class!" like I just accidentally ran across their profile. But I leave people comments on there, like "hey! Murder by Death is playing tomorrow night, you should go!" talking to them online gives me a face and a name for them to recognize, and they talk to me when I see them at school or work. And then it gets easier from there. It always easier for them to talk to you first.