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    Jun 6, 2007, 11:00 AM
    Head Vs. Heart
    Hello:

    I find myself in a head vs. heart situation. I have ended an emotionally draining relationship of more than 10 years. As I tried to find the courage to "move on", I found myself turning to a married woman who understood everything I had experienced and made me believe that she was also looking for the courage to change her situation. Our relationship grew into something more than it should have, considering her martial status-and a considerable amount of time has passed.

    I still believe she is my closest friend, but I don't know if I should continue to support her in the hope that she will make a change. Or is it time to face the realiaztion that I have made a big mistake and cut my ties with this woman? I am at the point of near obsession with wondering if this vison in my heart will come true.

    My heart says hold out; my head says back away. I'm looking for objective wisdom.

    Thanks.
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    Jun 6, 2007, 11:02 AM
    Please listen to your head. Listening to your heart as brought you to the point of near obsessioin. Obsession is not love; it is a sickness.

    Time is the most precious gift we have, and you have already wasted enough of it. Face it: She wasn't your pot of gold at the end of the rainbow she was just your "comfort" station on the way to your destination.

    It's time to move on.
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    Jun 6, 2007, 11:06 AM
    I go for heαd- don't complicαte things even more.. she might understαnd you but in the end of the dαy her husbαnd is the one who lαys down beside her... there αre thousαnds of other women out there thαt would love to be with you
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    Jun 6, 2007, 02:20 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Rockabilly1955mama
    Please listen to your head. Listening to your heart as brought you to the point of near obsessioin. Obsession is not love; it is a sickness.

    Time is the most precious gift we have, and you have already wasted enough of it. Face it: She wasn't your pot of gold at the end of the rainbow she was just your "comfort" station on the way to your destination.

    It's time to move on.
    Words of wisdom to live by. Move on.
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    Jun 6, 2007, 03:20 PM
    What Rockabilly1955mama said really opened up my eyes. I needed to hear that.

    I have to follow my head, and leave her behind.
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    Jun 6, 2007, 06:56 PM
    I'm not the best with this sort of thing, but I have received a few words of wisdom to share with you:

    "Follow the advice of other's and you will fail. Follow your own advice and you will fail. Follow your heart and you will succeed."

    I believe the trick is that when you are trying to guess what your heart wants, or spending too much time thinking about that, then your head has already taken over...

    Just my 2 pennies...
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    Jun 6, 2007, 08:57 PM
    I agree with Skell on the last post. Following his heart is the not the best thing in this situation.
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    Apr 2, 2012, 02:00 PM
    Hey,
    I am 21 years old and you might not think thati know but me personally thinks that you should just move on .If it was really meant to be then for you guys then you would be together. I have been through the same thing . Believe it or not I got through, I just had to realize that it wasn't meant to be . Well, I hope I was some kind of influence towards you !

    Thank you,
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