[2BFORGOTTEN]

I Am Struggling With A Relationship Of 4 1/2 Years That Has Gone Bad. When I First Met Him I Didn't Like Him That Much Because I Had Just Gotten Out Of A Realationship And Was Not Ready. Well Eventually He Grew On Me And We Moved In Together. In The Beginning I Admit I Was A Little SKEPTICAL And May Have Said And Done Some Things That He Did Not Particularly Care For. Eventually I Ended Up Getting Pregnant By Him And At That Time I Thought Things Were Headed In The Right Direction And I Was Ready For A Change And Commitment. After My Daughter Was Born In 2005... things Got Worse Instead Of Better. He Started To Do Things That He Normally Wouldn't Do, He Started Hanging With His Female Friends From High School. I Became Really Insecure... I Started Going Through His Voicemail And Trying To Investigate Things. I Called People That Was Listed In His Phone. I Became Very Spiteful And Revengeful I Wanted To Hurt Him The Same Way He Was Hurting Me. I Thought He Felt My Pain He Would Realize What He Was Doing. Well Things Just Got Really Bad. What Ever I Could Do... I Did It. We Argue And Had Fights All The Time.I Eventually Became Tired Of The Fights And Wanted Things To Get Better. I Stayed Up So Many Nights Crying And Worrying About What I Could Do To Fix Things. He Continued To Sleep With Me But Assured Me That He Was Only Doing It Because He Was A Man And Had Needs. In My Mind I Was Hoping That Things Would Change. I Have Always Been There For Him And Did Everything I Could To Help Him Despite What We were Going Through. He Had A Son From A Previous Relationship Who I Grew To Love Like My Own... I Took Care Of His Son As Well. Well 3 Weeks Ago I Went Through His Phone And Heard A Voicemail From A Girl... I Called The Girl And Found Out Him And Her Was Talking... mind You Him And I Was Still Sleeping Together. So Of Course I Was Hurt. I Went Over To His House To Talk He Called My Family And The Police On Me. He Has Not Seen His Daughter In 3 Weeks And Don't Care To. I Have Called Him Crying And Begging And He Just Told Me To Not Call Him Anymore And He Would Go To Court For His Daughter. He Told Me If I Continue To Call Him He Would Get An Order Of Protection. He Said That I Was Crazy And Psycho. Why?? What Have I Done? I Have His Daughter... before I Met Him I Was In School, Had A Good Job, Own Place, Own Car... I Still Have Everything But School Has Became To Difficult Because I Have His Daughter To Raise. I Am So Stressed Out, Can't Eat, Can't Sleep, My Doctor Have Put Me On Depression Medication. I Feel So Unstable... it Hurts So Bad!!

[talaniman]

Someone who has that bad of an effect, is better off out of your life, and you should be glad. Get child support, and build a life without him, and love yourself, enough to take care of yourself. Control your own life, and happiness.