[Anodomynous]

Hello, and Good day.

My girlfriend and I have been dating on and off for the past 4 years. We had recently gotten back together, and this time, it seemed like it was for the long haul. We had a healthy sex life until my girlfriend wanted to try to abstain from sex for religious reasons. I told her that I understood and that we could abstain. 3 to 4 months later, we tried to restart our sexual activity. I was easily aroused by my her, yet she didn't get the same response from me. We figured it was just a bit of anxiety and decided to skip it for a while. We tried again at a later date, but to no avail. She says that, for some reason, whatever "spark" we had before just doesn't seem to be there anymore. She claims to still love me, and I love her, but she doesn't have the desire to have sex with me like she used to. Other sexual thoughts may do it for her, but when it comes to me, there's nothing. We both already know that a good relationship can't last without some sort of sexual passion, but I want to do anything I can to "reignite our fire." Please, is there any advice anyone can give me?

[smoothy]

Sometimes you simply don't... if its real... it happens... you can't force it. People break up every day because the spark simply goes out... usally after the lust wears off, and its discovered love never grew to replace it.

[Fr_Chuck]

You are not having sex because of her religious view point, that belief does not go away in 4 months. So is it possible that those beliefs are still on her mind.