Originally Posted by
amermonstarsgir
Is there such a thing as being addicted to spending money? My bf cannot control himself it seems like. he just spends and spends and spends and has no regard for having to pay bills or anything. We dont live together or anythign but I have to help him with his bills because he can't do it himself. Thank god we have separate checking accounts or my money would be gone too. Is this such a thing as being unable to control your spending?
It is possible to be addicted to spending. The one with the problem behaviour needs to seek help. Feeding an addiction knows no bounds, and will continue until he decides to change. No amount of talking will make that happen. Practical solutions to correct the obvious won't work unless he is willing and able to make changes, not only in regard to the addiction itself, but all problems the addiction has caused. By that I mean with loved ones, and creditors, banks, etc.
He will have a lot of work to do when he is ready to admit he has a problem.
You are smart to be thinking the way you are in my opinion. You have no control over his behaviour. It is a relief to know that you have your own money in your own account that he cannot access.