[8259]

There is this Guy that I work with,yes He's Married,no lectures please.The Guy started flirting with Me,and did everything possible for Me to notice Him,and Yes because He's Married I didn't give Him the time of Day.The thing is ,He's been doing this for so long that I'm starting to develop feelings for Him.I know if we were'nt working together I would never fall for a married Man,but We are and I can't leave my job or be put in department.He has been flirting for such a long period with Me. Will He ever stop?

[progunr]

He may be willing to destroy his marriage.

Are you really willing to help him?

You are supposed to stand up for what is right.

Not to just stand up, until you don't feel like it anymore.

[ChihuahuaMomma]

If you tell him to. He's married, tell him that his flirting in inappropriate and unappreciated. You don't want to interefere with his marriage.

[liz28]

How long has this flirting been happening? How did you fall in love?

You can't even considering having something with him, he's married. It should not be different from a guy on the street. Stay away and don't become someone mistress.

[N0help4u]

Realize that flirting vs a real relationship can be as different as night and day.
Right now he seems cute and lovable with his flirting, but if you were to pursue something with him it could very easily end up going sour.
Like chihuahuamomma said Don't be "the other woman", not the best reputation to have...

[kp2171]

Mkay.

So you want only opinions that are "favorable"? Good luck with that on a public forum site.

Theoretically, you control your panties. You like the fact he pursues you... fine. That's normal. I've always been attracted to women whod put me to the wall. Its wonderful to be chased, whether you are one day or one decade into a relationship.

Your only real stated question is "will he stop"...

Why would he? Have you made it absolutely clear that you are not interested and any further advance is grounds for harassment? Is that even your position?

My 4 year old is fearless and relentless. He might be 20 years plus behind this guy, but he is going to be the boy that pursues and chases... and when one woman in 50 gives in, all the work will be worth the effort.

The real questions here are:

You aren't "that kind of girl" but he is wearing you down. If another man were in the picture, would this be an issue? Are you lonely and wanting attention (we all do) or is there something about him personally?

A workplace relationship is dangerous enough on its own. That said, convict me. I dated my wife, a supervisor, secretly until I quit my job to be with her. Common sense be damned. I'm now ten years into a great relationship with a great woman.

But this guy is tied down.

He isn't yours.

So... what do you think you will gain here? Attention and casual sex? OK, I guess, if that's enough for you.

Until he is free from the vows of his marriage, he is married. period.

The attention is nice. Even a great boost. I've been there as a married man who had a "chaser" who didn't care I was married and was relentless. It might be flattering, but you have to live with yourself in the end. Sometimes you have to go out of your way to make your intentions perfectly clear... and brushing off advances isn't the same thing as flat out telling the person stop or there will be dire consequences.

So... he is chasing you and you like it. Welcome to humanity. It's a great feeling.

Are you willing to be the woman who sleeps with a married man? Are you willing to get a little now knowing that you won't likely get it later?

Again... only you sleep with you in the end.

[smoothy]

Never mess with ANYONE at work... I don't care if they are male or female, gay or straight or something in between.

You WILL have major issues and when it happens its not going to be pretty. Saw stuff like this happen so often its not even funny.

Save it for someone you don't work with.

[0rphan]

Hello 8259.

He's married your single... just tell him to clear off or you'll do him for harassment in the work place... simple

END OF STORY

[smoothy]

ChihuahuaMomma... I've been working for 27 years since I got out of college... I can name dozens upon dozens of workplace romances I have seen in that time, including marriages, and NOT ONE of them ever worked out Including the marriages... every one of them turned really ugly and ended up with someone or both getting fired or being forced to quit over it when they failed.

[N0help4u]

Yep I agree with Smoothy
ONLY go for someone in the workplace if it is a sure shot and it certainly is a double whammy against her because he is married and workplace relationships go sour and then you have the whole office gossiping and the 'broke up couple' have tension in the air at the work place.
Usually when one of the rare times does work out one of the two make the decision for one of them to eventually quit.

[Choux]

Hi girl,

I'm 65 and experienced; you can't BS me! :D

He wouldn't be sniffing around you if you weren't sending out signals that you welcomed all the sexual attention.

He's married and apparently a cheater. Put him in his place and go out and find your own man. :)

You can do it!

[DuBas07]

I agree with the first part of your statement especially since she said its been going on for along time.