[one_life]

I don't know if this means anything, lately my ex (works at the same place) been giving me a funny vibe. She moved to our department(3 weeks back), so I get to see her more often now. I catch her sneeking peeks at me and then turns away quickly, giving me smiles once too many. Saying hi more then before. Just a week back she called to say hi and see what I was up to. I took that as she wanted to know what I was up to and nothing more. I don't know what to make of it. I don't want to read too much into it. Any clues on what's really going on?.

[Chery]

It could be she's just trying to be friendly, or she's trying to get close to you again. If you get a chance to have a coffee break together, just ask her, if you are on 'speaking terms' and have no hard feelings towards each other. It's either that or she's wondering what you feel about her being there and too shy to ask. If your position at work is not threatened by her job, then I would risk it and just plain talk to her, after all we are all only human. Good luck.

[NeedHondaHelp]

Go somewhere private, but not intimate (if that makes sense), and just ask her. What do you have to lose? You didn't mention why y'all broke up or how long you were together (or apart), but if it didn't work before because of a BIG issue, tread lightly and be cautious. If it's been awhile, like, years, and you think the two of you have grown up a bit and could iron out any small wrinkles that caused the breakup the first time, then maybe there's a future. But if it were over something big, trust me, if it didn't work the first time, it won't work the second. Good luck!

[Wildcat21]

"Go somewhere private, but not intimate (if that makes sense), and just ask her."

I think that's a BIG mistake. Big - woman don't want that. They want mystery, a challenge. You break all that. WOMAN DON'T think in logic - that's logical and you WILL kill all attraction she is building. You throw your cards on the table and you're done.

You need to tease her, make fun of her - show your indifference towards her. Like you don't care about the out come.

Show your true feelings guys and your DONE!! No question. Woman dfon't want that sick, soft, sensitive guy - NEVER.

[Wildcat21]

AND take your time with this - let it play out - no pressure on her. None. If you want her back take your time.

[letmeno]

It's obvious... she's feeling you out. She wants to know how you feel about her but she's not going to say it. That would be dumb, it's called pursuing a man... we do it from time to time but only when we are confident enough about ourselves that we know we won't be rejected. I can't tell you what to do in this case because I'm not sure what it is that you want from her or what it is that you are expecting.

Yes, women do like mystery, I can't dispute that. Please don't throw your cards on the table just yet, it takes the fun out of her trying to see if she can get you back or not.

It's not that we women don't know what we want, sometimes we don't know if we want it or not until we get it... If that makes any sense.

[Chery]

There is still another question out there... Forgot to ask if you or she have new relationships - and if so how would they feel about this all. Look at the whole picture. I'm a woman and have been hurt a few times also, and I got my REVENGE (even after waiting a few years), so I know how this can blow out of proportion. But talking with one to get things cleared would be better than losing sleep and continuously wondering as it might cause stress at work and we all need our jobs. You've got a life to live - with or without her. Again, Good Luck. ;)

[one_life]

It's obvious...she's feeling you out. She wants to know how you feel about her but she's not going to say it. That would be dumb, it's called pursuing a man...we do it from time to time but only when we are confident enough about ourselves that we know we won't be rejected. I can't tell you what to do in this case because I'm not sure what it is that you want from her or what it is that you are expecting.

Yes, women do like mystery, i can't dispute that. please don't throw your cards on the table just yet, it takes the fun out of her trying to see if she can get you back or not.

It's not that we women don't know what we want, sometimes we don't know if we want it or not until we get it...If that makes any sense.

She is the type of person, that makes sure she puts herself in a position where she won't get rejected.
When we first got together (been together for two years), she showed that she was interested in me, but never acutaly said it or made it clear to me. I was the one who first made my feelings clear to her. She later told me that, she was nervous about making her feelings clear to me, because she was afraid of rejection.

This time around, she must be more nervous, because she is the one that left me (almost 4 months ago). Maybe she is afraid that I might still have hard feelings over the breakup and I might not want her back.

So my point is that she will never make the first move. She'll play around the bush, until I do.

For what I want, yes some part of me wants to get back with her, but I really really hurt by the breakup. I'm afraid that she might just do it again, if we ever get back together.
I also believe in second chances, and forgiving and forgeting.

I have no plans of putting all my cards on the table. I'll be patient.

Anymore advise? Keep it coming please.

[Chery]

You can wait for more advice, or you can make a move, depending on whether you want to sleep well at night and stop wondering. You should go and get an answer, one way or the other. Then you can take it from there. Let us know about your progress and don't just stand there... Good Luck.

[NeedHondaHelp]

Hope it helps!