[kctiger]

I would be VERY cautious about getting involved with another girl right now. The point of a break up isn't to rush into another relationship, and I fear you may be putting too much emphasis on being someone's boyfriend. REBOUND! Take it VERY slow, as you could hurt either the girl, yourself, or possibly both.

[kaitou]

Yeah, I agree with Kctiger. I think you should take a break from relationship for now. Maybe even dating...

[none12345]

Take what's yours and leave the rest that's what I always say =P.

Anyway happy to hear you're doing good dood.

Here I want you to listen to this song. Its doing wonders for me =P
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8j9hj-_GtrI

[PirandelloLuigi]

I don't think it's a rebound. If you are over your ex, why would it be a rebound? I have done all the grieving and I'm over her. I sincerely believe I am ready for a new relationship. No rebound.

[kctiger]

If you were over her you wouldn't have a 17 page thread revolving around HER! Just my opinion.

[PirandelloLuigi]

yeah, I agree with Kctiger. I think you should take a break from relationship for now. Maybe even dating...

Life is too short, I'm ready for my new woman ;-)

[kctiger]

Serious question: Why are you in such a hurry to have a woman in your life?

[none12345]

Serious question: Why are you in such a hurry to have a woman in your life?

Maybe cause us guys have needs but rather be intimate with someone we love and not a one night stand? I don't know that might be the case lol

[kctiger]

I am not a one night stand dude... first and foremost... secondly, I just don't find the point in rushing into another relationship so quickly after you have been in a long term relationship.

[none12345]

I am not a one night stand dude...first and foremost...secondly, I just don't find the point in rushing into another relationship so quickly after you have been in a long term relationship.

What if you miss out on something amazing and you won't come across it again if you don't act now?

[kctiger]

The day I meet a woman that I feel is that amazing, then perhaps I will agree with you... I think the issue here is that I value myself and my priorities too much to let that effect me... everyone is different though.


Carry on... :cool:

[PirandelloLuigi]

I understand your opinion KC, I have to mention the girl knows I was in a relationship and we will take it slowly. Just cause I'm going on a date with her doesn't mean I am going to jump on her and bring her home. I will take my time, and get to know her very slowly. Things will move in a natural way. Like none12345 says, you can't pass on opportunities just cause you had a bad relationship. And almost 2 months have passed and I feel I am ready.

[friend4u178]

You may feel your ready Luigi but a lot of the time this close to the event your just trying to fill the emotional void that the breakup has caused.

Just a word of warning though , be careful not to make someone believe you are into them fully when you could just be looking for a quick fix yourself , that's not fair to her.

[PirandelloLuigi]

OK I understand your point of view. Here is what I think. Each person is different and the amount of time it takes to be a rebound or not depends of each individual.

In my case, my relationship was over a long time ago. When she said her feelings for me changed. That was in September 2008. So I feel I have moved on a lot quicker than some people and this is the reason. I stayed with her to don't dump her and hurt her feelings, and waited and did things to push her to leave me.

And it was a bad relationship, so believe me, I would not go in a new relationship if I was'nt ready.

[PirandelloLuigi]

If you were over her you wouldn't have a 17 page thread revolving around HER! Just my opinion.

LOL you have a point. But all these posts helped me get the BIG picture. My emotions went away and my Logic kicked in. I want to thank everyone here that helped get through those hard times.

[none12345]

LOL HEHE HOW YAH DOING BUDDY? Just wanted to leave something on your thread lol XD

[PirandelloLuigi]

In 5 days it will be exactl 2 months it has ended. I still get flashbacks, it's not easy. I have accepted what happened. It has sinked in. You guys have any tips to make sure I don't do a rebound with the next girl?

[none12345]

in 5 days it will be exactl 2 months it has ended. I still get flashbacks, it's not easy. i have accepted what happened. it has sinked in. You guys have any tips to make sure i don't do a rebound with the next girl?

We won't exactly know if it's a rebound or not. Only you will know because its your feelings and we don't know how you feel. You just have to be honest with yourself and ask yourself if you really into this girl or not? Are you still hung over your ex? Because sometimes if your ex is still in your mind, than you might be blinded by how you really feel about this girl even though you might think you're really into her. If you have that all sort out than I'm pretty sure you won't make her a rebound.

Don't be around her because you feel like you need to be around her. Be around her because you want to. That's pretty much it.

Good luck bro =P - none12345

[talaniman]

You guys have any tips to make sure I don't do a rebound with the next girl?

Heal, and have fun doing it!!

[PirandelloLuigi]

Heal, and have fun doing it!!!!

Thanks Tal, I been healing good so far. Better than I expected. I feel is going to be a great summer. I have a date tonight with a special girl I just met. We been talking all week and I hope with all my heart everything goes well. She sounds so simple and she is so calm just like me. I already feel a connection over the phone. I can't wait to spend time with her.