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    #141

    Oct 12, 2010, 08:33 AM
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    No... I mean I've made great progress compared how I used to feel. Maybe because I haven't dated anyone since him that is why I'm finding it hard to just brush him off and forget about him...
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    #142

    Oct 12, 2010, 08:43 AM

    He was fishing, he through out the line and hooked you. How did you feel waiting for those couple of weeks for his reply! He made sure he had control right away.
    Do you really want to be his ego boost? Go back to "NO Contact".
    Don't let him have any control in your life. Its always easy to remember to good times, but for some reason unknown to me, we always make good excuses to ourselves to cover up the bad ones!!
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    #143

    Oct 12, 2010, 09:50 AM
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    Yeah.. I guess your right... He initially contacted me for a really important reason yet I didn't have to know about it in a way but I was to nice of a person to just not comment on it.. Oh well back to NC here I go again... Thankx for your input :)
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    #144

    Oct 12, 2010, 10:17 AM

    I was wondering the same thing after my ex contacted me and I found out the hard way. We started to talk again and trust me, it only gets worse (at least my ex was responding right away to my answers at the beginning) old feelings resurface and you let him fool you for a bit until you feel worse than after the breakup... then you start over.

    I'm on my 2nd month of NC now and speaking to him again was the worst mistake I made after the breakup. Don't do the same. I agree with answerme_tender, he's checking if he has any control over you and it ends the same way most of the time : a one night stand at the "best" and you going back to 2 years ago. It's like you didn't make any progress if you let him get to you.

    Protect yourself. Stick with NC. Good luck!
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    Oct 12, 2010, 10:40 AM

    Listen lovestoned, I'm all for "no contact" too, and if he was really interested in seeing you again, there wouldn't be weeks between emails, and he wouldn't keep you guessing about what his intentions were. Biut you say you haven't dated in 2 years? Some guys might think you never got over them. Maybe that's what he thinks. But it doesn't matter, what does matter is that you should get back into the social scene. I'm sure you go out with your friends sometimes, just work on getting some dates. Then when an old flame contacts you out of the blue, you won't be in such a vulnerable position. But get out there and have some fun. You should be over this guy after 2 years, but no contact, as great as it is, is not enough.
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    #146

    Oct 12, 2010, 10:54 AM

    Who knows what his intentions are for emailing you. So instead of disecting what he could possibily thinking, the question is, what are your intentions for responding? As long as you're ready to face the possible consequences of your own actions, regardless of his actions.
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    #147

    Oct 13, 2010, 12:33 PM
    Comment on beachloverjohn's post
    He doesn't have a clue that I still miss him. But I here you with the in between week emails... After an long term relationship I thought giving myself time to get over him was good.
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    #148

    Oct 13, 2010, 12:47 PM

    I know what you mean about still missing your ex. But don't give in. Your doing the right thing about giving yourself time, but its been two years. It might be time to go out and start dating. Dating doesn't mean you have to get into any serious relationship, its just getting you back out there. Good luck
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