[Ren6]

My ex didn't try to come back, but she did tell me that she now regrets "how" she ended things, ie; for two months straight, she lied to me about the affair she was having, even though I knew something was going on, and begged her to tell me. She finally broke down one night and told me she was in love with a mutual friend.

Time went on, and I'm in a happy, ten year relationship. She's still with our friend, but they are financially unstable and make foolish financial decisions. I know she misses my cooking!

Really, it doesn't matter. What matters is that we all move on, hopefully to happier situations.

[redhed35]

Rome,had to spread the rep,but you can really turn a sentence.. good stuff..

To the op.
Sometimes when I look back I realise 1 or 2 of the guys I was with,really were not as bad as I thought at the time,I was never bloody happy with them!with the distance of time I can see clearly where I was at fault.
But I don't regret the breakups..

What I perceive to be greener grass,might be someone else's burned out ground.

I guess we learn as we go on to look around at the pasture were in,maybe it just needs a cut.

[s_cianci]

I think it can happen sometimes. Certainly the grass isn't always greener, in fact, rarely ever is the grass greener elsewhere. I think it certainly gives the jilted party a sense of satisfaction if there's ever an indication that the other person has regrets.

[SuperDry18]

Once you've regreted ending something with someone, I find that you can never go back! Or that there's no point because it could never, deep down, be the same ever again.

It's a 50/50 chance that the grass is going to be greener on the other side! ;)

[paxe]

I have to admit that it gives a certain pleasure to know my ex is suffering and I know it is wrong. Really wrong. She dumped me for a guy who is returning to France and wants a long term relationship. She is quite sad and emotional and me on the other hand I'm doing better. Life is ironic.

[jmw0713]

I don't really bother to think about it much and really don't care if she regrets it or not. She broke-up with me for someone else. If that's what she wanted, why should she regret anything. That how everyone should feel about getting dumped.

I don't have enough time or feel like spending the emotional energy contemplating the what ifs anymore. If she has regrets... that's her problem, not mine!

[anewday]

My ex left me for someone who she said was the complete opposite of me. Does she regret it at the moment? I very much doubt it! Will she doubt it in the future; who knows? You can never really tell what someone really likes, or is attracted to. Most of the time that person doesn't even know themselves!

I've broken up with people before. I've been thinking about it vaguely, recently, and even contacted a couple of them. I tried to quantify if I felt anything for them still, and if I did, would it be worth going back, if the opportunity ever arose. If the connection was never there, we broke up due to personality clashes that neither had changed (although that's hard to ascertain sometimes), or they had text terrorised/begged for days/threatened to kill themselves then I just couldn't see myself even giving them the time of day, as sad it is. They'd lost my respect, and the connection wasn't there. However, with one of them I would give that second chance. Purely because that spark was still there when we spoke, we'd both improved, and they hadn't created a lot of drama when we broke up.

In summary: it depends on a lot of factors on both sides.

There are always regrets in every relationship that has ended, but the point is to learn from these so you don't make the same mistake twice.

[talaniman]

What a great question. I know my exes haunt me sometimes, and I would hope I haunt them too, but I'll never know.

[xadmin]

I was with my ex GF for 5 years and then I broke up with her. Then I dated someone else for 3 years. To tell you the truth. I do regret dumping my 1st GF of 5 years. The grass is not greener on the other side. It's just different (and in my case, less green on the other side).

Would I go back to my old GF of 5 years? Who knows, but I rather let time pass or date other before I make that decision. However, my old GF of 5 years was the best I ever had and I doubt I will meet somebody like her again.