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Chery · Mar 19, 2006, 01:13 PM

Originally Posted by samjg

im sory i did not realise im only new remeber :) goodluck

Don't worry dear, we don't bring out the whips and chains for little mistakes - we save those for the real jerks. You meant well, and we know it.

Take care, and stay with us, you'll get to know us all real well and be comfortable with us.

samjg · Mar 19, 2006, 10:44 PM

Originally Posted by Chery

Don't worry dear, we don't bring out the whips and chains for little mistakes - we save those for the real jerks. You meant well, and we know it.

Take care, and stay with us, you'll get to know us all real well and be comfortable with us.

Thank you! Yes hopefully I will get to know everyone real well every since I found this site I have been on hear constantly I love it :)

kandy · Mar 19, 2006, 11:12 PM

Do not answer your phone at all if it is her don't call her don't talk to her it is for the best date other people it is better that way

samjg · Mar 20, 2006, 12:48 AM

Originally Posted by kandy

do not answer your phone at all if it is her dont call her dont talk to her it is for the best date other people it is better that way

kandy... do you ever have anything positive to say?

mattvit · Mar 20, 2006, 11:11 AM

Guys, I still find myself going through ups and downs about this girl. I know she's garbage for what she did, but lately our memeries has been on my mind a lot and I find myself missing them and thinking about her a lot. I shouldn't be, but I still am. I stay busy, live my life, but its still not enough. My mind still races and thinks about everything and it makes me pull back in, instead of letting go. What can I do more?

Chery · Mar 20, 2006, 12:04 PM

Babe, we all have our memories, most of them fond, some of them crappy and we go through a mourning period when we have a loss. That's what makes us human.
Memories are there to teach us and help us develop into more mature beings - at least that's what the books say.
I still remember my first boyfriend, my ex-husband, and all the others, and they are too many to count at my age - and each of them has left some part of them ingrained in my heart and soul.
We have to take these, just like papers in a filing cabinet and sort them out and then prioritize their value to be able to advance in our lives.
I just recently got a message from a friend about life and it's expectancies which I will now share with you. This just proved to me that we are all still looking for that little bit of happiness and/or bliss - which we all deserve - but I also know that looking in the wrong places and dwelling on the past don't help in advancement of the spirit. So, take the below message as is and try to make something out of it for yourself. It certainly leaves a message for all of us.

Date: Sat, 18 Mar 2006 08:21:37 -0500
THE WHOLE TEXT IS TOO LONG TO TYPE HERE, SO I'M INCLUDING IN AS AN ATTACHMENT - PLESE READ IT.

Lots of love and well wishes to you Matt.

Love, Chery

mattvit · Mar 20, 2006, 12:11 PM

I know, but like why can't I focus on all the bad instead of the good. Like after what she did, I shouldn't even have any thoughts she shouldn't even exist to me and be wasting my time thinking of her. But I just keep overlooking all the bad and the crap and dwelling on all the good times. I mean she cheated and lied and deceived me, yet I don't let go or let that allow me to forget her?? Y is that

kandy · Mar 21, 2006, 08:26 PM

OK I'm sorry for wgat my twin said but hey I will have too say I hope you can move on and find someone who will be good to you you sound like you give this girl the world so I hope you can find someone to do the same for you

mattvit · Mar 27, 2006, 04:54 PM

If you have been following my story, this is what's new... so after 2.5 months, my ex comes on msn lastnite, but did not write to me nor me to her. I found it odd since she hasn't been on for a really long time. Today at lunch she coems on again and writes to me. Long story short, she miss me and wanted to talk to me, she still loves me and cares for me, she crys all the time about me and is always sad thinks of me all the time... YET she has a BF, the guy she cheated on me with... and also, last time we spoke she said she had no feelings for me to leave her alone she wants nuthing to do with me. What the heck is wrong with her??

CaptainForest · Mar 27, 2006, 05:26 PM

She sounds nuts.

Stay away from here. Move on.

You will only get hurt again.

~Just my 2 cents~

mattvit · Mar 27, 2006, 05:28 PM

Originally Posted by CaptainForest

She sounds nuts.

Stay away from here. Move on.

You will only get hurt again.

~Just my 2 cents~

Psycologicly/mentally unstable for sure. As for getting hurt, I've been hurt so much I don't feel anything anymore. If I can get some fun again out of it, that's all I'm looking for

kp2171 · Mar 27, 2006, 05:37 PM

Let her cry and feed someone else lines.

Tell her too bad. Don't give in.

She cheated. She's acting irrational.

Unless you're into that, better to just keep driving the car PAST the train wreck.

fredg · Mar 28, 2006, 09:03 AM

Hi, Matt,
From your last post, "getting fun out of it", may I offer a suggestion?
The more games we play, the more we get involved in making them up. If we become honest, caring, and wishing to have a good relationship built on those things, it will happen! I'm not saying it will happen with your ex, but it will happen eventually.
Meeting new girls with a SMILE, talking with them about Them, will make new friends in no time. Talking about ourselves with girls really turns them off to a certain extent.
I was divorced after my first 7 yrs of marriage, learned a lot, and in 3 years remarried; now for 29 years. Compromise is the key word that keeps us going, with love and honesty between each other.

mattvit · Mar 31, 2006, 03:05 PM

You guys all know my story by now so... neway, all week my ex has been coming on msn to chat with me after like 3 months she's not on. She has talked to me on mon, wed, and today on msn. Wed she came on like 5 times, but I wanst there and she kept writing to me... also, I've been getting private # calls on my cell like 2 times a day everyday this week. I called my service provider and asked them to tell me who was calling, and guess what it was HER. I don't know what's going on. For sure she's playing games or trying to mess with me. But if uve been following my story with this nut job, ude know that this is way getting stranger and stranger... she apparently still has feelings for me still and cares for me, but I can't believe a word she says... she's with a guy, the guy she cheated on me with... messed up man... she's very persistent... is she's looking for attention? Working her way back? Just F'ING with me?. seriously what the hell is going on?

kp2171 · Mar 31, 2006, 03:20 PM

Don't know what else you want to hear, man, that you haven't already heard.

Stand your ground. Ignore her if you need to. Tell her over and over its done and gone. Its not easy. Sucks to be you. But no one else is going to do this for you. And it might get messier before it gets better.

My wife had a nutjob ex that ended up getting fired because he was harassing her using his cell that was a work phone. His crap went on for something like 1.5 years... calls in the middle of the night. A few drive bys (as in just driving by her out of the way, in a different town, house).

Eventually it tapered off. And it ended after the last time he called and I told him he was at risk of losing another job, cause it was all getting documented.

So... sorry to hear this news. Hopefully this cleanses you of any "she's hot and i kinda miss her" feelings you were having before. No fun... you just got to practice saying no. and go away. Sucks, I know.

s_cianci · Mar 31, 2006, 04:10 PM

I really can't tell you for sure what's going on but you sound like you don't trust her, whatever she may be up to. That said, if her contacting you makes you feel uncomfortable, then tell her to stop ; you have every right to do that. From the sound of your post I really don't think she's on the up-and-up if she is in fact still with the guy that she cheated on you with so I wouldn't regard her attempts at contacting you as a sign of sincere interest on her part. I'm sorry if you were hoping to hear otherwise but I think you need to keep your guard up with this one.

fredg · Apr 1, 2006, 06:57 AM

Hi, Matt,
I think you already know the answer to this one; she doesn't know what she is doing!
I would leave her alone.
If worse comes to worse, you could go to your local Magistrate, if you have one, or the local courthouse, to the Court Clerk's Office, and ask how to take out a "peace bond" or "restraining order" against her.
This means she can't talk with you, can't call you, and can't be within, say, 300 feet of you!
I do wish you the best, and good luck.

mattvit · Apr 1, 2006, 11:06 AM

Originally Posted by fredg

Hi, Matt,
I think you already know the answer to this one; she doesn't know what she is doing!
I would leave her alone.
If worse comes to worse, you could go to your local Magistrate, if you have one, or the local courthouse, to the Court Clerk's Office, and ask how to take out a "peace bond" or "restraining order" against her.
This means she can't talk with you, can't call you, and can't be within, say, 300 feet of you!
I do wish you the best, and good luck.

Bah, I don't want to get legal about it... I honestly don't mind her right now, the more I look at what's happening, the more I die of laughter. I know its bad to say, but I actually feel a bit better to see her messed up... I don't know, I just find this really funny for some reason.

giggles · Apr 2, 2006, 08:53 PM

Atta boy! I have to agree, there's a sick satisfaction from knowing you're the one who's "ok" in all of this, isn't there? Hang in there, she's just proving to you now how wrong you would be together. And the strange truth is, you have had time to deal with all the relationship issues, where she hasn't - she has been too busy with someone else!
I was with a guy for three years, and two years ago he ended it. It really took a long time to get over him, but last year when I went to visit him, I was struck by how back in the past he was - confused in himself, over impulsive etc. He hadn't GROWN. It's the upside of pain - you can turn it into something constructive and become stronger for it. Good luck! You really don't need her anymore, now do you?

frezzy03 · Apr 3, 2006, 06:45 PM

Hey! As a girl do you know what I think? I think she's trying to get attention for herself since it doesn't seem to shake you she's with s'meone else well I can't really say she wants you back but I'll tell you to keep your guards up and try not to notice her. I tell you sooner or later she'll be back and please don't make a mistake of taking her back and hopefully you find someone better, then she'll know what she lost.have fun.