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hjpan · Aug 19, 2008, 10:09 AM

So how is everyone doing?

I'm fed up with my ex being a 8itch so I decided to get back at her whenever I see her in the future.

bigbird213 · Aug 19, 2008, 10:14 AM

Originally Posted by hjpan

So how is everyone doing?

I'm fed up with my ex being a 8itch so I decided to get back at her whenever I see her in the future.

Have you ever stopped to think that your energy might be better spent trying to move on and get healthy without your ex in your life rather than plotting revenge and being angry at her? It isn't productive and in fact is probably a detriment to your healing...

I'd recommend you take some of your focus off her and put more on yourself, otherwise your going to be in the same spot for a long time...

talaniman · Aug 19, 2008, 10:49 AM

Originally Posted by hjpan

So how is everyone doing?

I'm fed up with my ex being a 8itch so I decided to get back at her whenever I see her in the future.

Its your time so waste it all you want.:rolleyes:

bigbird213 · Aug 19, 2008, 12:55 PM

Originally Posted by talaniman

Its your time so waste it all you want.:rolleyes:

Basically what I was getting at - I guess I'm a bit long winded :p

hjpan · Aug 19, 2008, 07:06 PM

Originally Posted by bigbird213

Basically what I was getting at - I guess im a bit long winded :p

Sometimes I get those mood when I hate my ex so much I want to punch her in the face.
Majority of the time, I'm chilling

jiltedgirl · Aug 20, 2008, 09:12 AM

Originally Posted by hjpan

Majority of the time, I'm chilling

Good. You have to learn to let go of the hate if you truly want to move on.

hjpan · Aug 20, 2008, 10:22 PM

Originally Posted by jiltedgirl

Good. You have to learn to let go of the hate if you truly want to move on.

Lol~ there are those times when I'm angry D<

gg23 · Aug 21, 2008, 08:07 AM

Hey guys how's everyone doing? I have been out the nc for a good almost 2 weeks now. I can say though that I have made a considerable step forward... I have been seeing thins girl for a good almost 3 months now, and we just became exclusive. As far as my ex goes, well I don't worry about it so much anymore. The missing her thing and her being on my mind 24/7 is definitely changed. It's still kind of weird cause at time she pops up... and all this seems like a dream. She didn't respond to me the last time I tried to contact her, so since then I thing enough was enough. So yeah we do heal after all. Just hang on... and I wish everyone good luck and stay strong...
GG23

ISneezeFunny · Aug 21, 2008, 11:10 AM

Well, my ex recently contacted me saying, "hope you did well on the mcat"

... thanks? I haven't talked to you in 8 months... but... thanks?

bigbird213 · Aug 21, 2008, 11:28 AM

Originally Posted by ISneezeFunny

well, my ex recently contacted me saying, "hope you did well on the mcat"

...thanks? I haven't talked to you in 8 months...but...thanks?

Doesn't it make you wonder sometimes how they find these things out about us, yet we haven't talked to them in a long time. Maybe not in your case, but in mine there is virtually no link between her and I, yet somehow I hear stories about her knowing things about me... It's a little sad really - like she's checking on me :rolleyes:

ISneezeFunny · Aug 21, 2008, 11:45 AM

I know how she finds out things about me. She was an RA... and her residents all love me, and we still stay in touch; in fact, her residents call me pretty frequently to hang out... so I'm assuming she finds out things about me that way.

hjpan · Aug 21, 2008, 05:30 PM

*sigh*

I'm lost with myself... there's so many girls but all I ever do is think of sex D:

bigbird213 · Aug 21, 2008, 09:29 PM

Interesting thing happened tonight...

Was waiting in the parking lot at the bar for my buddies to show up. Saw a car drive down the street, and a dent in the side caught my attention. Looked a lot like my ex's car. Not sure if it was or wasn't, but I had a pit in my stomach for a few minutes.

Good news is as soon as my friends showed up, I pretty much forgot about it. Didn't bother me, but its moments like that which scare me about seeing her around sometime... Funny that it isn't a big deal, but the gut reaction feels so intense.

ISneezeFunny · Aug 21, 2008, 09:34 PM

Hah. Similar deal. My ex's old residents called me for a ride to the local grocery store... and when I went to pick them up, my ex's new boyfriend was there. I was told they were broken up, I guess not. Regardless, no matter. I just drove by.

jiltedgirl · Aug 21, 2008, 10:37 PM

Nice. You all have come a long way. Proof: one of the posts on the forum (I don't remember which one) recently referred to sneezy as the "poster-child" for recovering from breakups or something akin to that. Hahaha. Flattering, no?

I'm stoked to see all my friends when I go back to college in a week, but I have this fear of running into the ex. The thought makes me dread going back.

He better leave me alone.

Or else.

ISneezeFunny · Aug 21, 2008, 11:14 PM

I'm the poster child! I'm the poster child!

If he doesn't leave you alone.. you going to hiss at him? Possibly bite him?

jiltedgirl · Aug 22, 2008, 12:24 AM

Well, I'll probably hiss. I mean, that's pretty basic. As for biting, I believe that's what you do.

ISneezeFunny · Aug 22, 2008, 07:37 AM

They don't call me chompers for nothing.

jiltedgirl · Aug 22, 2008, 09:31 AM

Hahaha. You weirdo!

And oooh, another nickname to add to the list. ;)

losingit77 · Aug 22, 2008, 03:57 PM

Well, its been 5 months since breakup. Wow, has it really only been that long. Can't really talk about NC because there has been some communication every couple of weeks initiated on his part. (I've decided to ignore that from now on. Not out of animosity or anything, just because its pointless to maintain and honestly, I really just don't care anymore).

But yesterday I came to a realization. Aside from feeling awesome lately and more like myself than I've felt in years, I realized yes I lost one relationship. But by losing that one relationship, I've strengthened so many of my other relationships. I've become a better friend, a better daughter, a better aunt, better sister, etc. Sometimes in a romantic relationship, we lose ourselves in that relationship and forget about all the other people around us who love us and need us. We neglect the other things/people in our lives who matter and who will ALWAYS be there for us. Never again. I've strengthened existing relationships and reconnected with old dear friends. I'm happier than I've been in years!

So, I guess the point is. If you've still struggling with your breakup, stop focusing on the ex and the negativity, and put your effort into strengthening and rebuilding the other relationships in your life that you do still have and with the people who are happy to have you in their life. They are out there. It'll make a world of difference.