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    #121

    Jul 4, 2010, 01:51 PM

    I apologize for my caviler attitude. I don't like paying 89 cents for 4 chocolate covered waffers but I'm not criticizing you. I'm listening to the advice, soaking it in, and taking up new hobbies as suggested. I like tals comments about dating to get to know cool people and not always for romance. Kind of like buying bananas to look at instead of eat, but I can get used to that.

    Frogger's not hard to play. One person is the alligator and can only move right to left and the other person is frogger and can move in any direction (as long as they're hopping) but backwards. Time limit and music are optional.
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    #122

    Jul 5, 2010, 12:02 AM

    Just a heads up. I am currently nc with three women and one of thems birthday is coming up. We are Facebook friends. Do I post happy birthday on her wall?
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    #123

    Jul 5, 2010, 12:27 AM

    No contact. The answer is always no contact when the idea is to stop all contact.

    You should be getting the idea with three on going instances. The answer is always no contact.

    Imagine that they don't even exsist.

    So you are ending three relationships , working on another with a shy girl, and looking to start dating a more diverse cross section of women?

    Is this correct?
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    #124

    Jul 5, 2010, 06:32 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by KyleS28 View Post
    just a heads up. i am currently nc with three women and one of thems birthday is coming up. we are facebook friends. do i post happy birthday on her wall?
    No Contact includes NOT looking at her Facebook page. Even if she doesn't know about it, you are keeping contact with her at the front of your mind and not allowing yourself to heal and move on.
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    #125

    Jul 5, 2010, 09:10 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by martinizing2 View Post
    No contact. The answer is always no contact when the idea is to stop all contact.

    You should be getting the idea with three on going instances. The answer is always no contact.

    Imagine that they don't even exsist.

    So you are ending three relationships , working on another with a shy girl, and looking to start dating a more diverse cross section of women?

    Is this correct?
    the confusing thing about nc is I don't know when nc ends? I don't know if I 'am' nc with three women or 'were' nc with three women? I've already been healed so does the song and dance continue? A little happy birthday shows no hard feelings right? My birthday is around the corner and I would want a happy birthday from them.

    Quote Originally Posted by Cat1864 View Post
    No Contact includes NOT looking at her Facebook page. Even if she doesn't know about it, you are keeping contact with her at the front of your mind and not allowing yourself to heal and move on.
    if I don't look at their Facebook page, how am I going to 'randomly' bump into them in public?
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    #126

    Jul 5, 2010, 09:40 AM

    Still trying to manipulate the situation to fit your own agenda. That's what I see. The sign that you are healed is what you do about other areas in your life and you would be to busy doing your own thing to accidentally bump into them.

    Saying your healed, and actually being healed are to different things.

    If you still need attention from them, then you stick with NC until you don't or your mindset has changed. As of now it has not, but you think you can take the advice you have been given and juggle three woman on your string, for your own purposes.

    Where is the balance?
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    #127

    Jul 5, 2010, 10:33 AM

    If you aren't sure if NC is over or not. Then it's not.

    Be sure beyond a shadow of a doubt. When you are that confidant. Mark the calendar and continue nc for two years and repeat the process.
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    #128

    Jul 6, 2010, 11:27 AM
    Girlfriends been acting weird
    I've been dating this girl that has been acting really weird. Today, I told her on the phone that I needed to head over to the library. On my way there she jumps out of a tree, hugs me, and wants to get all pda with me. What is someone in their 20s doing hiding up in a tree? This is the second time in the past two weeks this has happened, but she may have been hiding behind a bush or something the first time.

    She is so weird. Is this behavior inspired by a book or movie or something? I don't get where this is coming from? Is this supposed to be romantic or exciting? I hate these surprises. I told her to stop jumping out of them trees because I'm starting to get fed up with her, but I don't think it registered with her. One more tree and she will be searching for someone else.
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    #130

    Jul 6, 2010, 11:39 AM

    I think you need help. You sound like you're making this up. Either that or your dating a monkey.
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    #131

    Jul 6, 2010, 11:51 AM
    This is about sal. She is hard to communicate with and the more comfortable she gets around me the weirder she is. I don't think she's dated much. She over analyzes everything and her weird clothing is now matching her behavior.
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    #132

    Jul 6, 2010, 11:53 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by KyleS28 View Post
    this is about sal. she is hard to communicate with and the more comfortable she gets around me the weirder she is. i dont think shes dated much. she over analyzes everything and her weird clothing is now matching her behavior.
    Your perfect match... congratulations!:)
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    #133

    Jul 6, 2010, 11:54 AM

    What the , lol
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    #134

    Jul 6, 2010, 12:00 PM

    Maybe she is taking something. That sounds strange to me.
    A couple of weeks ago she was shy and introverted. What happened?
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    #135

    Jul 6, 2010, 12:02 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Homegirl 50 View Post
    Maybe she is taking something. That sounds strange to me.
    A couple of weeks ago she was shy and introverted. What happened?
    She's drinking Red Bull and taking vitamins. :rolleyes:
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    Jul 6, 2010, 12:18 PM

    Sounds to me this girls got a sense of fun, wheres yours gone, I think its really fun that she would do such a thing, she's obviously playful and adventurous.

    If she sat around twiddling her thumbs you would complain about that saying she is boring she's got no sense of fun or adventure.

    Wheres your sense of adventure and fun. Seems no matter what a girl does with or for you its never going to be enough or how you're expecting her to be.

    Methinks its something to do with forever dating girls on the rebound, perhaps yes. Could just be..

    Chill out have some fun.

    Is this the shy one,
    Or mk1 mk2 mk3 miss rebound 2010
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    #137

    Jul 6, 2010, 12:34 PM

    If you think she's weird, why are you still dating her? Sounds like a bad match.

    Let someone else appreciate her weirdness!
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    #138

    Jul 6, 2010, 12:35 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by positiveparent View Post
    Sounds to me this girls got a sense of fun, wheres yours gone, I think its really fun that she would do such a thing, shes obviously playful and adventurous.

    If she sat around twiddling her thumbs you would complain about that saying she is boring shes got no sense of fun or adventure.

    Wheres your sense of adventure and fun. Seems no matter what a girl does with or for you its never going to be enough or how youre expecting her to be.

    Methinks its something to do with forever dating girls on the rebound, perhaps yes. could just be..

    Chill out have some fun.

    Is this the shy one,
    or mk1 mk2 mk3 miss rebound 2010
    Have to spread some rep, but you're on it, positiveperent
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    #139

    Jul 6, 2010, 12:36 PM

    Starting to understand why you find out who your dealing with before you give them a title?
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    #140

    Jul 6, 2010, 12:48 PM

    Its totally wrong of you to name her weird, for all you know it is you that's weird you do seem to be obsessing over one girl after another.

    Why not take them at face value instead you seem to be hell bent on finding fault with one then another then another.

    Relax be yourself you've nothing to prove, or if you do its in your own mind, if you can't find anything good to say about these rebounds of yours then say nothing,

    What gives you the right to call her weird, or say she dresses weird, she was OK for you last weekend when you posted your shy girl shy boy thread.

    Seems she's found her confidence too, maybe that's what's narked you...

    Try looking at yourself before you pass judgement on someone,.

    You'll probably find your answer then...

    1 girls weird or whatever, yes believable,
    2 girls not up to scratch suspect its you..
    3 girls not up to your ideals, then its not them its you.

    can you see the pattern...

    Are you still conducting these liasions according to "trus" philosophy??

    If so then maybe that's where you're going about it wrong, or skewed. Be you and let the girls you date be themselves at same time, don't look for faults, unless you're looking inward to yourself.

    I feel sorry for all these young girls, being as good as innocently baited hooked reeled in and thrown back out...

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