[jc105]

Was that a serious post. If its true, awesome for you guy. And on the flip side. There is nothing you can do to make it hurt less. My girlfriend moved out 5 days ago after 4 years. It just hurts, like someone punching you in the stomach.

But I really did feel better after a Powerman 500 concert and a trip to a college bar. Good times CAN make the pain go away for a little while. But you will know when you will feel better, and it will probably be after you meet someone that you connect with. That is the hardest thing for me personally to imagine.

JC

[Wildcat21]

Matt - she has A LOT OF EXPALINING TO DO!! Don't take her back that easily - be a man about it. You guys actually have a lot of fixing to do - figure out WHY she left in the first place.

All I can say is - and its always true - once a cheater - always a cheater. Can you EVER really trust her fully again?? Hue answer you need.

ASK HER WHY she ended up with this guy?? Becase, quite frankly, as we have discussed before... she'll do it again.

And I don't want to see you go through this again.

[Wildcat21]

Also -you don't trust her - and she didn't respect you enough to run off with another guy.

A guy, of course, who after a couple months, was no fun to her anymore.

[mattvit]

She was seeing him for 1.5 months casually. And then she said after I broke up with her she fooled around with him but didn't sleep with him. She said she couldn't take what she was doing anymore and that she knew she was doing was wrong and had to put and end to the games and lies. She said that she missed me and that no one will ever be able to replace me and that she wants me back. I don't trust her and I told her that. She told me she did what she did because her feelings changed for me and its for all the reasons you guys told me. That I wasn't the guy that I was at the beginning and things got to comfortable and a bit boring. Anyway, I didn't take her back. I'm talking to her and getting all the info that I need and figuring stuff out.

[talaniman]

You've come a long way through hell. You now have the power to decide what it is you really want and need to do for yourself. Take all the time you need since you are the one who got the boot planted 10 inches up your butt,so make sure you got it out and your butt is healed before you make any decisions. Remenberr she still has another boot.Take your time,this time and think before you act.:cool:

[Wildcat21]

Two things:

1. Remember to be the guy she liked... that's probably the real you. Be the fun guy. Make fun of her.

2. Take your time. Talk it out with her. She has a lot of expalining to do.

Lets hope to hell she's telling the truth here.

[s_cianci]

From what you've described, it does sound as if she has emotional problems that will probably require psychiatric intervention for her to deal with them. It doesn't sound like she's able to cope in a relationship right now. You can encourage her to get the help she needs but ultimately that will have to be her decision. I know it'll be hard but now you've got to pick up and get on with your life, without her for right now. Maybe eventually the two of you will get back together again but for now you've got to go on and make your plans according to what's best for you without worrying about her.

[blueiman]

so, she contacted me lastnite wanting me back. she was seeing another guy and couldnt keep it from me anymore and she wants me in her life again, misses what we had and can't go on being a horible person and wants to try to be together again...............?????????????????????????????? ????????????

Does the words yo-yo mean anything to you?. lets see... she left you and she was with another guy... hum... meaning: she did not want to be with you so she wanted to see another guy(s). So, if she wanted you she would not leave you. Right? But she did leave. Thus, she did not want to be with you. Get it? Now she has nobody but you. Do you want to be the second choice in her life. She will leave again. Are you sure you can handle the rejection a second time? You have to know what type of a person you are and can you handle her. Can you be happy when she is in your life and/or gone again? If you decide to get back together I would go slow with a relationship. Do not put yourself in a situation that may destroy you. So, take a step back. Look at what you had and what you will have if you're together. Just have fun and go out once in a while. Don't push it. Even if she pushes don't do it. If she leaves because you did not push hard enough its because she was using you. If she agrees to go slow then she cares enough. LMF (later my friend).

[mattvit]

Guys, she never broke up with the other guy before she contacted me. This was all a hox...

[mattvit]

Guys, girl is so --- in the head. I know 120% she has problems. Because, she calls me before saying, to leave her alone not to call her all that BS, she doesn't have feelings for me that she wasn't thinking. I was like what the heck. This girl is CRACKED HARD. I told her listen you u need serious help because your really --- in the head. All this --- uve been doing makes no --- sense, and your giving me lies and bull and crazyness. She's like no I'm fine I know what I'm thinking, I said listen what's going on in your head may be fine to you in your own head, but in the rest of the world we live in your way off and messed up. Anyway, she was saying all kinds of crap that was strange. I know I should have just said bye like after 2 seconds she started to talk, but I wanted to see what she was saying. Anyway, I told her she's cracked and that she needs help. I slipped in a few ashole coments because at that point I was fed up, everything that was going on was just bull on top of bull. I asked her how the hell can she even look at herself in the mirror after all this... no respons... I said if I were you ide barf on myself after looking into the mirror knowing all this crap you did... guys, I know I'm at fault for letting this --- drag on like this, but at that point I was like screw this, wtv I said she deserved it. I don't care that I was no better than her and just as low as her for saying all these bad things. It felt good. I told her she's garbage, and after no response, I hung up. She called back, saying why did you hang up on me, I said because there isn't anything to say and since your garbage your not worth any of my time. I said, now U start leaving ME alone. And piece of advice, go get some help because your really cracked in the head, all you are is garbage and its meant to be thrown away. So have a nice life, that's even if your able to... CIAO!. neways I don't give a crap. I lost it, but I don't care. Everything happends for a reason so --- this.

Guys, wtv you guys have been saying, I'm sorry to say but I think with this girl it doesn't apply. She's messed up in the head and that's the problem. I know I'm --- a little too, but can you balme me. I just had enough of this and lost it. I'm sorry I've wasted all of your time on this garbage.

[fredg]

Hi,
Living life is wonderful. There are ups and downs. The most important thing in life is to come to know what is a "down", what is the problem, and what to do about it. If there isn't anything that can be done about it, then one tries to forget it and move on.
You have to move on. You will be doing yourself more harm the longer you hang onto something that isn't going to be. I know it's hard... been there... done that myself.
Getting over a relationship takes time; about a year in some cases. So, I do wish you the very best, and hang in there; talking with new girls. Listen to them. You can make more friends by listening to others, than by having them listen to you.

[Wildcat21]

Hox?

Matt - you been boozing?

[mattvit]

Hox... meaning that wtv was happening was just another deception or a seriously twisted game due to her being mentaly unstable. She has massive psycological problems.

[Lansing]

As in "hoax".. . Like Wildcat said, you do look a bit drunk in your last message...

I think you need to forget this girl.. it doesn't seem like a healthy situation!

[mattvit]

I wasn't drunk, just dumbfounded at what had happened and her crazyness... the situation with all the BS I've been subjecting myself through. This girl has mental problems and I've been allowing myself to be affected by it and let it cause me problems and head aches for what... a ? I'm going to F'up my life for a GIRL, one who has issues and psycologial problems?.

[samjg]

Hey look your girlfeind sounds like she is going through the same thing as me at the moment, one question... does she work?, another question is she under 18? Because I know I hate my older boyfriend going out to bars and stuff and yer you can do what you want but you need to consider what she feels too, and it is great that you are supportive of her, I personally am going through a hard stage with my boyfriend I don't know why or what is going on, I love him but I hate the way he is, and I do lose it, she does sound like she is going through a break down, you need to get her to see a docter asap, and go with her because sometimes it hard to talk to a starnger without someone you love with you, she mayb needs to be treated for depression, sometimes with some people depression tablets will help you in a short time and through this you will just have to supprt this if you really love her just remember it is really hard for her because she is confused, and if she is cryinng for no reason she will realise this and it will make her cry more often because she doesn't know what is going on, this is were you step in, she needss you

[mattvit]

Samjg: please read all the posts so you are up to date with this situation. There is a lot more to my situation than my original post that u really need to read... TO SUM IT UP, SHE WAS SEEING SOMEONE ELSE AND WAS CHEATING.

[Chery]

hey look your girlfeind sounds like she is going thru the exact same thing as me at the moment, one question...does she work??,,,, another question is she under 18? becuz i know i hate my older bf going out to bars n stuff and yer you can do what you want but you need to consider what she feels too, and it is great that you are supportive of her, i personally am going thru a hard stage with my bf i dont know why or what is going on, i love him but i hate the way he is, n i do lose it, she does sound like she is going thru a break down, you need to get her to see a docter asap, n go with her because sometimes it hard to talk to a starnger without someone you love with you, she mayb needs to be treated for depression, sometimes with some ppl depression tablets will help u in a short time n thru this you will just have to supprt this if you really love her just remember it is really hard for her becuz she is confused, and if she is cryinng for no reason she will realise this n it will make her cry more often because she doesnt know what is going on, this is were you step in, she needss you

Dear samjg, don't take mattvit's comment too hard. He's gone through a lot, and yes, almost like you, but not exactly. What you just advised to him is what you should do to yourself - find that someone that will support and comfort you instead the jerk you wrote about in the other post. Talk to people, and see new ones, get out of your depression and gain your self-respect back. Wishing you lots of luck, Chery

[Chery]

Matt - you've gone through the whole catalog of crap any one person can handle. I've noticed that you've slipped a little in your own mind - I mean you are probably hitting the bottle more often, feeling continuously sorry for yourself, and still not letting go... You need to let go, and stop receiving calls or any other communication from this gal.

Please be kinder to yourself - and start living life as you should, by having fun, enjoying other things and people, and looking forward to your future. Right now you don't sound like you are going anywhere else - you're just staying in one place and circling - dwelling on something that you will never trust anyway, so STOP, look, and find a new direction in life.

Some things in life will always disappoint us, no matter how, or where, but we have to be collected and strong enough to handle it, or we wind up dropping into a hole that will be very hard to get out of without professional help. Listen to 'MoM', hon, and do something about your state of mind - go off on a weekend to another city, enjoy a new surrounding and just distance your mind from all this baggage your are still holding on to. Throw that trash away, and clean up your act, dear - I'm worried about you. I will be away in hospital for four weeks, and when I come back, I want to hear a better state of mind from Matt - hear me!! You know that we are here for you, but the rest you've got to do yourself - so get started. It's never too late to start anew - it's a survival instinct - so let it kick in as soon as possible.

Hoping to hear better news from you when I get back, Love, Chery

Stop being sad, get mad, and change some things in your life - you need it to survive!

[samjg]

Samjg: please read all the posts so u r up to date with this situation. there is a lot more to my situation than my origional post that u really need to read.......... TO SUM IT UP, SHE WAS SEEING SOMEONE ELSE AND WAS CHEATING.

I'm sory I did not realise I'm only new remember :) goodluck