[bigbird213]

When are we having an NC party?

[classicrocker]

Day 6 NC.

[chuff]

When are we having an NC party?

I don't know, but I'm there.

[kaneda]

A few hours ago he IMed me saying "Talk to me damn it".What? Was he being playful?

[chuff]

A few hours ago he IMed me saying "Talk to me damn it".What? Was he being playful?

He's being lonely.

[bigbird213]

him denying he EVER send me or will be sending me mixed messages.

So... we've established he's a liar.

Don't give in, your doing the right thing.

[kaneda]

Both of you are probably right,but maybe I'm at fault too - trying to overanalyze simple words and gestures.

[bigbird213]

Both of you are probably right,but maybe i'm at fault too - trying to overanalyze simple words and gestures.

Very dangerous territory and many of us have been there. I know it sucks to hear "Just don't do it" but check the sticky in the forum, it has tons of things to do to keep busy. That's the key, keep yourself busy so you can't sit and think about it.

[Romefalls19]

BigBird, I must admit, I am very pleased with the progress you have made. Just take a look back to your original posts here and then read the posts you have done within the past couple days. It's truly a breath taking experience when you realized you are starting to heal

[bigbird213]

BigBird, I must admit, I am very pleased with the progress you have made. Just take a look back to your original posts here and then read the posts you have done within the past couple days. It's truly a breath taking expierence when you realized you are starting to heal

Thanks man. It really is pretty breathtaking as you say. It's such a good feeling. I think I started to notice when I began coming on here to help other people more than I came on here to get help myself. In a weird way, answering other questions gives me the answers to my own questions before they even come up. Its funny really...

[Romefalls19]

I know what you mean, I spend all day at work on this site and it's not even for my own accord now. It's to hopefully prevent others from making similar mistakes or aiding them with the break up.

[sweetlee102]

What is the NC??

[nickshehe]

sweetlee102 - No Contact. But its almost a religion around these parts :]

[bigbird213]

This thread has got to be headed for a record for longest on the site...

[nickshehe]

I think the NC calender is genius... We should start making them and selling them..

[chuff]

Thanks man. It really is pretty breathtaking as you say. It's such a good feeling. I think I started to notice when I began coming on here to help other people more than I came on here to get help myself. In a weird way, answering other questions gives me the answers to my own questions before they even come up. Its funny really....

You know what's interesting about this statement is I'm a living example of what happens both when you come and when you leave. When I first came here it was because I got used again and after being put in my place I started posting here to help others and to strengthen my brain. Using what I learned here I got a girlfriend and when it ended I felt the sting for about a week but I knew how to handle it and moved forward. I also saw it coming which was the first time ever, and when I did everything right. Then I moved on to my last girlfriend and I stopped coming here because of the lack of time and I completely got used again. I guess what I'm saying is, once I stopped using and assisting others here I compeletly forgot the basics and allowed myself to get taken advantage of again. In just a couple weeks I'm back to my old self and I see clearly again. I have to give most of the credit to Tal for steering me with just a couple of messages and I'm good. But this place steers you without emotions when you need it the most, which in turn as you said will help you when they get in your way.

[losingit77]

Well, almost 2 months since we broke up. Still feel a little low but not so much from missing him. More so sad at what we've become. Rather than leaving on a good terms, it got really ugly this past weekend and A LOT of things were said that shouldn't have been said (So, don't ever break NC!). And that hurts. Don't miss him though. I miss what we had, miss who I thought he was, but not him. That's all.

Sometimes you think you know someone. You put them up on this pedestal and then BOOM. You got to knock them off and put yourself back up on that pedestal!

[nickshehe]

Tal, the only reason you want to patent the calender is so you can needle in all those philosophical quotes of yours ;[].
The calendar would mostly consist of tal quoting "Sorry for your loss - read my signatures" - lol. To be honest though you're somewhat the hero of the forums I think we all owe you our thanks ( Im sucking up to be your favourite broken-hearted one) :)

-Chuff I wanted to give you a greenie but it didn't let me.. You're so right though.

[zooropa1985]

Guys I have to say right now I'm sooooooo angry at my ex, she's done nuttin but mess with my mind all day, I'm seriously thinking of changing numbers

[talaniman]

tal, the only reason you want to patent the calender is so you can needle in all those philosophical quotes of yours ;[].

Why not?? How about my latest, "Learn from it, don't dwell on it".

Seriously, I appreciate the kind words. Anyone seen the OP?