[Nestorian]

Never expect anything, that way if you don't get what you expected, you cant' be disappointed. ;)

Peace and kindness to all.

[talaniman]

May the New Year bring you all New Blessings!!

[a la king]

When the clock strike twelve tonight, I will pick my pride up off the ground and move on and get a better life. I will cut my ex completely off my life and will not look back.

Heh, I was just thinking the same thing tonight. Along with the pride will be as much Whiskey as my gut can handle... Not to block anything out-- more to just let loose..

[artlady]

All THE LORDS BLESSINGS ";)

To you all kind and loving people who really do get involved and truly care and go so sleep at night worrying about the people you touch. Thank- you and God bless you.

You askme people are really too cool :D

All Gods love to you

Say Yaaaa Eh Yaaa :rolleyes:

[ja77]

When the clock strike twelve tonight, I will pick my pride up off the ground and move on and get a better life. I will cut my ex completely off my life and will not look back.

This is the year then for you.

Happy New Year hope 2009 brings you all you want ;)

[starbuck8]

You are doing the right thing. He was playing games with you and making you miserable! Starting the New Year off on the right foot by looking forward is your best plan!

Best of luck, and HAPPY NEW YEAR to you! Cheers! :)

... all the others included! ;) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=03Vkl...eature=related

[Gav91]

Happy new year!!

[aszmhodeus]

Happy New Year! Wish I had the strength to do that!

Hoping 2009 will be a better year for all of us!

[charlylongmore4]

Good for you I was thinking the same thing

Bring it on!! 1

[starbuck8]

Happy New Year! Wish I had the strength to do that!

You can do it, and you DO have the strength to do it. You are "choosing" not to do it. I'm not saying that it doesn't hurt. The OP is hurt also, but has made a decision! Don't let some boy run your life and have that much control over you. Cry you eyes out, and then get up and get out there and find out what is waiting for you.

Happy New Year!

[loveyouall]

It has been 3 months since my ex broke up with me, we haven't had any contact for exactly 9 weeks. I thought that I have accepted the fact that our relationship is over and he has already moved on and let go. Recently I saw what he wrote in his blog that he said he loves me. After I read that, I have the mix feelings, I felt happy that he still loves me and still have me in his heart, and still think of me, but on the other hand, I'm confused why he said that in the blog. What he said kind of giving me hope again. During these 3 months of n/c, he didn't acknowledged my birthday, he didn't respond to my email of Xmas greeting. Why suddenly he said that in his blog ? I don't understand, is he trying to tell me something ? Or is this a way for him to let out his feeling ?

After I read his blog, I kind of wanting to contact him by sending him email or text, it seems like I'm back on a thread of hope again. What should I do ? What if he's trying to relate the message to me that we still have a chance, and if I stick with the n/c, that means I'll miss the chance.

[Green Elephant]

When my girlfriend broke up with me, it took me forever it seemed to accept the fact that we were no more, and she was pursuing other guys. I would see her around, and if she gave me one smile, it would put me right back into the world of hurt, and confusion.

Your best bet is to fill your life with your friends and family. Don't think about whether your missing out on opportunities with a guy who dumped you. I know it's difficult to hear, but it's so true when they say "If it's meant to happen, it WILL happen".

Don't let him play mind games with you. Don't even let him know that he's affecting you. It's a great confident boost for him if you show him that he's still on your mind all the time.

The best thing to do is be happy. He dumped you, and unless he makes an obvious attempt to come back and try to work on it with you, don't contact him.

Keep your friends close.

[talaniman]

The best thing about NC, is you have to do nothing. Just stop reading his blogs, and the false hope will disappear as fast as it came, and you will still be moving on.

[friend4u178]

What if he's trying to relate the message to me that we still have a chance, and if I stick with the n/c, that means I'll miss the chance.

If he is trying to relate that then he should at least have the guts to tell you.

Don't get stuck with false hope , it'll just drag you back to where you were.

[Homegirl 50]

He may love you, but that does not mean he wants to be with you.
He left you and if he wants you he could also let you know that too (to your face).
Stop reading his blog. Move on.

[Romefalls19]

Delete him off your myspace and any other type of social networking site. This will disable any type of reading what he writes and prevent the confusion.

[talaniman]

Amazing how a hint of contact with the ex has you feeling hope again. Imagine how you would feel if you talked in person!

Until you stop being so curious and peeping online at him, the feeling's will stay stirred and fresh in your brain, and confusion will overtake good common sense. You can't move on that way.

[Geckobellie]

My ex does this-Says she doesn't want me and wants to be friends. I tell her I can't I still love her and she says she understands and will stop and then texts me again---It's sick.
I admit I hang on hope of nothing-I asked her to tell me if she loved me or not and no response--Life is too short for games... We are the good people not the jerks that string along people for their selfish minds..

[frangipanis]

You're only going to continue getting hurt and confused checking in on him like that.

My partner is on 'my space' and not once have I asked him about it. He says it's his way of keeping in touch with his kids, which is fine with me. As I don't have a 'my space' page, I'm not even curious to know what it's about. I think I prefer it that way.

Don't get started on that track in the first place and you won't miss it, and it's one less thing to worry about.

[kaitou]

My advice to you is to not contact him.

Here is my story.

After my ex broke up with me, I followed the advice on this site, and did NC.

One day, one and a half year later he contacted me out of nowhere. I've moved on at that point, and was comfortable with exchanging emails. 2 weeks later, he wants to meet up. I said yes...

And then I never heard from him again..

Until half a year later.. he pops up again, apologizing to me for disappearing over the summer.. and telling me that he still think about me from time to time.. telling me that he has such "fond" memories of us... telling me how much he wants a relationship but he just doesn't have time, and it sucks...

Well.. it was obvious that he was fishing.. He was leading me on, and he wanted me to say "yeah i'm fine with a guy that won't commit."

Well, I didn't. It's better to be single, then be in a bad relationship.
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My point is, your ex may write in the blog that he still think about you, that he still likes you. But the fact is, he didn't contact you. So he doesn't really want you. If a guy want you. He'll tell you, he'll come to you.

Besides you sent him a xmas greetings, so its clear that you still want contact with him. If he really "loves" you, he should man up, and contact you.

And even if he does, be careful, and keep your eyes open!
Don't settle!

So don't do anything, just get busy, be more involved, and continue moving on. Also stop looking at his blog, in fact don't ever visit there again! You're trying to get him out of your system.