[PrttyBrownEyez21]

He first spoke to me when I was walking to the library and when he was with a teacher.then I was in the lunch line with my best friend and she called him over and he hugged us and then got in line with us.then we started talking about how he should stand behind us and be our bodygaurd because there was this big scary kid behind us.then my best friend was saying how I wanted to get with that kid and my crush.lets call him "sam" was like you want me to hook you up and I was no no no and then he went back and started talking to him and I was like "sam" if you do that I will never talk to you,but he ended up talking to the kid about joining the football team next year.then he asked us if we were going to some game last night and we both said no.then he showed us this self-defense move,that's always a wrestling move.. idk what it was.then it was turn to get my lunch and I was saying what I wanted on my wrap and he was like saying stuff out loud as if I was saying that's what I wanted on it and then I got out of the line.

[PrttyBrownEyez21]

OK so remember I said we hadn't been talking or anything since last Monday when my friend asked him if he liked me and he said he only liked me as a friend. Well what I don't get is,if he didn't,then why he was avoiding contact w me or whatever you want to call it by not talking to me or hugging me or anything.then the other other day we were walking right beside each other and none of us said anything,then I finally said "hey,how are u?" then he said he was doing fine, but then after that it was weird,because for like the first time we didn't have anything to say and it was kind of awkard.then yesterday,I was walking out of my class and he was walking down to his class and he hugged me, and he was like my be that was a bad hug and I was like yea it was.then later during class,I looked up at the door and he was standing in the doorway and then he came in and he walked in and came over to where I was sitting and put one arm around my neck, and he "claimed" he was looking for "his book." then he searched around a little bit.. then left.idk.. I find his behavior weird.. its hard to read.I guess that's his way of showing he wants thing to be cool.. but like I said I don't really know...

[talaniman]

Maybe for all his confidence outside, it may be a different story inside.

[PrttyBrownEyez21]

Wait,what are u talking about... u lost me lol

[talaniman]

Sorry, but guys put up walls to hide things from everyone else, and this is actually a form of protection from being hurt, or humiliated, not saying this is the case, but its likely. Young guys, like young girls are inexperienced, and they may hide that fact from others. Does that make sense?

[PrttyBrownEyez21]

Hide what... how they truly feel?so your saying that he's hiding the fact that's he's inexperienced?ineperienced with what?

[N0help4u]

ok so the guy who ive been crushing on n whos always pickin on me n flirtin w me now knows that i like him. when my friend asked him who he liked "he said no one" n then she told him that i liked him but even tho he knows that i like he still flirts with me n then the other day he comes up 2 me n hugs me n says somethin like "u never talk 2 me anymore..ur like avoiding me or somethin."i mean i guess u could say that was kinda tru,but that was because i didnt kno how 2 act around him.so what should i do?

Tell him you don't talk to him anymore cause you are getting nice attention from him now so you must be doing something right and go with the flow basically.

[PrttyBrownEyez21]

Thanks but that's an old post.. that was my first one... its always the first one when it goes to a new page

[N0help4u]

Well how's it going then? IF he is still being unpredictable I would just let it go.

People reply to old buried posts that do bring them to the top and I rarely think to check the date.

[PrttyBrownEyez21]

I mean I don't know.recently.. like last week recently.. my best friend asked him what he thought of me or whatever and he said he only liked me as a friend.that kind of threw me off because I had gotten the impression that he mightve by all the things he did.then for a few days after that,we didn't talk at all.. I mean we saw each other we just didn't speak.then finally we did.but I just get it.. why would he have been avoiding me.then yesterday.. he actually hugged me for the 1st time since that day my friend asked him and then during last block he came in my room "lookin for his book" or so he said.as soon as he came in the room,he came straight over to where I was and put his arm like around my neck and started looking around for his book.

[N0help4u]

He is most likely *avoiding* you because he only wants to be friends and feels he has to back off because he doesn't want you getting the wrong impression of anything more than just that and/ or he may feel he is starting to like you more than he wants to allow himself to.
Be friends and go with the flow and don't expect much more.

[PrttyBrownEyez21]

I wish I knew which one of those were the reason why.I mean I am trying to go with the flow.. but its hard.. because I do still like him..

[N0help4u]

You might have to come right out when you have his attention and time
Ask him Don't use the word us or anything that would make him feel uncomfortable
But ask what do you think of our friendship, how do you feel things are going, how do you want them to go?
Tell him you are happy with however he feels but you feel you would like to be on the same page on things.

[PrttyBrownEyez21]

That sounds like a good plan.. only problem is... is that I'm really shy.. especially when it comes to stuff like that

[N0help4u]

Since you are shy maybe try finding a humorous friendship card that says your appreciation of his friendship in a way that he will laugh, nothing serious, but get the message that you do appreciate him

[talaniman]

I think Nohelp4u, has a great idea, since your shy, see this as a friendship, and just talk as friends, with no expectations. Many guys will tell a girls' friends one thing, but feel another way. Go slow, and be friends. It will allow you to be comfortable around him, and then you can develop talking, with no pressure, because of your feelings. One question though, is he the type to hug a lot, or put his arm around others? Just curious as to the basis for your own feelings.

[PrttyBrownEyez21]

Yea I mean I think I can handle being his friend for right now... and then go from there.but where I should I draw the line though.to go along to what you were asking... he does hug other people yea.. but no he doesn't put his arms around a lot of people

[N0help4u]

Drawing the line?
I would say if he tries to get into a situation you feel uncomfortable with like excessive kisses or seeming like he is putting an unquestionable amount of 'romantic' feelings into a hug
Then pull away and say something about that not feeling like friendship only. Then that leaves it open for him to say if he is ready for more than friends and you can discuss where he wants to go from there.

[PrttyBrownEyez21]

When I said drawing the line... I meant where should I draw the line by how I act around him

[talaniman]

Just wanting to know if his outward show of affection is what draws you to him. Be friends, and the line you draw, will depend on how you feel, just never cross your own lines. Friends don't just make out, unless they have agreed to be more than friends, that may have been blunt, but you both can work on where to draw the line on this friendship, and as Nohelp4u says, only do what your comfortable with. Back in the day when I was your age I found that it got girls interested even more when I put my arms around them or touched there hand or arms while we spoke or laughed, and that's why I was asking. He may have found that you react the same way, as I found out. Don't panick, we lads are learning, just as you females are.