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    #1141

    May 7, 2009, 09:34 AM

    Heya muddy :D
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    May 7, 2009, 09:35 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by mudweiser View Post
    Hey all :)

    Sarah
    Well hello there... ;) :cool:
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    #1143

    May 7, 2009, 09:48 AM

    Can someone please shoot me? Please?

    Just talked to Starby, she's telling the doctors that she's going to be staying with me. They won't release her until they know she has somewhere to go. She wants me to lie to them.

    I'm really bad at lying! Also, I don't think this is in her best interest. If they knew the situation they may be able to help.

    Stuck. What to do.
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    May 7, 2009, 09:50 AM

    I think they should know what's going on..

    Hmmm...

    That's a pretty hard thing to throw on you, she must really be against staying with her parents :(
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    #1145

    May 7, 2009, 09:54 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by shazamataz View Post
    I think they should know what's going on..

    hmmm...

    that's a pretty hard thing to throw on ya, she must really be against staying with her parents :(
    She won't be staying with her parents, that option isn't even on the table, they didn't offer and she wouldn't do it even if they had.

    She's pretty much homeless. She will be staying with a friend for a few days but after that she has nowhere to go.

    If I tell them the truth, that she really can't stay with me, then what?

    I want to do what's best for her, but what is best?
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    May 7, 2009, 09:55 AM

    Aww, at least she's now got somewhere to go where she'll be care for until she recovers and finds some way to get Niki and a home.
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    May 7, 2009, 09:55 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by Altenweg View Post
    She won't be staying with her parents, that option isn't even on the table, they didn't offer and she wouldn't do it even if they had.

    She's pretty much homeless. She will be staying with a friend for a few days but after that she has nowhere to go.

    If I tell them the truth, that she really can't stay with me, then what?

    I want to do what's best for her, but what is best?
    OH!
    I assumed they were making her stay with them :eek:
    I'm even more shocked now!
    Can she rent another place?

    That's just awful :(
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    May 7, 2009, 09:58 AM

    Oww, I misunderstood the situation... sigh.. :(
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    May 7, 2009, 09:58 AM

    Her mom and dad want her to go into assisted living. She doesn't want to.
    Ok, sorry, I completely missed that line in the other topic :o

    Did you suggest finding out if she could get a nurse?
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    May 7, 2009, 10:00 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by shazamataz View Post
    OH!
    I assumed they were making her stay with them :eek:
    I'm even more shocked now!
    Can she rent another place?

    That's just awful :(
    I don't know what her plans are. Right now she just wants out
    Of the hospital and wants Niki back. I don't think she's thought
    Too far ahead at this point.

    She's on a tight income, I don't think she'll be able to find a
    Place that she can afford that will also allow her to keep Niki.

    This just gets worse and worse. I really can't help her with this.
    I can lie for her, but is that helping her or is it going to hurt her
    More in the long run?

    The hospital could be calling me any minute to confirm what Starby
    Is telling them.

    I want to do what's best for her, but what is best?
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    May 7, 2009, 10:02 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by shazamataz View Post
    Ok, sorry, I completely missed that line in the other topic :o

    Did you suggest finding out if she could get a nurse?
    She was actually looking into assisted living, but then her parents came and demanded it, now she refuses to do it because that's what her parents want.

    As for the nurse, well, she has no place to live, so a nurse really isn't an option at this point.
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    May 7, 2009, 10:04 AM

    I thought her parents might agree to her keeping the house if she got a nurse...

    Stubborn ducky!
    What do you think she should do Alty?
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    May 7, 2009, 10:09 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by Altenweg View Post
    The hospital could be calling me any minute to confirm what Starby
    is telling them.

    I want to do what's best for her, but what is best?
    Lying is not what's best for her. You know this Alty. :(
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    May 7, 2009, 10:09 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by shazamataz View Post
    I thought her parents might agree to her keeping the house if she got a nurse...

    Stubborn ducky!
    What do you think she should do Alty?
    I don't know, that's just it.

    I don't know if she can take care of herself right now. She's in a wheelchair, she needs help until she gets back on her feet.

    Her parents have pulled out all the stops, it's "do as we say or else".

    Her parents will not take her in, even if she agrees to do what they want. They have Niki but they won't take Starby. She wouldn't go anyway, that's not an option at all.

    I think she should go to counselling, do what her parents want, that's the easiest course of action, but she doesn't see it that way.

    She is a stubborn ducky, I understand why, but this time it may well end up ruining her future.

    She's between a rock and a hard place.
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    #1155

    May 7, 2009, 10:11 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by nikosmom View Post
    Lying is not what's best for her. You know this Alty. :(
    I do NM, but if I don't do this then she'll never talk to me again, then I have no way to help her at all.

    Do you think I should tell the hospital what's going on and then let all hell break loose?
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    May 7, 2009, 10:11 AM

    How long would she have to be in assisted living for?
    You might be able to convince her to just do it until she is well enough... well... convince her parents anyway
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    May 7, 2009, 10:12 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by Altenweg View Post
    I do NM, but if I don't do this then she'll never talk to me again, then I have no way to help her at all.

    Do you think I should tell the hospital what's going on and then let all hell break loose?
    I'm sure she's more understanding than that :)
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    May 7, 2009, 10:28 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by Altenweg View Post
    I do NM, but if I don't do this then she'll never talk to me again, then I have no way to help her at all.

    Do you think I should tell the hospital what's going on and then let all hell break loose?
    I agree with Shaz that I think Starby will see the love in your intentions. She's not thinking clearly out of stubbornness.

    You may need to call the hospital. She can't leave. She has nowhere to go.
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    May 7, 2009, 10:37 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by nikosmom View Post
    I agree with Shaz that I think Starby will see the love in your intentions. She's not thinking clearly out of stubborness.

    You may need to call the hospital. She can't leave. She has nowhere to go.
    Her friend did say that she could stay with her for a while, but how long I don't know.

    She can't get in touch with her friend which is why she's telling the hospital that she can stay with me, so they'll let her go.

    I think the main problem is that she's only thinking of Niki right now, not herself. Niki is her life!

    There's just so much going on, and I'm sure I don't even know the half of it.

    I know that the right thing to do is to tell the hospital the truth, that she isn't going to be staying with me, it's not possible.

    I'm getting an ulcer from this. I love Starby, she's a good person, she has such a big heart. She may never forgive me for this.

    I'm going to do my best for her, even though she won't see it that way. I hope she knows that I care about her, her well being, her life.
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    May 7, 2009, 10:44 AM

    I hope so Alty...
    You are thinking about what's best for her long term not just getting her out of hospital early :)

    I know she misses Niki but she's being looked after right now that's the main thing.

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