[kctiger]

Just dont understand where all her anger has come from, all of a sudden

Perhaps from the fact that she isn't the center of your universe anymore, who knows?

Doesn't matter either. Keep on living my man, and continue getting your "skills" back. Have fun, that's what life is about.

[amicon]

Why even bother worrying about her anger or whatever emotion she projects?

Continue living your life and heal.

[vanheart]

Not for you to worry about.

Don't even waste the energy wondering.

[talaniman]

Originally Posted by snakebiteadl
Just don't understand where all her anger has come from, all of a sudden

Don't try to understand it, focus on staying away from it.

[snakebiteadl]

I'm back - I've been focusing entirely on someone who is very important - ME!

In the interim the ex has rung again, again asking me about the same stuff in regards to the bills ( I had to deal with these financial issues, as we still have vested interests; she was also fishing for what id been up to - NOTE: I didn't ask her anything about her, I've also blocked her off FB and gone cold turkey, as I was getting obssessive - she appeared to have met another guy, she put on his wall after hed put 'is in need of red bull' shed put 'late night was it? Lol x' and she's had a few days off work and is now ill. I suspect they're at it, and I'm not actually that bothered) - so I sent her a no contact message, saying that I had big decisions to make and I'm glad everything is sorted with the flat.


To which her surprising immediate response was

'Ok.Sorry to bother you.Im here if you need me. x'

its her 21st end of month and she isn't getting anything from me! NC all the way baby..

Ive been strictly NC (minus the financial convos for about 14 days now)

[jmw0713]

Stay with NC! Don't fall for her stupid game. She may seem like she "wants to be there" for you, but the "I'm here for you" crap is just so she can feel better about the decision she made. If she really wanted to be there for you, she would have never cheated and blamed you. Worthless...

Keep your eyes forward toward the future.

[snakebiteadl]

You may read another one of my threads to get some background as to my current predicament.

Long and short of it is, I get cheated on by my ex girlfriend of 3 years back in march and we split, I was devastated and yadda yadda yadda.

I picked myself up, did new things, new hobbies, lost 2st, I look and feel great.

Fast forward to June, my ex comes sniffing around again, we end up hopping on the bad foot and doing the good thing. Anyway we start again, it doesn't work out. Im pretty cut up again, as you can imagine. However, at the same time id been seeing another girl from work, who, is great but is not really long term material.

For one, she is engaged and with a child.

Two, I have neglected all of my principles just because I was hurt. Literally the day of the second split, I went out with the new girl.

Three, she is unstable and obsessive, and I guess I needed that kind of attention to get me through.

Now to further complicate matters, another girl who I REALLY like also at work, and friends with engaged girl - I've just found out really likes me. Now I've kind of had an inkling for a while. However, I think I have really gone down in her estimation, due to forsaking my principles and seeing the engaged girl, who she had fallen out with. NOW to even further complicate matters, another girl in my team, has expressed infatuation with me, problem is I've known her for 15 years, and I see her as a sister. They are all friends and I would like some advice.

On

A) How do I end things, minimising fallout, and damaging feelings with engaged girl.

B) How do I demonstrate that I am not that bad guy and I was in a very vulnerable place to the girl who I really like (She is an absolute thoroughbred, she is ideal, I've know this for a year) and get something going with us. After all that situation is a hell of a lot less complicated than the other one.

I may be coming across as a prick, but I really don't want to hurt anybodys feelings, an unfortunately for engaged girl, she came into my life at the wrong time, and she stated she will never change her situation, so that road is dead anyway.

[answerme_tender]

Stop dating women you work with!! I know it sounds harsh,but it will make you life a lot easier, especially at work. The only thing someone at work should judge you for is your work ethics. They won't even think about who your doing and who your doing it with if you don't put all out their for them to judge.

[Homegirl 50]

"don't s**t where you eat"
Don't mess with people you work with.
Leave all these women alone, especially the engaged one. She should have been off limits.
You tell them all that now is not a good time for you to be involved with anybody, and it's true.
Stay away from the ex and the other lady too.
The way to prove you're not a complete prick is to leave them all alone.
Find someone you don't work with.

[snakebiteadl]

Ive really screwed up haven't I?

Oh well... youre prob right. I used to have common sense and a chivalrous attitude, what the hell happened

[Homegirl 50]

The lower brain kicked in and started overriding the upper one.
Leave exs alone and don't date someone else right after a break up. It's asking for trouble.
Sounded like you needed an ego boost, you just went about it the wrong way.

[snakebiteadl]

Thing is I am WELL over the Ex now, haven't seen her in two months now, couldn't care less about her, it was her loss.

this one girl at work though, I should have held my integrity, not gone for the obvious ego boost, should not have shat on my own doorstep and slept around, and held out for the one, who I know wouldve been ideal.

I need to concentrate on my life anyway, this cold shower proves I need to be single, no women at all for a while.

Just can't believe I lowered my value to someone I held in high esteem

[Homegirl 50]

We live and learn and unfortunately the one thing we say "I will never do" we find we're not as "whatever" as we thought.
Just don't make the same mistake twice.

[talaniman]

Now that you know how deep you can fall, cut it out!

[vanheart]

"I need to concentrate on my life anyway, this cold shower proves i need to be single, no women at all for a while."

Sounds like a plan.