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Romefalls19 · Jun 30, 2009, 05:35 AM

1. Send her an e-mail with a date to come and get her stuff, a month's notice is usually good. Try to arrange for a third party to be there. If she calls, be polite but short with her telling her when she can arrive. Don't make it hard at all.

2. Either keep the dog, or tell her she needs to take it now

3. Joint belongings, divide them up equally.

4. Computer photos, but a jump drive, put them on there and then get a box and put them in there as a memory box and keep it packed away

ATG 94 · Jul 2, 2009, 07:31 AM

Question - how do you go about NC if you work with your ex and see them on a daily basis? There are times where NC is just not an option without being ridiculously awkward in front of co-workers...

Romefalls19 · Jul 2, 2009, 10:14 AM

ATG, read my story, I worked with my ex. Who cares about co workers, worry about yourself first.

COCADA · Jul 2, 2009, 11:09 AM

So just yesterday I realized that after 5 months, of texting my ex every single weekend (cuz I missed him on the WE, still do) I realized that NC is the healthy answer to all all my questions, and frustrations. 5 MONTHS ! Of contact after a break up! Has anyone done that for so long after a break up? Please tell me if you have, so I stop feeling so much like a weak person and so much like .

I need to start NOW, the penny dropped when I sent him 7 texts in one day because he wasn't answering. I've been trying so hard to let go of him, but the truth is that deep inside of me I didn't want to let go, I even know I've become annoying, even if he still answers me, I know it in my heart that I am disturbing him, It's just so hard to control my feelings, I thought that I still loved him but the truth is that I am not sure about that anymore, love's supposed to me nice and calm and I haven't been expressing that to him at all, I think Im just fixated now, I didn't sent him that many texts even when we were dating, we were together for more than a year. I think he has been rally patient with me because maybe he still cares about me, and he says he still loves me, after calling him a player and a jerk and telling him that I hated him with all my soul, he still says that he loves me. I really don't want him to remember me as the obssesed ex that sent him texts non stop. I really don't.

I never really accepted that it was OVER until know. At the beginning of the break up I sent him hate massages, blaming him for breaking us, for breaking what we had, because he broke up with me, I was so so mad at him because I felt so betrayed, I thought that he just played with me, I felt like he never really loved me, but just know I realized that there's really no one to blame, we both made mistakes, and now I am sure that he loved me. But the truth is that people change, feelings change and we have to learn to accept that because life is unpredictable and you never know what's going to happen.

It will be very hard to let go of him for good, but I was hurting myself and him, by still holding on to him and what we had.

wontgohomewou · Jul 2, 2009, 08:17 PM

I was in the same boat, but more like 6 months for me. Those 6 months I refused to believe it was over and I kept thinking that my ex still loved me. One day I just had enough and decided it was time to move on. And guess what, I did. Took me about a month to get over her enough to live a normal life again.

carlson92 · Jul 6, 2009, 07:09 AM

I got a question. After the NC rule when feels like I don't feel the sting in whatever her action is. Is it possible to pursue a relationship again or even friendship?

talaniman · Jul 6, 2009, 08:26 AM

Just my opinion, anything is possible once the healing process is complete. There is a big difference though, in being healed, and feeling better.

Would you be happy if she had a boyfriend?

COCADA · Jul 6, 2009, 08:57 AM

Originally Posted by wontgohomewou

I was in the same boat, but more like 6 months for me. Those 6 months I refused to believe it was over and I kept thinking that my ex still loved me. One day I just had enough and decided it was time to move on. And guess what, I did. Took me about a month to get over her enough to live a normal life again.

Did she contacted you after that?

Romefalls19 · Jul 6, 2009, 09:53 AM

My rule always was, if you can hear the other talking about sleeping with another person and allow them to go into detail.

carlson92 · Jul 6, 2009, 11:43 PM

Just my opinion, anything is possible once the healing process is complete. There is a big difference though, in being healed, and feeling better.

Would you be happy if she had a boyfriend?

Hmm I see. Don't think will be happy but cool with it. I mean which guy do if they still like the girl. Now, for me, my healing process might take another month maybe to be fully complete, don't want to jump to conclusion like you say feeling better and healed is 2 very different thing.

greenhaven · Jul 12, 2009, 06:04 PM

Love this page! Thanks for putting it together! I'm going through a hard break up right now and I'm bookmarking this page in case I have moments of weakness. :)

Romefalls19 · Jul 12, 2009, 06:43 PM

I am glad to hear it! If this page only helps one person I feel as though it is a success. Break ups are hard emotionally and physically but once you finally break through the hard ships, it truly is rewarding

carlson92 · Jul 28, 2009, 01:40 PM

Update it, Rome. :)

Romefalls19 · Jul 28, 2009, 02:28 PM

Okay, so it seems there have been a few things that I have been reading about that need to be addressed.

1. My ex has things of mine, what should I do?
a. First you should have had this conversation with them already, this needs to be addressed in the first 3 days I believe. I will give you the 2 day shock grace period but after that, the stuff obviously wasn't that important. \

2. They said they were confused and doesn't know what they want.
a. Cliché line for "I don't want to tell you this right now and let you figure it out on your own.

I have more on the way but time is a precious thing for me right now with wedding planning and mortgage companies lately

carlson92 · Jul 28, 2009, 09:17 PM

2. They said they were confused and doesn't know what they want.
a. Cliché line for "I don't want to tell you this right now and let you figure it out on your own.

Well said man. :)

Keep the updates coming. :D

PirandelloLuigi · Jul 28, 2009, 10:03 PM

Originally Posted by Romefalls19

2. They said they were confused and doesn't know what they want.
a. Cliche line for "I don't want to tell you this right now and let you figure it out on your own.

Can the words '' I have mixed emotions '' fall in that category too ?

Meaning : I don't want to hurt your feelings right now, but it's over.

Can mixed emotions clear and she will have feelings for you again?

Romefalls19 · Jul 29, 2009, 04:53 AM

Mixed emotions hardly ever are "mixed" emotions, it's their own personal fear of what life will be like without a safety net. 9 times out of 10, after the dust settles, you realize that this was just a line to give you hope and wait around in case she doesn't find something better.

honeytea · Aug 4, 2009, 11:12 PM

Thank you for this, really. I recently got out of a 5 year relationship. My first one too. He broke up with me. He told me he didn't feel the same way about me anymore and needed time to think. So far I'm on day 3 or no contact. Its been so hard, but I can tell I'm feeling a little better from no contact. On day 3 he actually texted me three times! Saying things like, "I've been thinking about you all day" and "such a bad time these things to happen" but no signs of him wanting me back. So far I have not replied. I want to stay strong. He is probably surprised I haven't called or texted like I have the past week since we've been apart. I want to ask, is his texting me a way of him feeling guilty? I'm so confused! I still plan on not talking to him though. This is so difficult! I want to, but then I don't! He was so cold and rude to me during our breakup so I have to remember that.

kctiger · Aug 5, 2009, 05:45 AM

Originally Posted by honeytea

Thank you for this, really. I recently got out of a 5 year relationship. My first one too. He broke up with me. He told me he didn't feel the same way about me anymore and needed time to think. So far I'm on day 3 or no contact. Its been so hard, but I can tell I'm feeling a little better from no contact. On day 3 he actually texted me three times! Saying things like, "I've been thinking about you all day" and "such a bad time these things to happen" but no signs of him wanting me back. So far I have not replied. I want to stay strong. He is probably surprised I haven't called or texted like I have the past week since we've been apart. I want to ask, is his texting me a way of him feeling guilty? I'm so confused! I still plan on not talking to him though. This is so difficult! I want to, but then I don't! He was so cold and rude to me during our breakup so I have to remember that.

Welcome Honey! I am extremely proud that you have managed to ignore his texts, kudos to you. You are a very strong person (much stronger than I when this happened to me). Don't know his reason for texting you, probably out of guilt and curiosity. It doesn't matter though. Keep being strong and keep pushing! Good luck. Vent away to us if you need to.

amicon · Aug 5, 2009, 05:48 AM

Hi honeytea. Keep up the good work.I can't remember which day I'm on! Ten or so. I broke up with him see my thread but this time ill not try to mend it.take one day at a time keep busy pamper yourself.cry when you need to allow yourself to be angry hurt etc.all the best.