[Janmarie]

At least you care enough about yourself and your girlfriend to take this kind of action. In your before posts you seem to be reacting rather then responding to the situation. Taking the time to clear your head will help you be more responsive. There are two sides to look at...yours and hers. Good luck :-)

[hjpan]

You know what?

You need to go the gym and pump those muscles till they're so sore you can't lift anymore weights. All these drama in relationships is driving you insane; just don't focus on the dirt-bag and look at yourself in the mirror.

[hellonasty]

So a couple of days left until I leave for good. I'm having a tough time deciding what to take with me. On one hand I don't want to leave with nothing and on the other hand I don't want to take things that will leave a bad memory with me. I've very sentimental.

She's told me today that she was really sorry that this didn't work out. This was after reading a letter I wrote that could melt an ice princess. So yeah, that's that.

The thing I don't know yet is if it will ever really be over. We're both fairly eccentric people that don't behave like the general public. I mean, this isn't our first or second breakup. I sometimes wonder if I'm doomed to this is fate for the rest of my life with this women. Continuously having my heart crushed. Her sister and hell, even my father and friends are all like "this isn't over. you know the drill. she's all over the place" Then they tell me that I might get to a point where I don't actually want to go back. God, I would love that feeling. To be able to say "i love you, but i can't do it again."

She tells me she doesn't love me like 'that' anymore. Our fighting has drawn us apart so much that she has nothing left. I think I said this already. Me, I don't believe that love or more specifically- our love, can die from arguing. I believe it can get heavily clouded.. but those clouds lift, eventually. I could be just leading myself on- and probably am.. but whatever. One thing that didn't help was me bombarding her ever since the split. It only started as "space" but when I got too heavy it became a full on breakup. You guys are definitely right. No Contact.

I'm not sure how I feel right now. I've cried a bunch.. normally in front of her looking like a total douchebag. But what can I do.

Still feeling paranoid that she is eying someone else on the side. The text messages are suspicious. But every time I've tried to prove my super solid case that something is going on she proves me wrong. Spazzing out over on her over my paranoia also isn't helping the situation. Definitely driving a steak between whatever was there. I just feel like I'm going banana's over this. Honestly. if she was interested in someone else- I'd rather just have her say it so I didn't feel ing crazy.


One thing that is on my mind that I can't shake is the thought of her with another guy. And even more so if we try to reconcile later on. I got over it once, we both did.. But it still kind of grosses me out.


No Contact- when does it apply as a permanent solution? Does my situation look like it should be a permanent No contact? I'm not sure. For sure for a first few weeks. But forever? What if I want to try and reconcile? How can you tell if it should be permanent? Long term relationships go through bad times and splits are sometimes often. But should you NEVER speak to them again? Or NEVER try to fix things? Is it all futile?

[Spikeman]

Take the stuff that you had before she came along and think of it as the last part of you that you have and it that means nothing then you have a fresh new start.

When she says that she doesn't love you like that anymore I think it is fair to say that it is a perm NC. NC is a solution only in the since that you will fix yourself, only she knows what she wants but she doesn't want to be with you.

Just NC leave and start a new life.Take her out of your mind and concentrate on things you want to do. She might come around and if she does think of all the stuff she has done to you and think if you want that back.

[WhatN3XT]

I've said this before. Don't move out of your place, Let her move. This is all her idea why should you move? Give her some time to relocate. She is the one that wants out, let her go.