[bizygurl]

Wildcat nailed it on the head, SHE was the one asking for the space so don't call her. Its funny how people say they need their space but when its given to them they all of a sudden want to call you again. Oh please. Whne you ask for a break from someone you better be sure that is what you want, because if its not, and you start calling again, it makes you look like a real jack---. Listen you are young, I'm sure thare are plenty of woman who would love to go out with you. And how do you know she is the right one for you, five years down the line, or sooner, you could be married and miserable and meet a woman who would have been perfect for you.
Please don't get married or engaged any time soon, you'll have plenty of time for that. Enjoy your youth. Take it from a girl who never got to enjoy her early twenties due to a marrige and a baby.

[Chery]

how can I sign off of this so I dont get stuff from this matter here anymore on my email, if my dad sees this, Im in trouble.

On the very first blue line , above where the threads start and our name is, there is also a line that states Thread tools, click on there and you'll see unsubscribe from this thread, click that and you're set.

You really should not subscribe to things your parents don't think you are ready for yet, trust them - you'll be better off.

[alpha_zero]

K now its my turn. My girlfriend just did this to me yesterday and well I felt like crap. After reading this I feel WAY BETTER. My question is though I know she wants her space and we are both in university. Except we are in 2 of the same classes, now I know I can sit away. But what about the bus. We take the same bus home. Should I take a later one, or sit as far away as I can. I know to give her her space I just don't want to give her the wrong idea where as *ohh maybe he hates me now* and stuff like that. Much appreciated you guys are literally my savious.

[alpha_zero]

Ill type out what she texted me and you guys can take a shot at what she is saying to me

*I have to be honest with u, I need to clear my head and I need to be alone I feel like right now things are overwhelming and I need to be single*

I feel crapier than a toilet

[loveme1]

alright so I have read a few previous posts about similar questions and have read good advice, now here is my situation. I am 20 years old a college football player, and my girlfriend is 22 years old, graduated and in her first year as a nurse 45 minutes away from me. We have been together for almost a year now, we lived together over the summer and everything has been amazing until this past week. We were planning on getting engaged within the next month or so. Anyway, the other day after we had been fighting she told me that she needed some space, I said okay and gave it to her the best i could. Wondering what was going on of course, I asked her some questions, like what is wrong and that sort of thing. She said that I haven't been the best boyfriend the past couple of months and that she needed to think about what she wanted because this isn't what she pictured our relationship to be like and she feels like she doesn't have a life where she lives and has no friends. so she has been going out with coworkers and friends and going out and having a good time which is awesome. Now granted and admittedly i haven't been the best boyfriend, she has practically been keeping our relationship going by driving up to see me all the time, literally! Now, i play football and my schedule doesn't really allow me to go and see her very often at all, but she knows that I go up there any chance i get and I am planning on moving in with her over christmas break and over the summer. However yesterday she called and said that we needed to take a break. I don't know what to think about this at all. She said that she DOES NOT want to break up but she just needs to think about things and she needs her space. Now i have been trying to be my old self like when we started dating, i have been trying to do all of the little things that made her fall in love with me, basically i got lazy in our relationship and I truly want to fix it but it is like she doesn't want me to fix it right now. I am confused and lost and need some of that good advice you folks have been dishing out.

First question u love her right and u told her all this and gave her your all

[kiddenvy]

Wow I feel right at home in this forum. Please feel free to offer your opinion as I'm sure it will be the same advice that everyone else has giving.
My girlfriend broke up with me beofre she left for a 3 month internship to Va. There was mulitiple reasons, the 2 major ones were that she didn't want to deal with a long distance relationship while she had school to worry about and the second was that she felt I didn't give enough effort.
So as the normal story goes, about a week before she left I cried and begged until she was gone, the begged some more after she had left until about 3 days later I asked her what she wanted to do and she said she didn't like things the way they were and we got back together. All was fine, I went to see her and then the following 2 weeks were great, at least I thought. I had went into over kill mode with the hunnies and I love yous. Well she called one night and told me that she was hanging out with some new guy and they were nothing more than friends as of right now but she felt guilty so she wanted to break things off again. Once again I sunk to the bottom of the barrell and cried and called and drove her nuts with my mixed emotions. All the while people were telling me to leave her alone.
As of yesterday I went on the no contact rule at least to save myself the heart ache. HERE is the twist. She still says she loves me just does not know what's going on in her head. She is my neighbor so in 2 months we will be seeing a lot of each other again. I suppose what I want to know is if I should put some good convorsations between us before I start the No contact or should I just let it ride. Im stubborn and will do what it takes to make things work if she wants it to, but I have a long 2 months ahead of me and I'm not ready to just say see you later. SO GIRLS, does the no contact thing really work or does it make you eventually saw screw it he does not care anymore. Hope someone can provide some positive input.

[Chery]

Give her the time she asked for.

No Contact will not only help you remember that you had a life before her, but will also help her feel that you are man enough to respect her wishes instead of a needy, clingy, wuss.

Take this opportunity to collect yourself, plan a future with or without her, but leave her the space. Loving someone is not only being with them all the time - you need to trust her and trust yourself.

Right now you are just scared of losing her if she does not see you all the time - that's insecurity talking.

Good luck, and stay with us - let her make the next move and accept it as it is.

[gecorp03]

Space? The final frontier man... women and their charades. Never sure of anything, always getting bored, running from one emotion to the next. Welcome to being a guy... but I wouldn't have it any other way. I know way too many women who are straight shooters, old school and fundamentally sound who CANNOT STAND these new era women who are so wishy-washy, unstable and in constant need of attention. Move on and find a stable woman - you owe this to yourself.