[confused-a-lot]

I guess this may be a general question for a few people, but it is something I'm going through now.

I finally cleaned through my house and gathered all of my ex's items (clothing, shoes, cd's, movies etc). How do I approach giving these back? And how do I go about claiming what is mine at her house?

What should you do with mutual things ("our" things) from a relationship? e.g.. A photo album of pictures together.

[GlindaofOz]

Personally I wold pack up all of their things and send them back to them via the postal service. If they return your things in return then consider yourself lucky.

Mutual things is up to you. I would probably throw them out.

[confused-a-lot]

Thrw them out, even though the mutual things are memories of my life?
There are about 3 photo albums.

[GlindaofOz]

I didn't say that's what you should do. I personally would go through them and keep a few that held something special - things like vacations, family events, etc. All the rest the random shots I would dump. I personally don't feel very sentimental post breakup and usually do not feel a connection to the past events so maybe I'm bad person to answer about the mutual stuff.

[talaniman]

Is she putting me in the friends zone with false hope? Because it sure feels like it.
What do I do with that?

She wants her freedom, but she also wants you in her life as someone she enjoys being with. Yes this is friendzone, and if you cannot handle that, and want more, then you should back off and heal.

[talaniman]

1. If they go, do they love you?
Yes you do.
2. If they go, why have them back?
Because thats what you want for now.

3. If they don't go, will things repeat themselves until they do go?
Yes, unless you change or they change, how they have been dealing with the relationship.

[talaniman]

and how do I go about claiming what is mine at her house?

Ask for them or forget them. In light of how you have done her things, Don't expect much.