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    #61

    Dec 1, 2014, 02:33 PM
    No. Don't stop bothering us! We'll try to help you be sane, and you tell us the positive ways you are filling your time.
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    #62

    Dec 11, 2014, 04:28 AM
    Yah me dad is finally letting me out me room. Freedom can't wait to leave me room.
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    #63

    Dec 11, 2014, 04:37 AM
    Glad to hear it! Think of it as a fresh start.

    Now that you've had loads of time to reflect on all that has happened, I hope you have given some thought to what you might do differently from now on, from the friends that you choose to hang around with, to what your future goals may be and how what you do now can potentially impact what you want to do in the future. Good luck!
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    #64

    Dec 23, 2014, 07:30 AM
    I feel so stupid right now seems like every choice I make is always the wrong one. I totally screw everything up. Me dad let's me out of my room and let's me leave the house and I messed up. I'm so stupid. If I was me dad I would want to send me away to.
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    #65

    Dec 23, 2014, 07:40 AM
    Sorry to hear that. What did you do?
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    #66

    Dec 23, 2014, 07:54 AM
    How did you mess up?
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    #67

    Dec 23, 2014, 03:13 PM
    Some of the kids that I'm in a program with we're going out and they asked me if I wanted to come along. I don't have anyone to hang out with so I was excited to me dad said no though. I went anyway waited for him to go to sleep and climbed out the window. We went to a party and were all drinking me and this boy were messing around and he was chasing me and I must have tripped or something and hurt my leg I couldn't walk on it so one of me friends took me to the hospital. They rang me dad and now everything is a mess I feel so stupid don't know why I keep making these stupid decisions. Now dad is talking about sending me to boarding school in the new year
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    #68

    Dec 23, 2014, 03:55 PM
    I think you belong in boarding school. You just don't seem to get it, in spite of all the good advice you have had here, and THE SUPPORT.

    Give your dad a rest and get on with it. It might work out well in the long run, and you may learn a lot, but you have learned nothing here.
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    #69

    Dec 23, 2014, 04:16 PM
    This was why your dad did not trust you, why you were not ready to be off punishment. Maybe boarding school will be good for you.
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    #70

    Dec 23, 2014, 08:31 PM
    Maybe it would be better for me dad if I wasn't in the house any more. I just wanted to have some friends I know I should have not gone out cause me dad said no but I didn't want to seem like a I don't know I just wanted to fit in I suppose. I don't like being by me self all the time. Maybe boarding school will be good don't suppose I can get into much trouble their. Guess I'll just have to see 6 weeks till school goes back, I guess I'll be stuck in me room again not like it matters anyway can't really walk in this stupid moon boot. So stupid don't know what's wrong with me
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    #71

    Dec 23, 2014, 09:58 PM
    I don't know if boarding school will help or hurt. I do know that you need healthier ways to make new friends and to change your definition of 'fitting in'. Home or away, you will repeat the same mistakes as long as you continue to think that drugs and/or alcohol is how you make/keep friends.

    I am going to be honest that this was a major mess-up. I don't know what will happen in six weeks but take care of your leg and try to find positive/productive ways to relieve your stress.
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    #72

    Dec 23, 2014, 11:16 PM
    It's hard where I come from that's what most kids do on weekends drink go out to parties. When I lived with me mum I use to play lots of sports hockey basketball athletics but here no one does that so I just do what everyone else does. It's not easy moving away from all my friends I grew up with. I know it was pretty dumb sneaking out and I felt pretty bad about doing it but then I suppose I just kind of forgot about it cause I was having fun until I hurt me self. I really wish me mum would let me go back home but me and her boyfriend don't get along, which was my fault. Just sick of messing everything up :(
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    #73

    Dec 23, 2014, 11:18 PM
    You need to be locked up in jail, sent to a strict no nonsense rehab facility, or a psych ward! How about telling your dad to read this?

    We are talking major intervention!
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    #74

    Dec 23, 2014, 11:35 PM
    I snuck out man seriously why do I need to go to jail for that I only had a few drinks I didn't take drugs I just went out when I wasn't aloud to which was dumb. But I'm not totally stupid I know if I take drugs ill get busted when I have a drug test. I just don't want to be a total loner
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    #75

    Dec 23, 2014, 11:47 PM
    You're not legally allowed to drink, so you broke the law. You could be charged for underage drinking, spend some time in jail and get a fine for doing that.

    Alcohol is a drug, so yes, you did do drugs.

    Just because everyone else is doing something, doesn't mean you have to do it. If they're not your friends because you won't sneak out and get drunk with them, then you don't need them.

    Until you start realizing that everything you do has a consequence, you need to be locked up, be it in your room, boarding school, or jail. It's obvious that you can't be trusted to make good decisions on your own.
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    #76

    Dec 24, 2014, 01:06 AM
    I know I don't make good choices me leg is friggin so painful and they won't even let me take anything for the pain so I know all about consequences. God I'm so stupid way to go mess up me whole life just can't seem to do anything right. No wonder why me dad hates me definitely do nothing but cause him trouble. Anyway me problem Im just going to leave they don't need me causing trouble for them
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    #77

    Dec 24, 2014, 01:57 AM
    Stop the pity party. You made your choices, and your mom and dad had to make decisions based on the choices you made and continue to make. They're doing the best they can to get you on the right track, with no help from you.

    Your dad doesn't hate you, he just has no idea what to do to help you. He's only human. He's tried, and you still go out and do stupid things. What is he supposed to do now?

    You started this thread asking how to get your dad to trust you again. Well, you've done nothing but make him trust you even less. Until you get your act together, start thinking, stop doing stupid things, you won't regain his trust. You're at the bottom again. Any headway you made was lost when you snuck out and went drinking with friends.

    Whatever he decides, you do it, and you do it with a smile on your face, and determination to stay clean, to be good, to do the right thing and stop making bad choices.

    Hopefully he can get through to you before you're an adult and he no longer has any say in how you live your life, because I have to tell you kiddo, you don't make good decisions, and if you keep that up your adult life will be far worse than your teen life is now.

    Smarten up. Realize that your dad loves you, so does your mom, they're just lost on how to help you, and you won't help them help you at all.
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    #78

    Dec 24, 2014, 05:27 AM
    I give up.
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    #79

    Dec 24, 2014, 06:26 AM
    I don't want me parents to be disappointed in me I want to be able to make good choices as me dad puts it. I don't know why I keep doing stupid things I guess I just want to have friends but the more I think about it the worse I fell Im not really thinking of what I'm putting me dad through or what I put me mum through just thinking about me self. Totally not fair on them. I guess I just need to stop being selfish and think about them I know they are trying to help me but when they say stuff to me I just think they are being unfair and then I do it anyway and realise they were right. I know I don't know nothing and that's why I should listen to them. I do want to do the right thing I just don't know what is the right thing until its to late
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    #80

    Dec 24, 2014, 06:44 AM
    I know I got it pretty easy stuff I've done not to proud of and me parents still are here for me haven't just given up about time I stop worrying about having no friends and worry about the rest of me life need to grow up a little. Think I'll just give up trying to think I know what's best for me and listen to me dad.

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