[vanheart]

"I've spent five years of my life completely dedicated to someone. That appears to just do whatever the **** she wants. And only care about herself.'"

Doesn't that say it all?

I would leave her alone. This whole thing stinks to high heaven.

Honestly, I would rather be alone than with someone like that. Especially if I couldn't trust her. She's a user.

You are confusing love with desperation.

Just go NC. End your problem.

[ironhide262]

OK, look... basically to her you have been "Mr Safety".. the honest,dependable hard working guy she can go to for love,support.. whatever. She knows that as long as she has you she's safe.. always someone there for her when things don't go right with these other guys. Well, now that the cat is out of the bag, she's scared... at this point she will do or tell you whatever will convince you to stay with her.

She has even dangled the "marriage carrot" in front of your face. Would you say this whole experience has brought the both of you closer?

I know it's hard but, don't let your emotions cloud your judgement. Go NC, give yourself the time to let all this emotional dust settle.. things will be more clearer then.

[BetrayedPA]

Well here is a testimate of how she's changed so much in the past few days.

All I've wanted to do for weeks was go to this concert. But didn't get tickets because they were sold out and very expensive. Turns out she got tickets through her work for free. Guess what message I get after she gets the tickets.

Guess who got tickets? But, sorry, I'm taking my friend. We already had plans tonight and she's never been to see this band. I'll call you after!

Never ceases to amaze me how she only cares about herself. If I even said anything, I would look like the a**hole. Maybe I'm ultra sensitive, but this stuff like this happens all the time. I won't even speculate on "who" from her work may be also going as I know the boss has standing tickets at this venue.

Put the shoe on the other foot. And, I would have taken her 100 times of a 100. If I didn't. God forbid, and took someone else, god forbid what I would have had to listen too.

Starting to realize more and more, how one-sided this all is.

[vanheart]

C'mon, man.

How much more proof do you need?

Its getting pathetic.

Go NC & you will never again have her as a problem. You are actually doing it to yourself now.

[Cat1864]

When she calls, make arrangements to return each other's personal property and cover any outstanding business. Then break off ALL contact with her.

Please don't take offense, but... She isn't in or ready for any relationship that doesn't revolve around her. If you keep trying, perhaps you should call her 'Sun' and change your name to 'Pluto'.

You need to take time for yourself.

[talaniman]

Boy, your head has to be busted by now, as many times as you have banged it into a brick wall!!

[mystific]

Oooooooooooohhh you're going to be one of 'those guys'.. the 'i've seen the light', 'i see her for what she is', 'she treated me like crap'...

She snaps her fingers and you'll go panting back to her as soon as she says she's sorry and she'll change...

/popcorn anyone?