[vanheart]

Especially your first post..

"he dumped me 10 times in 4 months we been together!"

What is that almost every week?

Not good.

[kiewiebeauty]

Excuse me! I do modeling !
And I do not dress sexy and flirt
I would watch what you are saying !
You clearly did not read it!
He is an abusive partner end of!
You have clearly got the wrong idea of what has happened

[kiewiebeauty]

OK can sumone help me!
my ex that my posts have been about called me asking for me back admitting he had a problem but my dad said there is no going back because of how much he hurt me should I listen to my dad or my ex?
pluss theonly thing that's stopping me from saying ***** off is the fact I don't want him to get another girl? x
pleaseee adviceee?? xx

[ScottGem]

Listen to your dad. This guy will not change he will keep hurting you. And its wrong of you to want to keep him from another girl.

[Homegirl 50]

Listen to your dad and to what has been said to you here.
This relationship has too much drama to be any good.

Your only wanting him because you don't want anyone else to have him is selfish and immature.
You need to get over this and grow up. The guy is a creep, he has so much baggage he's way over the weight limit, has dumped you so many times you should feel real comfortable in the trash heap, yet you don't want anyone else to have him. Get real girl! He's not even suitable for anybody else at this point in his life.

[Cat1864]

ok can sumone help me !!
my ex that my posts have been about called me asking for me back admitting he had a problem but my dad said there is no going back because of how much he hurt me should i listen to my dad or my ex ??
pluss theonly thing thats stopping me from sayin ***** off is the fact i dont want him to get another girl ??x
pleaseee adviceee ???xx

This is going to be harsh, because I can't believe you are really contemplating going back to him AGAIN.

Don't play 'dog in the manger' and try to hold on to something you don't need and shouldn't want.

Your father is completely correct. Your ex is playing a game. Time to grow up and start thinking about your needs instead of catering to his.

Haven't you had enough, yet? Do you want to go for 30 break ups in six months? Do you want to hear more about how you let him down when he gets back from playing games with another girl, again?

Read your posts IF you need any more reasons not to go back to him.

[Just Looking]

I think you need to ask yourself some questions and the answer will become apparent.

Did he treat you well? Did you feel secure and respected by him? Is he honest, reliable, and trustworthy? Is he someone you see yourself with long-term?

I’ll be very surprised if you can answer any of those questions with a “yes”.

Have you given any thought to what you want out of life? Do you want someone who can’t make up his mind about what you mean to him or do you want someone who cherishes you? Do you want someone who has already made a mess of his life or do you want someone who you can build a good, solid, happy life with? Do you want to live with the question of when he will decide to be with his baby’s mother again or do you want someone who wants you?

You’re only 16. Why limit yourself to someone who has already proven he knows nothing about love? You should be dating guys for fun, not the drama this guy puts you through. This is most likely a lack of confidence in yourself. Don’t you think you can do better? I certainly do. I’d run from this guy as fast as possible. What does he have going for him? Maybe you have chemistry, until he decides to dump you again – but if you will open your mind up to other possibilities, you will find that you can have chemistry with a guy who deserves you. You really need to allow yourself to grow up and make good choices. Your life will be much more rewarding if you do. Listen to your father. He is the one in this question who really loves you. The boy is trouble and is using you. Make a decision that will work for your future; think beyond today.

[talaniman]

ok can sumone help me !!
my ex that my posts have been about called me asking for me back admitting he had a problem but my dad said there is no going back because of how much he hurt me should i listen to my dad or my ex ??
pluss theonly thing thats stopping me from sayin ***** off is the fact i dont want him to get another girl ??x
pleaseee adviceee ???xx

Listen to your dad, as him getting with someone else is a really lousy reason to put your heart back in harms way to be hurt again. Don't you think?

[kiewiebeauty]

So you meen me I shudnt get back with him just cause I don't want anyone else to have him ?

[kiewiebeauty]

I know I've opend a lot of threads but I'm not too sure how you use this site properly yet.
So apologies
Anyway if you have read my other threads on my ex I would have mentioned that he told me he had gone back to his baby's mother ?
Well it was all a lie to try and make me jealous..
And now he wants me back and I don't know whether to take him back.
(when he told me he was cheating it was a lie to try and make me jealous)
He says he has changed and askedme to meet him but I declined because I had made plans so he was pissed off at me saying " im obv not that important"
And basically acting the sammee.. opinions please?

[talaniman]

No matter how you put it, and whatever reason he gives, I doubt anyone here will advise you to get back with him to be dumped for the 11th time.

What's it going to take for you to realize that, and go strict NO CONTACT with this fellow, so you can heal, and move on??

[kiewiebeauty]

I know !
Should I be bothered about him having another girl
But he did say he's changed , but my dad said people like that never change ?x

[CarrotTalker]

Kiewie you deserve SOOO much better than this scumbag. Please listen to everyone in this thread and your dad, who cares about you more than any other guy in the world. Stay away from this LOSER!

[Cat1864]

Please DO NOT use the Comment feature to reply to a post. Please use the Answer box at the bottom of the page. It let's us know that you have responded.

kiewiebeauty : I know ! Should I be bothered about him having another girl but he did say hes changed , but my dad said people like that never change ?x

I know I've opend a lot of threads but I'm not too sure how you use this site properly yet.
so apologies
anyway if you have read my other threads on my ex I would have mentioned that he told me he had gone back to his baby's mother ?
well it was all a lie to try and make me jealous ..
and now he wants me back and I don't know whether to take him back.
(when he told me he was cheating it was a lie to try and make me jealous)
he says he has changed and askedme to meet him but I declined because I had made plans so he was pissed off at me saying " im obv not that important"
and basically acting the sammee.. opinions please?

He lied to you. He tried to manipulate your feelings and make you jealous. He has told you he changed, but he acted just the same as he did before. So his saying he has changed is a lie.

Are you saying that you truly trust this person who seems to have no respect for you and your feelings? This person who only wants what he wants and doesn't care how he gets it? This person who has lied to you on several occasions?

Yes, I am saying to stay far away from him. Delete, block, ignore, de-friend, etc. every form of contact you have with him. Do not contact him and do not allow him to contact you. End the confusion for once and for all.

Listen to your father. Get out and meet new people. Move on from this mess he is trying to pull you back into.

[Homegirl 50]

kiewiebeauty : i know ! should i be bothered about him having another girl but he did say hes changed , but my dad said people like that never change ?x

How many times has he said he's changed? You don't want to let this creep go and you won't until he hurts you really bad and that is unfortunate. You don't learn from your mistakes and you don't listen to wise counsel. You've got some growing up to do.

[kiewiebeauty]

I want to move on but he's sending me flowers and everything !
Why do I feel like I won't find anyone else ?
What if I don't find no one else ?

[Kitkat22]

You will. Don't accept the flowers he sends. Good Luck

[J_9]

You are only 16. You WILL find someone else. Your life isn't over yet. You still have plenty of time to live.

He's already got a baby. Do you want a ready made family and all the drama that comes with it? Remember, he will be tied to this girl forever. You are too young to have to deal with something so big.

[Cat1864]

i want to move on but hes sending me flowers and everything !
why do i feel like i wont find anyone else ?
what if i dont find noone else ?

This is going to be harsh.

You don't accept the flowers. You send them back. You give them to the hospital to brighten someone else's day.

You have your father tell him that if the ex doesn't stop, your father will be contacting the police about getting a restraining order.

You do your part by breaking off all contact with him and accepting no contact from him.

You feel like you won't find anyone else because you are young. You think you have to have someone 'right now'. You don't. Being single is a great experience if you use it correctly. Dating different guys and learning what you like in a date and what you don't is an invaluable lesson. This is the time to build lasting friendships. This is the time to learn about yourself and what makes you happy.

You are 16 years old. You have a lifetime ahead of you to 'find someone'. There isn't a time limit that you have to have a boyfriend by or you will be single for life.

You will have many relationships. Some lasting. Some fleeting. But all of them will have their special places in your heart and someday you find the person who eclipses all the others. This person is not that one.

[Homegirl 50]

i want to move on but hes sending me flowers and everything !
why do i feel like i wont find anyone else ?
what if i dont find noone else ?

You would rather be with someone who treats you like crap than to be alone for awhile?
Grow up girl. There are so many more things to do at your age than waste your time mooning over a baby daddy who treats you like dirt.
He is not the only boy in the world and you certainly have plenty of time to find one. Being a teenager is not just about dating.