[amicon]

You will,but first you need to heal from this messy breakup.

And you will get over it,with time and patience and by regaining your selfrespect.

Keep up the no contact,that will work wonders.

[alex0830]

HELP. I HAVE NOT CONTACTED MY EX SINCE MONDAY. READ ABOVE ALSO. SHE JUST TX ME THE FOLLOWING. "Look I need my pink shoes n I know u kept them. Can u just give them back... u can keep the ones u bought". Remember I said she just got her income tax about 10000 dollars for her 3 kids. She has also stated she has been buying herself a lot of clothes and has been treating herself. And the last time I was at her house she had new shoes and new red pumps. WHAT SHOULD I DO.

[vanheart]

Nc

[talaniman]

Gather all her possesions, and give her everything. I don't care what it is, or how you feel about it.

[alex0830]

But I'm trying to stay NC.

[CarrotTalker]

But I'm trying to stay NC.

Mail it?

[alex0830]

She just text me again the following. "I know u got my msg.. just drop off the shoes at my door " what am I supposed to do. Honestly I call her bluff on her needing her old shoes back as much money as she got right no. I know she can buy some new and better shoes. I haven't responded. What should I do. It hurts a lot because I still love her. But I'm confused if she really wants her shoes since she says to leave them at her door or if she just wants to hear from me or see me.

[vanheart]

Have a friend drop all her stuff off. Whatever, as long as you don't have contact.

Get her off your back once & for all.

Boy, she really wants those shoes bad, huh?

[talaniman]

She doesn't want you! Or the shoes really. She wants to push your buttons, wear you down, make you miserable, and confused. By keeping her stuff, she has a reason to keep punking you out.

What besides shoes are you holding on too?? What else can she use as an excuse to dangle you by her strings??

Honestly, I thought you were smart enough to take her everything she could ask for during your last visit for returning her board games.

Your NC can start after you have purged yourself of everything that's her.

Or if you have the cojonies to ignore her, and keep your cool... Naw bad idea, that would take some BALL!!

GIVE HER ALL HER STUFF BACK!! What the freak are you going to do with her funky azz shoes??

[alex0830]

Well I know it's a bunch of bull @#$! About her shoes. I just want to do it the right way where she feels stupid for doing the crap she did to me. I want her to suffer with me not responding to her and ignoring her but eventually I will have her come to my apt on my terms to pick her sh##$% up. I really didn't mean to keep her cheap stripper shoes. Lol. I moved to my new apt and they cam along in a bag. Funny thing is that I been there 2 months and all of a sudden she wants her shoes back. And demanding like she really needs them

[amicon]

Whatever stuff of hers you still have you either post to her or have a friend drop off.

Don't buy into her stupid mindgames.

[vanheart]

That's what you get for getting w/ a girl like that.

How does it feel?

There's no revenge. Just you skating away as if she doesn't exist.

[alex0830]

Ok guys its my fault and I'm so so hurt right now. She came over to pick her stupid shoes up saying the shoes were a perfect match with the outfit she's wearing for her friends party tomorrow. 80s theme. We made out a lot and she kept saying its not right its not right. I asked her if she was talking to someone and she finally said yes she was but it wasn't like that. I asked her if he was going with her she said she think so that she will take him to the party. So she left. I'm so torn its not even a month yet and she's doing this what a hore

[talaniman]

>Harshness Warning<

That you would trade a pair of shoes for your balls, is exactly why your in this mess. Any self respecting male would have been long gone.

Put lipstick on a pig, its still a pig. While its not your fault for falling for this female, its your fault for staying and being ........................used, and abused.

[alex0830]

Honestly how can someone be so freaking quik to move on like that. Man this is eating me up. You know I don't even know what to believe. Because she called a little after she left and I asked her if she had really met someone and she said "oh yea that's why I am home right now" so I was like if you did its OK I'm happy for u. So when she saw that I was OK she quickly changed it up to saying alex its none of your business if I did. So what I'm alos thinking because she mentioned the other girls voicemail oer and over saying that of course she was going to search because the voicemail got to her because she still loved me. But then she goes back into defensive mode

[amicon]

I would advice you to decide whether you're going to allow yourself to stay stuck in this toxic mess or if you are actually willing to try to move on and get your life back.

Where is your selfrespect?
She treated you like rubbish,she's still doing it and you are letting her.

NC and never speak to her again.
Period.

[talaniman]

I know its only been 11 days dude, but you keep running head first into that brick wall and making yourself available for BS, that comes with her pushing your buttons, and you reacting. Until you accept its over, or at least act like you do, and stop this silly back and forth, and get you some business of your own, you will continue to appear quite pathetic, and keep being messed with.

Your problem sadly my friend, is you have not committed to NC, and gotten stuck in this emotional merry go round, that has only furthered your misery.

No Contact my friend, at all, and no more excuses either!!

[Imabadman]

This saga/drama would be a great 'sticky' for what NOT to do when you break up.

[alex0830]

Well I continue to hurt myself knowing I shouldn't. I don't understand why I'm so weak. After a few days of no contact I asked her how she was doing and hello she said fine. So I asked her out she told me to pick her up for breakfast. So I do it. As I get there she asks me inside. So she shows me a pic of the party her and her so called new guy friend which she says its only a friend nothing like that. Dude is not even good looking. So after speking for a few minutes she goes back to the past of how we treated each other then to the voicemails of a friend of mine saying she knows there's someone else. So she start getting angry and kind of crying. So she pushes me out and tells me to leave. 15 minutes later she calls me and tells me if I can go back please. So I go and she asks me to lay down with her because she had just got off work. So I do and we end up having sex. I lay for a while and leave. She calls me a few hours later asking me if I was going to have lunch with her I told her no. So we talk and she ends up telling me that she missed my company and she really didn't want to have sex but it happened and she enjoyed it but she doesn't think she wanted to reconciliate. Then she goes on to tell me she has plans to Rodeo Houston for the next twoo weeks. So I hang up and she didn't cal back. She said she wasn't going with any guy. Whatever. I'm so tired of being weak minded.

[amicon]

You realise that you are doing this to yourself,don't you? I wish I could figure out why.

But its your life so you are going to have to do that yourself.
One day hopefully you'll wake up and smell the coffee.

I hope you managed to return the precious shoes.
.