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redhed35 · Jul 12, 2009, 04:13 AM

Louise you sound like a good catch!

What the hell are you thinking woman!

There is a man somewhere out there looking for you,you have many positive things to bring to the table.

Heal... and when the time is right get back out there and the man who will love you,hold you,respect you NOT lie to you,is sure to see how wonderful you truly are..
And you can tell him the story of this jerk you once knew!

N0help4u · Jul 12, 2009, 04:14 AM

Quit going back for more just because he contacts you 'wanting you back'
From now on just 'click' him out when he attempts to contact you.

louiseismyname · Jul 12, 2009, 04:17 AM

Some days I just don't want to get out of bed and carry on with my life, I understand that there are people out there (like my family member) who are far worse off than me. Don't get me wrong I never feel sorry for myself as I know I have many good things but I'm just so low at the moment, I really don't care if I live or die at the moment and that is a horrible feeling to be walking around with

redhed35 · Jul 12, 2009, 04:21 AM

Louise you are drowning in self pity.

Keep the no contact.

This will get better.

Go see your doctor if these feelings continue.

N0help4u · Jul 12, 2009, 04:22 AM

I know it is easy to fall into depression whenever everything seems to be going wrong. You have to get a positive outlook on life and not let things get the better of you.
I have been feeling the same way for a couple weeks now. You just get to a blah point like eating the same bland food over and over and nothing changes.

louiseismyname · Jul 12, 2009, 04:24 AM

I just want the pain to stop, is that too much too ask? Maybe it is self pity, but I have not told anyone how I'm feeling. Im a very private person, people always think of me as the strong one

N0help4u · Jul 12, 2009, 04:28 AM

I don't think its necessarily self pity.
At least with me it is like I feel so stunned that I feel numbed and the numb feels crummy like I want it to stop and it just flows through me reminding me what I am trying to forget. It hurts yet its numb. Then I sit here like stunned that I am in this and can't get out, yet I just sit here.

sully123 · Jul 12, 2009, 04:34 AM

Sorry Louise for what you going through with your family member. That is never easy! I lost my Dad in his 80's last yr, and its still tough for me. I have my Mom living with me. It's a whole different world for me. As far as your ex boyfriend, you have to move past this. He is a thorn in your side. No one deserves that treatment, especially at a time like this for you. He seems very immature and has some serious issues. We are all here to help you get through this. Don't look back, there are so many nice guys out there who would treat you with respect, and offer you so much more. Why even bother with this man, he is a waste of your time and eneregy. You sound like you have so much to offer someone, so hopefully you can find someone who will appreciate you.

louiseismyname · Jul 12, 2009, 04:40 AM

Originally Posted by sully123

Sorry Louise for what you going through with your family member. That is never easy! I lost my Dad in his 80's last yr, and its still tough for me. I have my Mom living with me. It's a whole different world for me. As far as your ex boyfriend, you have to move past this. He is a thorn in your side. No one deserves that treatment, especially at a time like this for you. He seems very immature and has some serious issues. We are all here to help you get through this. Don't look back, their are so many nice guys out there who would treat you with respect, and offer you so much more. Why even bother with this man, he is a waste of your time and eneregy. You sound like you have so much to offer someone, so hopefully you can find someone who will appreciate you.

Again, thank you for your kind words, I'm in tears writing this now. Its good to know that there are still lots of kind people out there. Its just very hard at the moment, I'm in a new job trying to work hard and prove myself so that I can be took on permanent, whilst doing this I'm trying to keep strong due to my family issues as well as this guy treating me like a piece of dirt. Im a very very strong person and have dealt with so much over the years but right at this point in time I really don't know if I can take much more.

louiseismyname · Jul 12, 2009, 07:47 AM

Originally Posted by louiseismyname

Again, thank you for your kind words, im in tears writing this now. Its good to know that there are still lots of kind people out there. Its just very hard at the moment, im in a new job trying to work hard and prove myself so that I can be took on permenant, whilst doing this im trying to keep strong due to my family issues as well as this guy treating me like a piece of dirt. Im a very very strong person and have dealt with so much over the years but right at this point in time i really dont know if i can take much more.

I'm feeling a little better and trying get things into perspective, I've cleaned my house from top to bottom to try and keep my mind off things. Im going to carry on NC and hopefully this will all be a bad dream somtime soon. Ive got a new phone but I just can't help putting my old sim card in my new phone to see if he has text me, I'm really trying to not do that and move on and forget him. As I've always said, I knew from the start that we could never be together due to his lying cheating ways, that's what puzzles me you see, I know he is bad news and that we could never have a future but I still love him

N0help4u · Jul 12, 2009, 11:54 AM

That's great that you are doing everything you need to do. I wish I could get motivated to clean my house top to bottom. I keep telling myself to do it and here I sit depressed and unmotivated.

The reason you still love him is because it is normal to love anybody that had a big part of your life. Girls will even say they still have strong feelings for a guy that beat them because when you are with someone you develop a bond no matter how rotten they are.
In time you will get over it enough to move on without dwelling on it.

louiseismyname · Jul 13, 2009, 09:34 AM

I just feel so hurt and betrayed by this guy, to say such nasty things about me and then when I tell them how much he hurt me with his words he just turns around and says "no problem"?? What kind of a person would ever say that to someone.?

I just keep hearing his nasty words in my head over and over again, I'm working full time so keep busy during the day and try to keep busy at night but its so hard.

I just can't understand how someone who said they loved me only 2 weeks ago could be so cruel and unloving towards me at a time like this in my life, I'm devastated

talaniman · Jul 13, 2009, 09:57 AM

Why would you let a person like that hurt you? He's an idiot, whom you don't need.

Stop giving him power over you.

I wish · Jul 13, 2009, 09:59 AM

Stay away from him and stop getting news about him.

Pretend he doesn't exist. Do not associate yourself with anything related to him.

louiseismyname · Jul 13, 2009, 10:05 AM

Its hard but I don't have any connections with him any longer, I've changed my number and blocked him on Facebook so he can't find me (if he looks). The only contact we have is that he has a friend that knows a friend of one of my friends (if that makes sense). But hopefully that will be the end of that.

He will leave me alone for a few weeks and then one day will appear back in my life wth a text asking how I am like nothing has happened. He thinks he can treat eople this way and then walk back into there life when it suits him.

briancp34 · Jul 13, 2009, 01:18 PM

Louise, I have to say that you've gotten a lot of very helpful support and good advice. I read the whole thread and I ran across one post. I don't remember who it was at this point, but they called him the ex. He doesn't even have to be an ex. He can just be some jerk. He's a tele marketer salesperson who happens to have the scoop on you that has empowered them to be able to sell you whatever they want. Think, it's that stupid company that you mistakenly gave your bank account info out to that won't stop drawing funds even though you've told them to stop. You don't want their worthless product anymore. You didn't sign any contract. Keeping up with the NC is the same as changing your account.

You sound as though you are strong enough and not so damaged that you are not repairable from this.

I did read in one of your replies that you had been raise to be independent of anyone. Another characteristic common with independence is strength and moral to finish anything that you may have started. This Mr X sounds very insatiable. I myself am trying to recover from a similar case right now. You should take a look in the mirror and decide what you see. Do you see pretty, attractive and capable? Do you see worthless? Do you see weak and beat up? Do you see strong but beat up? Can you bare to look in the mirror? These are just the feelings and emotions that you have and feel toward yourself. I got to a point that I couldn't even look at myself in the mirror because I couldn't stand to see the weakness and unworthy that I saw. But keep up with the NC, continue to rebuild your own spirit and confidence, and what ever you do, do a little more investigation before you go and invest in another "tele marketer"
I hope I've been helpful. Good luck. ;)

Torrid13 · Jul 13, 2009, 04:14 PM

I didn't even bother reading the details of your problem because the answer says it all:

He's a LIAR!

If he lies about EVERYTHING, that's usually a good sign that... he's a LIAR! You want to know why he does it? Because he doesn't respect your opinions or feelings!

You know what you should do?

BREAK UP WITH HIM!

rosebud135 · Jul 14, 2009, 12:42 AM

Oh heck no girl! He's trying to be a playa and that's not going to fly. Tell him that he needs to get his head on straight before he can be with you. Your to good for that bs.

louiseismyname · Jul 14, 2009, 09:47 AM

Originally Posted by rosebud135

oh heck no girl!! hes tryin to be a playa and thats not gonna fly. tell him that he needs to get his head on straight before he can be with you. your to good for that bs.

He don't want to be with me now, he is with his girlfriend who he was with when he asked me out and I said I can't be with you because you have a girlfriend, that's when he said to me that they are just friends!! That was another one of his lies. At the moment he don't want anything to do with me an told me to move on because he has moved on and is happy. The funny thing is that I've never asked to get back with him, I just told him I loved him but we can't be together because he has a girlfriend!!

I don't want to get back with him and never did, I just can't stop loving him for some reason :confused::confused:

I isn't sat around moping and its been 3 days of NC and I'm more than fine. The girlfriend can put up with his BS and lies now. She thinks the sun shines out of his a$$ but she will have the wake up call eventually.

The thing that hurts me is that even though he is being so nasty to me now, in a few weeks he will be back being nice and telling me that he said those nasty words in anger and how much he loves me. He thinks he can treat me like dirt and then go for a roll in the hay with his girlfriend then come back to me. Well it isn't going to happen, I'm worth more than that and will not be used by him ever again. Ive changed my phone and put the old phone on voicemail so he knows its turned off and is staying off

louiseismyname · Jul 15, 2009, 02:02 PM

I'm just having a bit of a weak moment and thought that I should better come on here and vent rather than text him (I believe that's the advice you all give)
It still hurts like hell that he could say those words about me, I'm trying my best to forget and move on with my life. I wish we could just have a switch and turn our feelings off.