[2008kwc]

Im trying my best, its so hard though.

Was at my friends leaving party last night, and at about 12 she turned up with a few of her mates, which no one really knows or talks too. So was starting to think maybe she came her to see me? Or perhaps jelous or something that I could be drunk and be getting with other people? I don't know.

It was awkward at first.. She tapped me on my leg and smiled at me. We also made eye contact a fair few times, and did have a tiny chat.

Then at the end when everyone was going she ran through everyone to me just to say bye and give me a hug.
I said it was nice to see her, and she said it was nice seeing you too.
As she pulled away to go with her friends, our hands felt like they were likely holding eachothers, and they slid away slowly as if we didn't want to let go. It was just like when we used to leave each other. (Without the bigger hug and kisses etc).

As she was leaving I texted her, and we didn't finish texting till about half 3 in the morning.
At one point I said I was sleepy, and she said She was too.. so I said do you want to go sleep? She answered no its OK, so we chatted some more.
She had to be up at half 7 as well.

We have spent a few times now talking till very early in the morning.
Perhaps things are looking up?

[NallaNeedsYou]

Definantly, what you have been doing has paid off and now you just need to be patient. Keep it low key though.

[TTBoo]

Although my situation is a bit different, were both kind of in the same boat, starting tonight.
My girl and I have been together for about 2 years.

She's lived with her mom her entire life... she never had a dad.
Sadly, Her mom passed away at the end of September. Needless to say,
It was the hardest thing she will probably (hopefully) ever go through in her
Life (she is still young, at 17 also). But anyway. We almost ended "us"
Tonight.

You've probably got this one down, but I'm letting you know...
always listen. Be the one she comes to for support... be the
Shoulder she needs... in a situation like hers, she's going to need sum1 to talk
To about her problems... financial. Educational. Personal...
Let her know she has a home with you and your family. Let her know that you're
Willing to go through this with her. Anyway, it's late, I'm rambling. Hope I kind of helped.
I have to fix "Us" tomarrow.

[2008kwc]

Ah I am so sorry to hear about that, wish these things didn't have to happen.

When your parnters mum passed away, did she need space from you? Was she confused and lost as well? Like unsure what she wanted/future things as well?

I will definitely listen when its needed, I'm always trying to be there for her even if she doesn't need help, a chat is still nice. I know she bottles things up a lot, but I know her problems, literally all of them , she has told me.
Im just waiting for her to come to me for advice, I've been just chatting as friends and I can see it is hard for her, as its hard for me too. Patience is the key though.

When your trying to fix the "us" bit just keep cool, think before you act or speak, as you don't want to say something you regret. Keep a cool head, Good luck.

[TTBoo]

Well, when her mom passed she left a lot of unasnwered questions. In my opinion; her mom chose a very... unique way of raising her... but she left us about the time my girl needed to start planning for college.

None of her siblings nor I, (despite my 2 good semesters at a community college), have any kind of expirience with going to college, except her brother who she doesn't talk with much.

She's got a lot of things she needs to figure out. She's a smart girl, she's also very stubborn. The space thing isn't much of an issue. But she's decided to divert all her anger and frustration towards me. It's not as bad as that statement made it seem, but it kind of sucks. Don't get me wrong, she's a sweetheart, she's just really sad and frustrated.

It is very hard being close to someone who has to go through something like this. We seem to be holding our ground though :) Just make sure to keep tabs on her, help her out when it seems she mite need it. Stay in touch like you are, that seems to be going in your favor. Most importantly, just be there. If you are her age you're lucky because I graduated 2 years before my girl so I'm not at school if she needs to get away, I work full time and usually when I could be seeing her. Anyway keep your head up and
GOOD LUCK!!!

[2008kwc]

Update for you all:

We are OVER.
And yet.. I feel so much better.
I can honestly say I've even nearly totally moved on, and our friendship has suddenly resparked.

I've learnt that, smile because it happened. Its another lesson I will take into account like my previous ex's.

And never say forever.

Thank you for all your support!
I will definitely try to help, and will most likely be back here with another problem in the future, hopefully not as complicated as ths one though.

Thanks again =)
x

[homeworkgirl]

Althougt much sympathy for her with knowing I couldn't truly feel what she is going through, I admire your love. You might be not able to do anything to help her at this time, but worrying and caring about her appears to me that it is the real love. Love exists not only in happiness, but also in adversity. Although you both are young, I think more touching is that you share the same sadness now.
Please don't worry because you won't lose her. I feel that you are meant to be arranged together:)
I hope her father would be cured. Please be confident!