[victoriarose]

ok so the guy who ive been crushing on n whos always pickin on me n flirtin w me now knows that i like him. when my friend asked him who he liked "he said no one" n then she told him that i liked him but even tho he knows that i like he still flirts with me n then the other day he comes up 2 me n hugs me n says somethin like "u never talk 2 me anymore..ur like avoiding me or somethin."i mean i guess u could say that was kinda tru,but that was because i didnt kno how 2 act around him.so what should i do?

I think that you should keep flirting with him.. Nothing is ever going to happen if you keep avoiding him.. You never know you guys could be purfect for each other.. I am 22 years old but I still get shy arounnd a guy if I really like him.. Just keep going after him don't give up!

[PrttyBrownEyez21]

OK so I was on myspace today and I got a message from my crushes brother and I don't know what 2 think it,it kind of there me off .hes 19 n in a whole different state but
Here's what it said


Hey what's up my name cj and I'm s' older brother and I came down to watch his state game and I saw you and I was like who's that I wanted to talk to you but you was with you friends so I was like never mind you wouldn't believe what I wnet through to find out who you are I'm not a stalker or anything trust me I just wanted to get to know you if that's all right with you I'm sorry if I come off wrong to you . But I really would like to get to know you as a person so if your willing to take time out of you life to get to know me that would mean a lot. My little brother is sw he;s how I found out who you are I hope you don't mind. P.S think you could send me a friend request??

Does this make it sound like he wants to be my friend or what?my best friend thinks that I should tell my crush about the message and see what he says... what do you think?I need help... idk what to do...

[Silent Breeze]

I think telling your crush may be a good idea. But you have to be very careful; you don't want to cause problems between the two brothers. And you shouldn't make it sound like you are interested in the matter, like you want to meet the guy or something, make it sound like you are curious if he knew or not. Just open up the subject casually, go like, what's your brother's name, or which state is he in or anything. And then when he answers you can go like, "well to be completely honest he sent me a message on myspace and he was like I want to meet you and that he went through a lot to know who I was...." Btw, there was a part I didn't really catch, in the message he left you on myspace, did he mean he got who you were from his little brother, which is your crush? Or from who?
I think you should be honest, honesty can be truly helpful. Just don't give him the wrong impression like you want to meet him or something, go like he sent me this, see how he reacts and stuff, and for the meantime do not add his bro on your friend list and do not reply to him. What if your crush tells you to stay away from his bro and you're like I can't cause I already added him or something. And please be careful not to cause any problems between the two brothers as I said before.
Best of luck girl and keep posting!

[PrttyBrownEyez21]

Yea he found out who I was from his little brother or so he says which just happens to be my crush. But then I asked my friend if she knew him and she said that was a little weird because she's never heard of him and she said she knows there this kid who goes to school near ours and that they call each other brothers but they aren't really and the guy who sent me a message is in a whole different state,so its starting to get sketchy.

[PrttyBrownEyez21]

So today I asked one of my good friends if she knew if my crush had a brother named cj and she said yea. And I was like OK because he sent me a message and I told her what it said and she said yea he does that. So should I think nothing of it and just forget about and not tell my crush or tell him but not make a big deal about it and also what's a good way to ask him if he wants to hang out sun, and like maybe watch the superbowl?

[Silent Breeze]

so today i asked one of my good friends if she knew if my crush had a brother named cj n she said yea. n i was like ok because he sent me a msg n i told her what it said n she said yea he does that. so should i think nothin of it n just forget about n not tell my crush or tell him but not make a big deal about it and also whats a good way to ask him if he wants to hang out sun, n like maybe watch the superbowl?

Since you’re friend knows him and told you he does these things, just forget about it and don’t reply him as if you never read it. But just so you don’t fall into a drama TV series, tell your crush about the message. Tell him you decided to completely ignore it and you don’t care at all about it but you just thought he ought to know cause you don’t want to have any secrets from each other.
I think if you are too shy to ask him straight out, you can slip a note into his locker, it’ll be cute. Go like, “Hey you, I’ve really been wanting to watch the superball and I thought maybe we could grab some (popcorn, ice-cream, whatever) and watch it together, it may be fun. Waiting for a reply, ___ "
And if you feel like you want to tell him straight out you can use the same. You don’t have to use this but at least you have an idea. You can ask him out while you are talking, go like, “By the way, how about we hang out on Sunday and watch the superball together, it might be fun.”
Good luck!

[PrttyBrownEyez21]

Both of those sound like good ideas.my best friend kept telling me to go ask him because it wouldve been the perfect timing.n so then she went and talked to him and told him that he needed to talk to him because I had something I wanted to ask him but was too scared too so now he knows I wann ask him soemthin but he doesn't know what and I think I changed my mind though,I think I'm going to ask him if he would like to the movies Sunday before the superbowl starts because if I ask him 2 watch the superbowl,we're not going to have a place to watch it at and plus I doubt my mom would let me invite anyone over.. especially not a boy.. since I kind of got in trouble today.

[PrttyBrownEyez21]

So today I asked him if he wanted to hang out Sunday and he said he had church and I was like what about after and he said he'd ask.n then I was like how am I going to kno(cuz he cnt text back) n he was like well I have your number so I can call you n I was like OK n I then I said call my house phone because my cell doesn't have many minutes left and so then he said he didn't have that # n that id need to give it to him and then he went to the bathroom and then he came back and then I gave him the #. So does this make it date? I'm thinking about going to a movie because there's this movie coming out today that I really want to c.how am I supposed to act though because I'm afraid that I'll get nervous or something. What am I supposed to do if he does something during the movie like using the old strech then arm around the shoulder move or like tries to hold my hand or something,how am I supposed to respond? Help me...

[LIFHgrl823]

I say you bat those eyelashes and keep smiling.
I think this kid might just like you, and if not, it's fun having a guy treat you with a present :]
Just don't sit by the phone and don't be too anxious, play it cool and smile when he talks to you; guys looove when you smile.

[PrttyBrownEyez21]

So we ended up not hanging out yesterday :(.at school day when I was going into math class he was standing in front of the door and he wouldn't let me by and was like where are you going and I hugged him and then he was like " u kno i didnt get ur text til this mornin" or something like that.n then I asked him if he did the history hw and then I started to ask him about this weekend but the bell was about to ring.then during class when he got up to hand in his test he walked past my desk and like grabbed my side or something like that and I smiled when he did that,but I don't know if he saw it.should I ask him 2 hang out again ,but this time so its not last minute?

[PrttyBrownEyez21]

Yesterday at the end of class,I was walking in the hall and he was in front me and I called his name and he turned around and stopped and then he put his arm around my shoulder and then I put my arm around his waist as usual. And I asked him if he got my text and I asked him what he was doing this weekend and then he told me he got grounded because our math teacher called his parents and told them he had a f in class and so he got grounded and had to quit the wrestling team.is this just bad luck n should I give up or should I patiently wait for him to not be grounded,but who knows how long that's going to be since he was on punishment for so long for that one time. I mean he's such a sweet guy but he stays in trouble with his parents,they're really strict,especially towards him and not his older sister.then today in math when I was talking to my friend and I was walking back to my seat he came in and we went in for a hug and then I leaned back and told my friend what I had said before he came in and then we went back into our hug and it was a really nice hug.. he kept rubbing his hands up and down my back,I guess you know what I mean.is that normal for a guy to do?I mean I like it when he hugs me and stuff.its times like that... that I don't want to stop liking him because we can't hang out because he keeps getting in trouble with his parents.. . help me.. what should I do

[talaniman]

I think you like those hugs so much, your ignoring the obvious. He stays in trouble with his parents a lot. He is failing in his school work. These are red flags!! It means there is something wrong with this "sweet guy"". Start paying attention, to more than his hand around your shoulder, and how good it feels!!

[PrttyBrownEyez21]

So what are you trying to say?that I should stop looking at how much I like him and how he mite like me and start thinking about how much he gets into trouble with his parents and pay more attention to how he is doing in school and try to help him in math?I mean we are in the same class.

[talaniman]

Yes! What I was trying to say is, he may not be as sweet a guy as you may think, and keep your eyes open, and don't be blinded by love so much. You are in a good position to see why he is flunking math, so you know if he knows the material, or is not turning in his home work. Tutoring is good help to give, doing his homework would be absolute proof he is a lazy user. Do you see the difference??

[PrttyBrownEyez21]

I mean I can attest to the fact that no one in my class never really does the hw.. myself included.as far as him knowing the material.. I don't know if he does or not,but sometimes the material can be hard at first.what did you mean when you said "doing his hw would be absolute proof he is a lazy user." did you mean if I was the one who ended up doing his homework for him, instead of tutoring him?

[talaniman]

Yes, but not saying that's the case, just making an observation.

[PrttyBrownEyez21]

Yea I don't think he would do that.love fest is coming up on valentines day... its this thing we have at my school where you can send your friends songs and candy and stuff and I was thinking about sending him something.. would that be appropriate or not?I'm also singing with two of my friends,so we will be singing to people all day who got songs sent to them,I was thinking about singing in class to him but I don't know if I should...

[talaniman]

I think its okay to do what's appropriate. Singing to him in class... may be a little much. Just curious, how you would describe where this thing, you two have, is at right now, just for clarity.

[PrttyBrownEyez21]

Yea I don't think I'm going to sing to him,but I will send him something,but I don't know what yet. To be completely honest I have no idea how to describe where we are at rite now

[talaniman]

Until you can, don't step in to deep. If he cared that, much he would be making it more apparent how he feels, with words and actions. Sorry he has not so far. Just a word of caution. Given what you has written, frankly I don't trust him, but you are there, I'm not. Be honest with yourself, don't you have some doubts about his motives?