[Maggie83]

Yeah I mean all she had to do was tap me on the shoulder, I'm not a nasty person I would have at least given her some polite conversation, but I didn't want to make the first move and look like I was desperate to talk to her

I mean maybe it was a coincidence but it does seem weird that she turned up there it is quite far out of her way

[talaniman]

She probably felt stupid when he was ignoring her as he was listening to his ipod.

Had to spread the love but I think your right LOL!:D

[Maggie83]

I'm not too sure you guys it could have been a coincidence, these things do happen and I couldn't see her car park which may suggest she was dropped of by someone and I've heard nothing from her since... maybe it was just wishful thinking on my part I mean I've heard nothing from her as yet, do I expect some sort of contact in the coming week(s)?

What do I do now nothing? I really don't now what's for the best!

[Maggie83]

Any advice on what I do next folks?

[George_1950]

You wrote: "i mean maybe it was a coincidence but it does seem weird that she turned up there it is quite far out of her way." I don't believe in coincidences.

You wrote: "I didn't want to make the first move and look like I was desperate to talk to her" You aren't desperate; you are one of us.

Advice: When in doubt, NC.

[Maggie83]

I think you right I should go continue with no contact

Well I've just got a new cell phone, I text her the number but just saying this is my new number, she got the same text as my mother so it was nothing special. I know I've broken N/C but I didn't make a direct connection I didn't mention our relationship or make it personal in any way and won't text her again! I wished I hadn't text her at all it was a moment of total stupidity!

Ive left it at that and now it's continued N/C until she breaks it, if she doesn't then so be it

[mafiaangel180]

I think you right i should go continue with no contact

Well ive just got a new cell phone, i text her the number but just saying this is my new number, she got the same text as my mother so it was nothing special. i know ive broken N/C but i didnt make a direct connection i didnt mention our relationship or make it personal in any way and wont text her again! i wished i hadnt text her at all it was a moment of total stupidity!!

Ive left it at that and now it's continued N/C until she breaks it, if she doesnt then so be it

Oh damn, that was a bad move. In my opinion anyway. To me, what you did made a statement. It shows that you don't think highly enough of yourself to think she could possibly get in contact with you without a phone number! If she wants you, she will get ahold of you regardless of knowing your cell phone number. I mean, I know it's the communication age and all, but believe it or not, there is such as thing as her going to your house, contacting one of your relatives perhaps, etc.

[Maggie83]

Your 100% right! Its made me look weak when I was doing so well... I only have myself to blame I should have put some distance between us it may avoid a lot of confusion on my part.

Yeah I know it was stupid! I really wished I hadn't done that all I can say in my defence is that it just looks as if I sent the same text to everyone in my phone book and hers was no different to anyone else's but I still regret it now! I haven't heard anything back from her which I wasn't expecting anyway if I'm being honest.

Ce la vie I can't take it back! Back to N/C!

[talaniman]

That's the very reason its good to delete her number. It only took you seeing her to get a new cell, and contact her, and with such lame excuse. Your trying to get her to call you so, now what? Its one thing to be dishonest with us, but I know your not dishonest with yourself.

maybe it was just wishful thinking on my part I mean I've heard nothing from her as yet, do I expect some sort of contact in the coming week(s)?

You gave her your new number for that exactly, no matter how contrite you say you are.

[Maggie83]

I had already ordered my new cell the day before I saw her, it arrived and I text everyone in my phone book I really wished I hadn't now I mean like you said in previous posts she can send me her spam and mess me about. I think me seeing her made a lot of feelings I thought I had the better of come to the surface and in a moment of weakness I snapped!

I have now deleted her number from my phone and I do not know it so I can no longer text her when drunk, lonely etc.

Back to N/C it's the only thing I can do and I was doing well I'm so disappointed in myself today!

[mafiaangel180]

Your 100% right!! its made me look weak when i was doing so well....i only have myself to blame i should have put some distance between us it may avoid alot of confusion on my part.

yeah i know it was stupid!! i really wished i hadnt done that all i can say in my defence is that it just looks as if i sent the same text to everyone in my phone book and hers was no different to anyone elses but i still regret it now!! i havent heard anything back from her which i wasnt expecting anyway if im being honest.

Ce la vie i can't take it back!! back to N/C!!

Yeah, even though you wanted it to appear that you gave it to everyone, all it shows her is that she is important enough to get your new number. She totally thinks you aren't over her cause putting myself in your ex's shoes, I would be thinking... "he totally wants me." Then I would be getting all full of myself.

[Maggie83]

Well maybe your right (sigh! ) there's nothing I can do now, its back to N/C and I have no real desire to get in touch with her now... I know I shouldn't have done it but its too late, we've all made mistakes and emotionally I'm not in as much turmoil as I have been in the past so that's some progress!

N/C is the only way to bring he back down to earth then so it's that for me from now on (smile)!

[talaniman]

That's the right answer, you'll be okay, just stay on that path.

[Romefalls19]

Keep on the No Contact role, it seems she is testing the waters a bit to see if she still has you on the strings. I could be wrong, but that's how it appears to me from reading. If you stay with No Contact things might get even better... For some reason most women like it when they are ignored... Strange concept.. You give them attention they walk, treat them badly.. They stick around

[Maggie83]

Yeah I think your right I'm moving myself away best I can, I know I made a mistake but its done now and I'm quite comfortable with no contact right now as its helping me get stronger. I'm also getting more comfortable in my own company I don't need someone there all of the time... I just read books whatch movies etc and relax

Well its treat them mean, keep them keen isn't it. The more you push the less they want and the more you pull away they get interested!

[talaniman]

Well its treat them mean, keep them keen isn't it. The more you push the less they want and the more you pull away they get interested!

Naw, not at all. That's a losers lament. A healthy man with a happy balanced life, doesn't have to treat them mean, and keep them keen.

[little firefly]

Well its treat them mean, keep them keen isn't it. The more you push the less they want and the more you pull away they get interested!

As pathetic as it is, and as much as I hate to bash my own gender, that statement is true a majority of the time.

[Romefalls19]

Not treat them mean, but if you play it off and don't pursue.. The flock like birds, but if you give them attention they go elsewhere... That's just what I have seen.

[Maggie83]

No that's just a phrase used in England it doesn't literally mean be mean to them its just like you said not being interested sparks interest!

Less is more so to speak!

[Romefalls19]

Oh OK.. I was like great now people are going to think I treat girls like trash to get them to stick around ha ha