[Jason8676]

Hey!
She texted me again today! This time she asks, "Are you getting me anything for Valentine's Day?" The audacity of her! I hope I don't offend anybody on this sight, but that is like an illegal alien walking up to George W. Bush and asking for a refund check! Point is-she does not deserve anything from me! As soon as I saw that red message light blinking, I thought, "It's either another worthless marketing message or one of her latest attempts to get under my skin." I just ignored it this time even though I was itching to write, "You are seeing somebody else. Why should I?" She is almost like Bin Laden who releases his stupid videos every Sept. 11 and sporadically, trying to scare us. While she is nowhere as repulsive as that vermin, she is doing the same thing that he is doing, just trying to ruffle feathers. I use to see optimism every time she texted me but now I look at it as a way of getting on my nerves. Thanks to all the replies-it is tough to ignore these messages but I'm just going to have to take them for what they are-a nuisance. Thanks again and take care. Jason

[kieranwong]

Treat her messages like those worthless marketing messages then --> delete straightaway! Every one of these things she sends (and you ignore) is throwing her dignity away.

[talaniman]

There's a good idea, send her to spam automatically. Love it, problem solved.

[Jason8676]

Hello,
While working tonight, I continued to pore over my situation. Me and my girlfriend have been broken up nearly six months. Now I know she is seeing somebody else and I can begin to move on, even though she still communicates in the form of meaningless text messages. I've finally realized a way to cope and let things go.
I told myself, "She's not going to come back. She is going to marry somebody else eventually." Like nature, I need to move on and go about life as usual. The sun still rises and sets on a consistent schedule, whether it is over the savannahs of Africa, the Atlantic ocean, or here in the United States-we can be assured that the sun will rise and set. It rose and set the same way back in, say 1978. It rises and sets today in 2008. The seasons continue, the ocean tides continue, thus the creation of God is unchangeable. If some foreign object were top strike the sun, its intense heat would incinerate it. We remember building sand castles on the beach, but long after we leave, the waves smooth it over as if it never existed. Like the sun and ocean, I need to go on as usual. Losing a love hurts, but you need to realize that you are greater than the loss.
Another way of looking at it comes in the form of music. Such masterpieces as Beethoven's 5th Symphony, Mozart's 25th Symphony, Schubert's 4th Symphony, and Tchaikovsky's 6th Symphony were written many, many years ago. Although many artists have made their mark on the world of music, the legacy left by these great masters will forever overshadow them. These works of music are timeless, transcending the gap of space and time, and not one note will ever be altered. Pain should not alter the gift and masterpiece that is your life.
For those of you experiencing pain, don't look at it as an interruption of life, but see it as a speck of dust. Go on with life, enjoy it to its fullest. Nature continues. We must also continue, and make each day greater than the one before it. Take care you all... Jason

[nicki143]

I totally agree with everytghing you say. Also very nicely put

[simoneaugie]

Good thoughts. Thank You Jason.

[ihatewestseneca]

That's good stuff

[Jason8676]

Hey!
Just thought I'd post some of my thoughts-and if they are useful to somebody else, great! I've been in a bit of a slump of all week after finding out that my gut feeling was confirmed-my ex is indeed seeing somebody else. With that came all kinds of thoughts-"is she sleeping with him", etc. Tonight, it finally hit me and it felt like a weight had been lifted off my shoulder. I keep hoping she'll come back, thus I get depressed when I think of her and the new relationship. I've always believed that things happen for a reason-God knew everything that was going to transpire in your life even before you were born. I just finally thought, "What happens will happen. I need to go on and quit worrying about her." My post was coming from the heart-it made me feel good just writing it. Stay strong everybody and take care... Jason

[friend4u178]

Good to hear you've moved to next stage of your recovery Jason , keep moving forward.

[talaniman]

Good post, as it shows that your slowly healing, that's great.

[Tinkerbell24]

When she texts you jason, your on her mind. I did that with this guy I was with for 2 and a half years. Me and him were off and on but the out of no where when I think things are going right he told me he didn't love me anymore. Sometimes all you need is some time from people. Only time will tell if you'll be together or not.

GOOD LUCK

[talaniman]

Old post!

[Jason8676]

Hey Everybody,
I've posted my story on here with my ex earlier this year so for brevity's sake I won't go into it again. Basically, my ex last texted me on June 4 of this year in which she just cracked a lame joke pertaining to what I was getting for my birthday. I ignored it and promptly deleted it, but it still left me aggravated because I told her NEVER to contact me again unless she wanted to reconcile. This was not the first time she violated my wish because on May 7 she sent a stupid text message in which she cracked a joke about the nickname she gave me while we were together. I replied with, "What do you want?" For my query she had no response other than the aforementioned text on June 4. Fast forward to August 24 after nearly 4 months of any contact from me(that is, I've completely disappeared from her life as though I never existed). I was getting ready to sit down and eat at 9:00 P.M. when my phone rang-for about 2 seconds. I looked at the display and it said "No Number". Sometime after 11:00 P.M. it rang again long enough to go to the voice mail. Thus, she left a message cracking another lame joke about her nickname for me but I deleted it before hearing the entire recording and erased any record of the calls. Again, the number was not displayed. My question is: WHY IN THE HECK DID SHE CALL ME?! I've left her alone but I don't understand why she did this other than because she was bored and decided to piss me off. What is the point? I've tried to move on and I'm sure she has so why call me over three months later to crack another stupid joke? I would love to hear what you all think.. thanks.
Jason

[ChihuahuaMomma]

She hasn't gotten over you.

[tabbarat]

I say have phone sex with her

[Jason8676]

ChihuahuaMomma,
Hey! Cute name... thanks for the reply though. Yeah, I was kind of wondering the same thing. I think about my ex everyday and I still obsess over whether I did enough to save the relationship. Me and her have known each other for over 11 years and we even had a child together. We both shared the grief of losing our baby 11 months later to a congenital heart defect. I have been there for her lots of times, bent over backwards for her, forgiven her several times for being unfaithful-you name it. I even proposed to her and made it official by giving her a beautiful ring. I haven't even asked for it back. It aggravates me to no end that all she can do now is make stupid jokes. I wish she would just move on and leave me alone or talk to me about trying again instead of doing this crap. I've dropped out of sight for all intents and purposes-I refuse to even go near the place where she works. Why can't she extend me the same courtesy and leave me alone? I'm trying to find somebody else and I'm sure she already has. To top things off, my dad is dying of heart failure and I told her that in addition to telling her not to contact me again unless she wants to work things out. I'm trying to move on and at the same time I'm witnessing my dad fall apart and she has no respect. Anyway, there is a part of me that wants to believe she is not over me but I tried to make things right between us by sending her several gifts and professing my love back in March and all she could do was thank me and tell me that she liked somebody else. Again, thanks for your reply and take care.
Jason

[Ithappenstoall]

They might be feelings still there, or she might be testing the waters to see how you react. But what you are oding is good, keep ignoring what she does. I have not read your previous post on your relatioship so I do not know much but from the looks of it maybe she is starting to try and get your attention. Maybe starting to regret what she did

[Romefalls19]

She wants to know what you've been up too, perhaps to have a friendship or the guilt of what she has done set in. Don't break NC, you're doing great buddy! Keep it up!

[talaniman]

Your saving a lot of confusion, and drama, on your part, by standing strong for yourself, and leaving her alone.

As you see, a few simple calls by her, have raised a few questions, just think if you started to talk to her again, or hang out! Stay on the path and heal, and let her heal also. Thats what you both need right now.

[Jason8676]

Ithappenstoall, Romefalls 19, and talaniman-
Hey! Thanks for the input. I'm going straight ahead with No Contact and not looking back. The breakup with my ex was not hostile in any way-she just decided about a year ago to abandon the relationship with me and start dating other people. She had some depression issues so I can only ascertain that she grew bored with me and wanted an exciting new relationship instead of stuffy, conservative me. She didn't appreciate what I was all about but I know there is somebody out there who will. I have no interest in being her friend now or at any point in the future.I have shared too much of myself to just be "friendzoned". During this time I have tried to put the focus on myself and it seems that I have gotten myself back as well. I am rediscovering old hobbies, planning on going to back to school and finally finishing my degree, and spoiling myself on the side as well. She's with somebody else and no doubt sleeping with her new love, but unlike her I am staying pure for someone new and I am definitely going to be picky about who I will date. There's no telling if she'll contact again but I'm sticking to what I promised her and leaving her alone.
Take Care Everybody,
Jason