[s_cianci]

Send her a simple get well card, similar to what you'd do for a fellow employee or other casual acquaintance in the same situation. Leave it at that.

[chris28]

Yea I hear you maybee I will do that send her something small if she contacts me to tell me otherwise I tried and that's all I can do!

[friend4u178]

Yep I agree

[chris08]

I've had a pretty bad weekend. Basically here is my drunken text rants, feel free to comment. But I think I've blown it and I'm devastated. Why did I do this?

Me: "Im sorry if i was a bad boyfriend, i would do anything to make u happy again! I really mean that."
Her: "Just leave it now it wasnt meant to be."
Me: "But I don't believe that, i still think that im the one for you. You know me, what would i ever do to u? I love you, I really do."
Her: "I dont think you are. Im not the one for you give up on me . Im not the person you think i am anymore."
Me: Ok. I guess this is the real end. I will never forget you. Never. I saw you with me forever I know you did too. Im gutted its turned out like this. You'll be in my heart forever, that's how I feel towards you."
her: "I don't know what to say apart from you will find someone else."
me: "I don't know what to say either."
her: "There is nothing you can say."
me: There's a lot of things I could say. I just wish you'd feel the way i feel about you. Like i said before, if we were meant to be then it wud happen. I wont deny the feelings i have for u tho. I can't do much else."

Help.
Has anyone ever been through something similar?

[Homegirl 50]

Well you've had your rant, the score is still the same, you need to get over this and move on. This young lady is finished with you. She is moving on and wants you to as well.

[chris08]

I feel even worse after letting it all out. I thought it might of made me feel better. What a big mistake.

[Homegirl 50]

Well you can't undo it that's for sure. The only thing that will make you feel better is time and concentrate on other things.

[jolienoire]

I've had a pretty bad weekend. Basically here is my drunken text rants, feel free to comment. But I think i've blown it and i'm devastated. Why did i do this?

me: "Im sorry if i was a bad boyfriend, i would do anything to make u happy again! I really mean that."
her: "Just leave it now it wasnt meant to be."
me: "But I don't believe that, i still think that im the one for you. You know me, what would i ever do to u? I love you, I really do."
her: "I dont think you are. Im not the one for you give up on me . Im not the person you think i am anymore."
me: Ok. I guess this is the real end. I will never forget you. Never. I saw you with me forever i know u did too. Im gutted its turned out like this. You'll be in my heart forever, thats how i feel towards you."
her: "I dont know what to say apart from you will find someone else."
me: "I dont know what to say either."
her: "There is nothing you can say."
me: There's a lot of things I could say. I just wish you'd feel the way i feel about you. Like i said before, if we were meant to be then it wud happen. I wont deny the feelings i have for u tho. I can't do much else."

Help.
Has anyone ever been through something similar?

Well,
You did it because you wanted to know if there were any feelings left in her, because that question of "WHAT IF" has been taunting you for the whole time you didn't maintain contact. I think you just got the closure you needed and although it may hurt, you will look back on this and see the good in this.. If someone tells you they are not the same person, We should really listen to them... Let's say even if she was to get back with you because time has passed and you and her were not together the relationship would have never gone back to what it use to be! And sometimes we make things out far more better to be than what they actually are...


Don’t commit to anyone who is not giving you all you want DO NOT lower your standards.

The reality is she may not be the woman you want her to be, or NEED to be with... What you had with her was one of love's lessons..

If he/she wants you nothing can’t keep them away
If they don’t want you nothing can make them stay

[chris08]

I understand. Thanks. It feels better knowing someone else knows/understands what's happening here. She has really confused me, I really do feel scared of another relationship, not with her, but with anyone. Scared of just getting hurt again. I think it's really put me off.

[jolienoire]

Experiences of love and lost

Were settling is a matter of personal pride

Not one of financial cost

As tears run down his face

The taste of saline sprinkles his lips

He looks at his hand

His wrist

His palm

Most importantly his fingertips

The most delicate sensory part

Of his entire hand

The one that differentiates

Hot from Cold

Hard from Soft

In this essential component

Of the machine of man

He stares at his fingertips

An epiphany blinds his eyes

At that moment

He begins to realize

That his fingertips

Are like life's lows and highs

From the arrogance of the Middle Finger

Defiant, on top, confident

Brash and Bold

To the Index Finger

The median of his life

That is always in control

From the deceptive height

Of Ring Finger love

To the inadequacy of rejection

Resulting in the short

Awkward Pinky stub.

He realized he lived his life

Traveling on his fingertips

He would stay at one for a period

Then often forced to make a trip

Then he examined his life

Which previously appeared

To be in complete control

And began to wonder how he got to this point

To the feeling that he has lost his Soul

His Spirit

His Love

His Peace

His Sleep

Then he realized

That he

Is Thumb Deep.

He has reached his lowest point

With nowhere else to fall

And the way to reach the control

Of the Index

Is to curl is fingers into a ball

Into a fist

And fight for his happiness

With his everything

With his all.

[chris28]

Man listen I broke down onece and texted I didn't say as much but I said what I wanted to. Sometimes it take saying your feelings to move on. From what she said that's it, there's no chance and she doesn't even want to try. There isn't anything anymore you can do you did what you felt is right and that's what's most important to you. Now if you do anymore your only hurting yourself and pushing her further cause she probably feels guilty now or mad that your putting her in this position. Again I don't think what you did was wrong it will become wrong VERY wrong if you contact her again man... Don't do it feel good that you got some sort of closure.

[chris08]

I understand you man. Yeh I definitely broke down, first time since the actual break up where I broke down in front of her face. 3 weeks ago. Times are tough, I'm fine if I'm out with my friends or doing something which takes my mind off her, but it's the times when I'm watching TV on my own or at work day dreaming if you know what I mean. I wish it would just all go away, I hate relationships, why do they always end in hurt? I'm really put off with them now, I don't think I could handle another one like this.

[jolienoire]

I understand you man. Yeh i definately broke down, first time since the actual break up where i broke down infront of her face. 3 weeks ago. Times are tough, i'm fine if i'm out with my friends or doing something which takes my mind off her, but its the times when im watching tv on my own or at work day dreaming if you know what i mean. I wish it would just all go away, i hate relationships, why do they always end in hurt? I'm really put off with them now, i don't think i could handle another one like this.

I know that it hurts, but it is a part of growing and learning, so you can be more cautious the next time around.. It doesn't mean you have to live your life bitter because one relationship went sour. Of course you will think of her, and as time passes you will began to get better day and day.. I think you are missing her because you got use to being around her. This is what happens when you get in relationships and spend everyday together, not allowing space.. People can not do to us in which we allow them to do...
I made some rules for myself for the next relationship...

If someone wants you


If he/she wants you nothing can’t keep them away
If they don’t want you nothing can make them stay
The volume on your intuition is turned up don’t ignore it
Don’t make justification for their improper behavior
If they mistreated you why are you moping around as if they were the best thing in the universe? (Unless you like the abuse which I highly doubt)
Don’t try to change yourself in the liking of your mate.
Don’t try to make them happy if you are not happy.
If someone is mistreated you in your relationship and want to remain friends decline! Friends don’t mistreat friends.
Don’t stay with the hopes it will get better, you will only resent it in the long run, and dwindle in misery for letting time pass.
Don’t share friends, your partner friends should not be your friends.
Always be true speak your mind to your mate
You can’t change anyone’s behavior they have to change themselves
Don’t ever put your partner on a pedestal and make them more important than you are.
If they cheated with you they will cheat on you!
Don’t always be responsible for arguments even when you know they are wrong
Never look for someone to complete you, each person need to be THEIR own individual. Someone complimentary not supplementary.
There is nothing wrong with dating..
Don’t always be available to your partner; give each other space they will come around when they miss you.
Don’t commit to anyone who is not giving you all you want DO NOT lower your standards.
Don’t let anyone manipulate your mental state by telling you what you want to hear instead of showing you what you need to see.
Don’t neglect your hygiene and wonder why he/she don’t want to get intimate with you.
Don’t stalk, harass, pry into your partner’s personal life looking for signs you may find what you deserve.. Curiosity killed the cat!

[chris08]

Man listen I broke down onece and texted I didnt say as much but I said what I wanted to. Sometimes it take saying ur feelings to move on. From what she said thats it, theres no chance and she doesnt even want to try. There isnt anything anymore you can do you did what u felt is right and thats whats most important to you. Now if you do anymore your only hurting urself and pushing her further cause she probably feels guilty now or mad that your putting her in this position. Again I dont think what you did was wrong it will become wrong VERY wrong if you contact her again man.... Dont do it feel good that you got some sort of closure.

I've made a closure on it all I think. I'm not going to contact her. I've had my rant and rave haven't I? Nobody but her will know if it has pushed me further away from her. I just really hate these words though... "you will find someone else." and "im not the same person anymore, im not the one for you." When she called me I could tell by the sound and attitude of her voice that she was different, seemed to be really stressed out with everything. I hope time does the business.

I really wish I didn't have to keep messaging on this site, but such is life; the pain remains at present but the smile has now returned to my face, all be it mixed together with a tear or two at time.

[friend4u178]

I really wish i didn't have to keep messaging on this site, but such is life; the pain remains at present but the smile has now returned to my face, all be it mixed together with a tear or two at time.

You keep messaging here chris , that's what its all about , seems like you have your head screwed on right and you just have to let time take care of all this.

[chris28]

Yes I come here and feel better it helps man. And I feel you its totally normal I feel like you are telling my story were all human it works almost the same for all of us.

[chris08]

You keep messaging here chris , thats what its all about , seems like you have your head screwed on right and you just have to let time take care of all this.

Sometimes I feel like screwing it off. Lol.

Thanks anyway :)

[chris28]

Do not do that stay here talk that's what everyone is here for HELP!!
And it does help!

It does help me definite

[chris08]

I know mate don't worry, I'd never beat myself up over a girl, I never have and never will. Isn't worth it, is it? So let's enjoy single life and take each day as it comes, I'm determined to get through this, time will be my best friend.

[chris28]

Exactly now your talking!!