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startover22 · May 19, 2007, 11:21 AM

Hey you beautiful friends, how are you today? Went to the school carnival with my daughter, she is only 10. But I noticed that she is way too grown up. I haven't gotten to see her in her social aspect in a very long time, and wow. What do I do know? She is absolutely beautiful and I am scared to death. They all just follow her around like she knows what she is doing and the boys, OMGosh. She has started all the physical stuff a little early, not all there yet, but she is on her way to becoming a lady. I am very proud of her but worried at the same time. I really want to stay in the right direction. I see so many girls that turn around 11 or 12 into something, I can't recognize. Oh, I am going on and on. I hope you all are great.

JoeCanada76 · May 19, 2007, 11:31 AM

Start - I am better now that I had some rest. Last night was the most trying night with little Joshua. He was waking up every 20 minutes and screaming and crying. Eighter gas and teething or both. We were topping him off with pain medication but nothing seemed to work. He was very very clingy and crying with everything. Nothing seemed to work to settle him down. Finally got him to sleep around 2 am.

It is weird, I here it all the time now that teenagers start so much younger then years ago. I just hope that if my wife and I get pregnant again. If we have a little girl that my little boy will follow her like a shadow and protect his little sister. So I do not look like that bad father all the time spoiling her fun. Lol

Anyway, I hope you are doing great, and that everybody is doing great this weekend. Hope all is well and be proud of your daughter. (; (; (;

Joe

curlybenswife · May 20, 2007, 09:21 AM

Hello my lovelys I hope your all having a good weekend ours has been a little crazy but fun glad to be home though.
Lots of love and hugs xxxxxxxx

startover22 · May 20, 2007, 02:37 PM

Thanks Joe, yes a girl is hard. But VERY rewarding. I get so excited with her, I love the intamate conversations between us and the secrets we share. She has an older brother and two younger. I hate to say that her and her older brother don't get along so well, but the two younger ones are completely in love with her. They would protect her under any circumstances. I just can't believe how big she is now!

I hope you have a beter nights sleep, that poor baby. I am sorry you are not sleeping very good. Good day to all of you!

chippers · May 20, 2007, 10:13 PM

Hi everyone. I've been kind of busy this weekend and I'm sorry I've missed everyone. Start, I'm so proud of you for getting through this week. I know from personal experience it's one of the toughest to get through. But you did!! I know what it's like to have time like that with a girl. I have no girls of my own and my niece and I share secrets and talk. I just wish I could get her out of the goth look. She's insistant on whereing black and she's a gorgous redhead.
Joe, I'm glad you got some rest and are no longer babbling. It's easier to understand you that way. Hehe
My father will be moving back to nj sooner than next year. Like maybe this August. I'm relieved that he'll be closer.
Turns out he knows a lady or has known a lady for 14 years. He calls er his lady friend.
I'm not sure how to accept it. Mom's only been gone for almost 2 months. I think it's too early but I wasn't married for 46 years and I don't know what the kind of loneliness feels like. He told me it's hard for him to spend time alone and hard cooking for himself.
It kind of breaks my heart to see him like this yet to me it's so soon after losing my mom.
He's 69 years old and has a right to be happy. I kind of expected this but not so soon.
Mournin g periods must be different as you grow older.
I can't hold anything against him because I haven't accepted her death yet. I still feel her near. And maybe neither has he.
I'm sorry to burden you guys with this but I had to get it off my chest. I knew I could come here and get honest answers. And I feel a little better.

JoeCanada76 · May 20, 2007, 10:25 PM

I did not realise I was babbling before? Hmmm, Guess we all do it sometimes and do not even know it. Lol

I guess if I do, do that. It is not too often. I want you all to be able to understand what I am talking about.

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chippers · May 20, 2007, 10:28 PM

I guess it wasn't the right word. But b eing sleep deprived will have you doing anything

JoeCanada76 · May 20, 2007, 10:31 PM

Babbling is the right word, especially since I am probably picking it up babbling from my little buddy Joshua. Hee Hee (;

Allheart · May 21, 2007, 12:41 AM

Originally Posted by chippers

Hi everyone. I've been kinda busy this weekend and I'm sorry I've missed everyone. Start, I'm so proud of you for getting through this week. I know from personal experience it's one of the toughest to get through. but you did!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I know what it's like to have time like that with a girl. I have no girls of my own and my neice and I share secrets and talk. I just wish I could get her out of the goth look. she's insistant on whereing black and she's a gorgous redhead.
Joe, I'm glad you got some rest and are no longer babbling. it's easier to understand you that way. hehe
my father will be moving back to nj sooner than next year. like maybe this august. I'm releived that he'll be closer.
turns out he knows a lady or has known a lady for 14 years. he calls er his lady friend.
I'm not sure how to accept it. mom's only been gone for almost 2 months. I think it's too early but I wasn't married for 46 years and I don't know what the kind of loneliness feels like. He told me it's hard for him to spend time alone and hard cooking for himself.
It kinda breaks my heart to see him like this yet to me it's so soon after loosing my mom.
He's 69 years old and has a right to be happy. I kind of expected this but not so soon.
mournin g periods must be different as you grow older.
I can't hold anything against him because I haven't accepted her death yet. I still feel her near. and maybe neither has he.
I'm sorry to burden you guys with this but I had to get it off my chest. I knew I could come here and get honest answers. and I feel a little better.

Oh my Sweet Chippers - Believe you me, I understand somewhat how you feel. When my favorite Aunt passed away, I worried terrible how my Uncle would do as she doted on him hand and foot. My Aunt was more like our Mom or Grandma. Well, I'll be spinkle spankle, if he didn't go off to Florida a month later and find himself a "lady" friend. I think my mouth is still swung open from it. But I think what happens Chippers, mostly with men, it's the companionship. Your Mom has his heart and always will. No one will ever have that spot. Believe it or not, your Mom probably would want someone to "look after" your Dad. My heart and hugs goes out to you Chippers.

Hope everyone else is doing well.

Love you all.

JoeCanada76 · May 21, 2007, 01:09 AM

Originally Posted by chippers

Hi everyone. I've been kinda busy this weekend and I'm sorry I've missed everyone. Start, I'm so proud of you for getting through this week. I know from personal experience it's one of the toughest to get through. but you did!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I know what it's like to have time like that with a girl. I have no girls of my own and my neice and I share secrets and talk. I just wish I could get her out of the goth look. she's insistant on whereing black and she's a gorgous redhead.
Joe, I'm glad you got some rest and are no longer babbling. it's easier to understand you that way. hehe
my father will be moving back to nj sooner than next year. like maybe this august. I'm releived that he'll be closer.
turns out he knows a lady or has known a lady for 14 years. he calls er his lady friend.
I'm not sure how to accept it. mom's only been gone for almost 2 months. I think it's too early but I wasn't married for 46 years and I don't know what the kind of loneliness feels like. He told me it's hard for him to spend time alone and hard cooking for himself.
It kinda breaks my heart to see him like this yet to me it's so soon after loosing my mom.
He's 69 years old and has a right to be happy. I kind of expected this but not so soon.
mournin g periods must be different as you grow older.
I can't hold anything against him because I haven't accepted her death yet. I still feel her near. and maybe neither has he.
I'm sorry to burden you guys with this but I had to get it off my chest. I knew I could come here and get honest answers. and I feel a little better.

Chippers, I was so out of it early and I want to appologize. I personally feel that it helps a great deal just by writing down your thoughts and feelings, and as you know this is the best place to do it. I hope I did not look insensitive to what you wrote about your father and mom and how you were feeling, I just wanted to keep my response lighter at the time and I just wanted to let you know that it is very important that you share your thoughts and feelings. I just want to say that your mom would want your father to be happy and he is dealing with this as best he can just like you are. I am hoping that your waking up to beautiful songs in your heart and a smile from us our family to your family. Always hoping for the best.

Joe

curlybenswife · May 21, 2007, 01:32 AM

Good morning my lovelys hope you are all well on this very grey looking Monday morning,
Its grey and cloudy here this morning :(
AH where you been hiding hunny hope your OK how is special angel?
Chippers your grief will always be there just in different stages hugs sweety xxx
Syn I hope you had a relaxing weekend lots of hugs
Start well done on your first week you must feel so proud xx
Joe I didn't notice you babbling but then I've been horribly pre occupied here all will become clear in time :)
Moo hope your well sweety xxxx
Al I hope your well too hunny and looking after that bump ;)

startover22 · May 21, 2007, 07:46 AM

Hi everyone, thanks for the nice words. Yes it has been rough, and last night my husband said he was proud of me. WOW! You know Chippers, I can unserstand that it seems too soon for dad to have another woman in his life. But your mom will always be in his heart just like ALLHEART said. She is right. I am happy that he doesn't have to be lonely. Joe, it is good to see you are resting. CBW I hope your feeling way better than last week, you deserve to have a good day! Synnen, I hope you have the best work week ever. And if everything shuts down, I hope your computer is the only one with internet! Moo, have a lovely day! And where is Alkaline? I shot out my back last night, so I guess I will let the kids have a run at the house and I will eat junk food and drink lot's of water. OUCH!

alkalineangel · May 21, 2007, 12:00 PM

I am thinking of you Chippers...

chippers · May 21, 2007, 09:15 PM

I'm in shock. Not about my father but of the outpouring of support from my wonderful friends.
AH I swear you are from heaven because only an angel could speak the way you do.
Joe, I would never think that about you and I hope you know it. A little levity does a world good.
Start, how did it feel when hubby said he was proud of you? Better yet, how proud are you of yourself? You reached a mile stone and have every reason to celebrate it. Treat yourself to something special like a manicure or eyeb row waxing. Mark each week with a reward and celebrate who you are a goddess. Just as we all are. Joe is a demi god, here for the other half. Hehe. Thank you for your words of encouragement.
As a daughter, I don't want my dad lonely or sad. It's hard seeing him alone and that bothers me. He tells me his lady friend is nice. She better be or she'll have me to deal with.
I'm sure my mom would want him happy and not to mourn her. They were together for 46 years in today's world marriages last 46 minutes. (so I read the gossip rags)
I don't think it's wrong either for him to have someone else. It's just hard to see him with someone else.
Dad says she's nervous about meeting me. I told him to tell her I file my fangs daily. That I'm not looking for a mother figure but someone who'll be nice to him.

Thank you all for your wonderful advise. I knew you would answer what I couldn't.

Hugs and chocolate

chippers

Synnen · May 22, 2007, 05:06 AM

Chippers,

You know that if she's not nice to your dad, she won't have JUST you to deal with, right?

We'll all be lined up with you.

alkalineangel · May 22, 2007, 05:23 AM

Yes, I have sharp claws...

Synnen · May 22, 2007, 06:13 AM

I just have a pipe wrench.

But I know how to use it!

alkalineangel · May 22, 2007, 06:31 AM

Myself...

Synnen: In the Parlor with the Wrench...

Synnen · May 22, 2007, 06:37 AM

Just remember... I look more like Miss Scarlette than I do Mrs. Peacock!

startover22 · May 22, 2007, 08:49 AM

Chippers, I meant fangs, I guess I am used to people filing their nails not fangs so it came out like that. Sorry. Hi guys, hope all is good today! I don't think Chippers will have anything to worry about. If she is nervous to meet you then she is thinking about the same things as you! I am still laid up with the stupid back. I don't know whether to go to a chiropracter or a doctor. I don't like doing either of them but I might have to. Hope you all have a nice day! Hugs to all.